• I'm completely sexually incompatible with my boyfriend.

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    Yeh I agree with Avrielle, And also have my own theory...

    One, Like Avrielle said, He could be doing it simply to remind himself of the reasons why he hates such women.

    On the other hand, It could simply be a form of fantasy.

    I'm going out of my confidence zone here for a moment...

    My fiance found me watching gay porn once a while back and immediately thought I was either going that way or already was ( Not that there's anything wrong with that !!! )

    Anyways, After she calmed down I explained to her it was merely fantasy for me, Watching and getting turned on by something that for me is/was going totally against the grain of who I am...

    Confusing I know! lol

    Basically what I'm trying to say is when I watch porn, I sometimes watch certain kinds of porn that have no real life bearing on my sexuality and/or my sexual preferences.

    Hopefully other kind people may beable to ellaborate on what I've said further.

    I even have a favourite porn actress, But guarenteed if she were to walk in the room and offer herself to me, I would turn the offer down, No matter how tempting.

    It also comes down to your personal acceptance of porn, My fiance if I'm honest hates porn and hates me watching it more so.

    Maybe you could find something you would enjoy watching and watch it together???

    Sorry If I have babbled or not made sense.... Just trying to help from a male perspective.

    All the best, P ;)

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    Remember how successful communication was for you? Give it another go! Ask him, be careful not to shame or accuse him but ask him if it was just general porn to do a job or if he finds that attractive.

    Anymore questions or if I've explained it badly just ask.

    This is actually a very good point...

    When 'J' confronted me in the past for watching porn I immediately felt very guilty and went into my shell, Didn't help either of us, Just try to come at it from a relaxed and 'reseptive'? angle. Hope that helps? ;)

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    I wouldn't worry about the plastic women with fake boobs. Like the others have said, most pornstars are 90% silicone, so that would probably explain it. As far as his search choices, it could be that he's only heard of a few names, or maybe there are other aspects of them that he finds attractive. Personally, its not boobs, bum or legs that I look for when getting my jollys, it the face. I like pretty women, and if they have eyes I could drown in, then all the better. Maybe there are more subtle features there are do remind him of you, or maybe they are nothing like you at all. It's only fantasy after all. I wouldn't get too wound up over it.

    I'm glad you've managed to have a chat about the incident the other day. My situation is the other way round, as my drive is much higher than my wifes, so I know what it's like to be wanting more all the time. Conversely, I can't understand how any guy wouldn't want to have as much sex with his partner as possible, but I guess a medical condition would be the only thing that would stop me at the moment!

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