1. Do you discuss sex/sex toys with your friends?

    bunny o.a.s.d [sign in to see picture]
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    Yeah I talk about sex to my mates and about what toy is the best even tell them what they are doing wrong too

    bunny o.a.s.d [sign in to see picture]
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    Best thing my mates are never open to discussion about their sex lives until a few drinks then that's my mark to strike and the stuff they haven't tried or heard of before blows their head and tell them about toys I got even shown them my baby my bondage headboard I made in work

    WandA [sign in to see picture]
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    As much is as useful.

    I don't really have limits in so far as telling friends something that might be good advice or is topical but as long as I don't sound like a show offy nob I'll share most stuff.

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    I share very little - it's just not a subject that gets brought up. In a way I like having something for "me" although sometimes I'd like to share things.

    I guess its one of those things - my friends would prob be shocked if I started talking about sex.

    Just Jenson [sign in to see picture]
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    with some friends yes, others no.

    depends on which group of friends im with.

    luckily my gf is from the group of friends who i do talk about sex with and so we can all happily talk and sometimes have played together too!

    if the other group knew they'd be horrified (though secretly envious too i bet!)

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    My answer to the question is "yes", although only in a generalised way rather than discussing any intimate details.

    Much to my surprise, female friends have spontaneously raised the subject of sex with me several times. I feel flattered on two counts. First, I'm generally perceived as straight-laced (dare I say dull?), so I'm delighted that close friends see me in a different light. Secondly, I don't think that women would start this sort of conversation with a bloke unless they were confident that it wouldn't be misconstrued.

    I've learnt a lot as a result -- not least about my friends and the things that I had no idea they were into. I think they've also been pleased to confirm that I'm broad-minded, open to new ideas and keen to learn. Indeed, I'm sure thst some of the naughtiest ideas that go around in my head now were planted there by a female friend whom I discovered to have a wonderfully filthy mind.

    One memorable example was when a friend suddenly asked me if I knew anything about vibrators, as hers had recently broken and she wanted to get a new one. I explained to her my (fairly detailed) understanding of the different types. Later, on a whim, I ordered one to be sent to her as a gift. I spent the next 48 hours worrying that I'd made a terrible mistake. It was fine, though. I had a very thankful e-mail back from my friend to say that receiving it had been a lovely surprise which had made her giggle with delight. She also said that she had already tested it (in her words, "successfully").

    jass [sign in to see picture]
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    thats good that you gift was well received CH. I made the mistake of mentioning phone sex to one of my closest male friends. Ive never heard the last of it lol, although I suspect he may be slightly curious. Never again.

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    Now having babies and raising children are a fading memory that I turn on at will, isn't having a goss about sex what 'lunch with the girls' is all about?

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    Sometimes we talk about it at work but generally no, I think alot of people are just curious about what other people do, but in real like I dont really feel the need to shout to the world about what we do or don't do so don't tend to say to much and just chuckle to myself about things when they are talking about it.

    Cuddly Hubby [sign in to see picture]
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    There's another aspect to this for me.

    If a conversation with a friend moves on to the subject of sex, then I sometimes find myself getting excited at the thought of them having hot times themselves or with their partners. I hope that I'm not alone in that! Now, I adore my friends, but I don't have the hots for them, so I just go along with the flow and talk openly. I've been quite surprised at what we've then found ourselves discussing.

    I assume that most women wouldn't start this sort of conversation with a bloke unless they felt very confident about the basis of our friendship. I'm sure that they must have noticed me getting a bit... umm... fidgety at times, but they haven't seemed offended. Indeed, I've sometimes wondered whether they're teasing me deliberately for fun because they know that it's "safe".

    Does anyone else recognise this? How should I feel about it?

    Despina Rose [sign in to see picture]
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    Some friends yes, but not all.

    My two closest ones I share everything with and have given them a lot of tips and information, in addition some toys as well.

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    I do talk about sex with my closest friends. Usually, they start the convo and it's a query/incidence/problem then we talk about it and then we usually laugh about it if it's appropriate to. We do not talk about it all the time just whenever.

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    I only have about 3 actual people I call friends and they know everything in detail 90% of the time lol but I also talk sex to lots of other people I know and family and I show just about everyone if I get a new toy, even the more conservative ones are pretty used to me now lol..

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    I have some friends I talk to about everything, some that I don't. Some people know I'm kinky and some think I'm very respectable - lol. My close friends talk about sex and I've taken a couple of them for their first sex toy shopping experience. They are the ones that tend to share the most details. I have another friend who texts me everytime he has had an excellent session and is proud of what he's been up to. I don't talk about details that involve OH - he's much more shy than me. I've just realised that it's almost evenly split between men and women who I am very open with. I like knowing what other people like.

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    I only talk it about it to my two friends that dont get all disturbed the minute you say something about sex toys its mainly explainig the ins and outs of anl . However my other friend who I only talk to through web cam and the xbox.openly discuss everything and anything and now and again I even show him some of the stuff I have.

    Ultimately though has to be said the two I talk to about these things are not your average folk in fact you might say there a little insane however my other friends not normal thems selves get all awkward even when you only bring up straight stuff you cant even discuss porn openly with some of them.

    transsexmom [sign in to see picture]
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    I have no problem talking about sex & sex toys with my friends we consistently talk about what we get up to with our partners, techniques we have tried how good they are or bad we talk about masturbation & sexy lingerie what turns us & our partners on, we even tell each other about erotic films we have seen & what happend afterwoods.

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    Yes , i too have no problem discussing sex toys with friends in fact i enjoy it. I also enjoy telling K about it when he is away on his trips. I like to think of him thinking about it whilst he is all alone in his room.

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    Nope. Just on the LH forums.

    Cuddly Hubby [sign in to see picture]
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    Avrielle_Aniko wrote:

    But I don't feel comfortable with talking about what sex toy I used last night, or things like that. I used to have a good friend who we would talk about all sorts of things about, but often talking about what our boyfriends liked rather than what we liked. For instance, she would tell me about how her boyfriend hid her giant pink vibrator when he went away for a weekend! Heh. Drove her mad! But never talked to eachother about the vibrators performance or anything like that... strangely!

    I don't think that's strange! When I bought the vibrator for my friend, I didn't feel able to ask her directly what sort of stimulation she preferred. Even though she's a good friend, that would have seemed intrusive and pervy to me. Instead, I asked her about the one that she had broken.

    Ironically, my friend then chose to tell me in unexpected detail about the features that she liked on her old vibrator and the way that she had used it -- but that was entirely her choice. As it turned out, part of the reason why I then went ahead and placed the order was that I'd been given a clear prescription of her requirement. (I think this friend would be very much at home on this forum!)

    When I've discussed sex with friends, I've never been explicit about my own or my wife's behaviour. Again, that would seem out-of-place to me. Instead, I've been happy to talk in general terms about techniques, toys and preferences. Inevitably, I've read between the lines of the conversation, and I imagine that my friends have done the same, but that seems okay to me (and is actually part of the fun!).

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