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    telemachus [sign in to see picture]
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    Pigeon? I think you mean pheasant. One would not know the smell of such a beast.

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    WandA [sign in to see picture]
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    telemachus wrote:

    Pigeon? I think you mean pheasant. One would not know the smell of such a beast.

    Well, he has had pigeon for lunch.

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    WandA wrote:

    Well, he has had pigeon for lunch.

    Can't taste as good as Zebra, that stuffs immense.

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    Muz333 wrote:

    WandA wrote:

    Well, he has had pigeon for lunch.

    Can't taste as good as Zebra, that stuffs immense.

    Not that popular though. You lose it when you drizzle zebra gravy over your porcelain.

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    i've experimented doing bi things, but have only told a few people i know. they are fine with it. but one of those things. just tell people when its needed if not. you have your own life, and can keep things private

    :)

    shauny

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    telemachus [sign in to see picture]
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    WandA wrote:

    telemachus wrote:

    Pigeon? I think you mean pheasant. One would not know the smell of such a beast.

    Well, he has had pigeon for lunch.

    Only when Nick's around

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    Great quote from BiFurious:

    It also got me thinking again about the trope that most bisexuals will eventually “choose one” by settling down in a monogamous relationship with a person who, presumably, has a gender. And while this is not necessarily true… I’m frustrated by the way people react to it when it is true. Bisexuals who settle down with either a man or a woman are not finally choosing a side, admitting to being either straight or gay. This seems so obvious to me, yet seems to escape most people. Choosing monogamy is just that — choosing monogamy. That’s all.

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    LoveHoney - Hella Rouge wrote:

    I have NEVER fallen in love with a woman, but I have slept with over a hundred of them.

    Wow, the straight women has already slept with more women than I could possibly come close to in my life. Good on you. :)

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    LoveHoney - Hella Rouge wrote:

    Haha, we're getting in deep here.

    Let's go with: FETISH - An object, circumstance or conditional factor that causes a habitual erotic response or fixation.

    I think I'm guilty of objectifying women as sexual beings much in the same way as I objectify a rubber catsuit. I love to look at it, touch it, wear it for a while and get my kicks and then 'chuck it in a drawer'. Only difference being I'm probably nicer to the catsuit. Just as well I've long called veto on intimate relations with women, I really don't think with me that it's any more than a fetish, no different to splosh, latex etc. Maybe I'm judging myself way too harshly, but I think I've smacked the nail with the proverbial hammer in the catsuit comment.

    Can we not just describe every thing that gives us a kick as a fetish? I have a fetish for ladies....

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    LoveHoney - Hella Rouge wrote:

    I've got a question.

    Do you think it's possible that instead of someone being bisexual, they could have a fetish for the same sex?

    I find women incredibly frustrating creatures to be in a relationship with and I have NEVER fallen in love with a woman, but I have slept with over a hundred of them. Fact is that they're purely sexual creatures to me, I haven't met a women yet that I could fall for. Seems by my own definition, I have a fetish for sleeping with chicks.

    That fits with me (although obviously with a little less of the real experience, poor me!). I settled on being 'straight', because I cannot honestly see me ever finding a woman attractive in a real relationship way, but I can find plenty of them arousing and even be willing to engage in a purely sexual thing. I have dated girls, but all in a very young and innocent way; I've messed around with plenty, but never managed to get much past the kiss-n-grope stage (not by my choice, stupid other people!). I don't like the idea of claiming I'm bi when I 'know' that I won't ever fall for and settle down with a woman; I don't like bi-curious, because it's not a curiosity, it's an attraction, albeit on a strictly physical level; straight works, but it doesn't allow for the attraction.

    I like 'straight but with a fetish for chicks'. Feels more comfortable than any of the other labels.

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    I think that as people we are sexual before we identify as bi, straight, gay, queer, whatevs. The boxes are too restricting when there are people like Buck Angel in the world.

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    im bi too,the only person who Ive told is my boyfriend,tho hes pretty proud of it and keeps tellin the men he works with,I personally dont think anybody else needs to know

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    Cute cartoon about fetishizing peeps

    http://www.darcomic.org/2009/02/17/transmen/

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    Tigerlilies wrote:

    I think that as people we are sexual before we identify as bi, straight, gay, queer, whatevs. The boxes are too restricting when there are people like Buck Angel in the world.

    http://il.youtube.com/watch?v=7OeASf8xrzI

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    only just had a chance to have a look at this thread, and i rekon hella has it bang on, (well in the way i see it) that i could never go out with a guy, but will still sleep with one, therefore it is a fetish. :)

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    Doug wrote:

    only just had a chance to have a look at this thread, and i rekon hella has it bang on, (well in the way i see it) that i could never go out with a guy, but will still sleep with one, therefore it is a fetish. :)

    In your mind, does that make a hetero partner, that you wouldn't commit to but have a sexual experience with, a fetish?

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    Tigerlilies wrote:

    Doug wrote:

    only just had a chance to have a look at this thread, and i rekon hella has it bang on, (well in the way i see it) that i could never go out with a guy, but will still sleep with one, therefore it is a fetish. :)

    In your mind, does that make a hetero partner, that you wouldn't commit to but have a sexual experience with, a fetish?

    erm, maybe haven't really thought about it like that. Very intresting point that. I would say no, becasue although I wouldn't commint to that person, its becasue of who they are, not their gender. If that makes sense?

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    LoveHoney - Hella Rouge wrote:

    I've got a question.

    Do you think it's possible that instead of someone being bisexual, they could have a fetish for the same sex?

    I've considered myself bisexual since I was 11, but here's the thing; I've dated a few women and it never gets very far. I find women incredibly frustrating creatures to be in a relationship with and I have NEVER fallen in love with a woman, but I have slept with over a hundred of them.

    When I watch porn, it's lesbian porn. I very rarely have a sexual attraction to a man or look at a man and think 'wow, he's gorgeous' - it's almost always women. Fact is that they're purely sexual creatures to me, I haven't met a women yet that I could fall for. Seems by my own definition, I have a fetish for sleeping with chicks.

    I feel very much the same as you. I currently identify as bicurious as I have feelings towards both genders, but those feeling as not the same. I find women very sexually attractive, and all the porn I watch is lesbian, but there's no way I'd want a relationship with one. I just don't seem to identify with them as much or feel the same way socialising with them as I do with men.

    Men, on the other hand, I don't find attractive at all. I actually find most porn with men in it quite gross and offputting, and I'd rather just masturbate on my own than watch porn with men in it. However, I really feel something for the right man, and I'm much more likely to click with a man than a woman.

    I suppose it depends on what your definition of "bisexual" really is. I'd happily have sex with either gender, but I get the whole package from men, I desire a relationship with a man and it's a man I ultimately want to end up with. I just want a female playmate on the side.

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    Right now im struggling with the idea of being bi sexual. I
    am honestly more confused about it now after reading some of the posts than
    when I first found the thread although that is no ones fault but my own. As I write
    this now it almost brings a tear to my eye to admit that I feel helpless and
    there is almost no one I can turn to except for here first of all and then maybe
    the one man with whom I have been able to confide in, from a sexual standpoint
    at least. I once fell in love with a girl but I was much younger and didn’t
    really know what I was feeling. I know now because I swear I have never felt
    that way about anyone before or since. Lately when I have been masturbating I have
    been fantasizing about men, always made up no one from my own life or TV or
    whatever, and I think that it doesn’t matter if it’s a boy or a girl that I fall
    for it matters more about the person they are. I am single and a virgin so in terms
    of sexual inclination at this point my troubles are purely speculative. I don’t
    think it is a fetish for a particular sex either and I really don’t know what
    the hell I am going to do about this. Has anyone ever seen there bisexuality in
    terms of being attracted to another’s personality or is it a purely sexual
    thing. I really need help to make sense of this, if I ever make sense of it.
    Sorry about the language by the way feeling a little emotional.

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    Hi Leon, can I ask you something? Why is it so important for you to be one thing or the other? whether you are gay, straight, Bi whatever, as long as you follow what you feel.You say you are single and a virgin, my guess is you are very young, so get out there and have fun experimenting. You will eventually find out what you like, believe me you will know! You come across to me in your post as if you are experiencing feelings of guilt....why? aww....sending you a big *hug*. BTW I am Bi, i knew in my teens, and I think I have the best of both worlds.

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