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  1. Which do you look forward to most with a new partner - kissing or sex?

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    Sam66 [sign in to see picture]
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    I only ask this 'cos I was loking through the "How many partners" thread andI made the admission there that one (of many) reasons for me having an affair was that I missed the sensation of kissing someone new - not sex with someone new so much, but that first brush of lips, tentatively touching and getting progressively bolder ...

    Am I alone in his - especially as a bloke?

    I have looked for threads about this ... I couldn't find one but it wouldn't surprise me to be told there are 232 of them ...! I don't seem to have much luck with the search function!!

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    WandA [sign in to see picture]
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    I've only had the one partner and we were both fairly young so I can't really say what I looked forward to more. Both were relatively new experiences.

    Both are different, I guess sex (I use it referring to any sexual acts) represented something even more different from other things, it had/has the ability to go beyond what we normally feel and is so varied and intense. I think it would be sex, it just has so much more power in it, to please and be pleased.

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    Deffo sex! I prefare sex to kissing.

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    Kissing........ sex is somthing that builds up over time (though jumped into bed with my OH the first night we went out =S, had spoken online for 2weeks before though =D) I just couldnt wait to just kiss him and it was amazing and is so everytime we do now.

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    Avrielle_Aniko wrote:

    Another question for kissers is which do you prefer and find more exciting? Light pecks and playful kisses on the lips (or other parts of the body) or a full on snog?

    Ooooooo, light playfull kisses, makes me shudder and just melt when the OH kisses my neck or hand, such a gentleman =). Good question AA =D

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    I'm a big fan of both cuddling up and kissing and sex acts. What I look forward most in meeting a new partner is probably a bit of both as you enjoy that magic when you first meet a compatible person and your Oxytocin levels rocket.

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    I don't know this 1st hand, honestly! But I've heard some prostitutes refuse to kiss as they see that as more intimate.

    I wonder if any prostitutes who refuse to have sex exist?

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    I've only ever had one partner too, but I have kissed a few frogs before I found my prince! The first time you kiss a new partner is such a massive rush and I'm such an intense bundle of nerves. The same could be said for sex, but for me because it was my first time it started off uncomfortably both physically and and nervously with my low self esteem. So because of this I would have to say that at the start kissing was the most intense for me. Now everything is much more comfortable both are very intense, but I would have to say sex has overtaken kissing now as we have both learnt what can really set each other on fire!

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    WandA, yeah, I believe most escort girls in brothels will be in it for the money but still probably have a boyfriend or husband at home and thus refuse to to the intimate acts of kissing and merely provide a sexual gratification. However I would find it hard pushed to believe street prostitutes would adhere to that.

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    Its the sex for me.

    Don't get me wrong, I love kissing and it feels amazing having long slow sexy smooches, but the thought of the sex to come is what really makes me tingle, its like the next step to really knowing a new partner, and when it turns out to be good sex its even better! You feel like you've found the treasure at the end of the rainbow!

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    I've only had one partner, so it's hard to say.

    I love kissing though and those sensual, exploring kisses are amazing and I guess that's what "normal" first kisses are like - our first kiss was clumsy and nervous - we were 15 and 16 afterall.

    Our first time sex was also a little clumsy and nervous (and oh my goodness it was sore) but so incredibly intimate but again not really comparable to "normal" first sex with a new partner.

    The first time we had sex without a condom was incredible though!

    Hmmmm....I'd take a guess at kisses - they are just so versatile and intimate.

    But I don't like this thinking of having a new partner now...:( I love my WandA!

    Ax

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    I love the kissing part and the hugging :D and being very playfull and I love the sex as well of course

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    Sam66 [sign in to see picture]
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    Sorry I haven't contributed to my own thread .. yet! Work called me away for a few days ...

    I think for me kissing the first time has the edge over sex for the first ime - there is that moment when you first kiss a new partner when you wonder if they'll slap you in face ... sex is a perhaps a more natural thing - it happens because you both feel it's right.

    That first tentative kiss - the light brushing of lips hoping all will be well, heart hammering that lovely 'fear' (not fear but I can't think of the right word) that rush as someone said is fantastic.

    Don't get me wrong I prefer sex ... once I know the other person well enough. Even before my marriage the days of screwing any woman who moved were long gone and I preferred a friendship first.

    But I miss that excitement of the first kiss - for me at least there's nothing quite like it!

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    Ummmmmm *goes off into a dream* fist night with my OH.... been out drinking JD and coke. Last pub we were in we were at the bar and I pinched his bum and we looked at each other and just leaned in together and kissed...... WOW. Was amazing then and still is.Mind you so is the sex and that just keeps getting better and better and better =P

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    Hard to say really. Sex and kissing are for me all part and parcel of much the same thing...it's all different ways of expressing passion. Having said that I've kissed a lot more people than I've slept with so I think sex is more special. Plus I'm greedy...you can kiss without sex but it's pretty rare to have sex without kissing (for me anyway) so you get the best of both worlds!

    xxKPxx

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    KittyPurry wrote:

    Hard to say really. Sex and kissing are for me all part and parcel of much the same thing...it's all different ways of expressing passion. Having said that I've kissed a lot more people than I've slept with so I think sex is more special. Plus I'm greedy...you can kiss without sex but it's pretty rare to have sex without kissing (for me anyway) so you get the best of both worlds!

    xxKPxx

    Ooooo, excellent point. I vote greed too!

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    WandA wrote:

    KittyPurry wrote:

    Hard to say really. Sex and kissing are for me all part and parcel of much the same thing...it's all different ways of expressing passion. Having said that I've kissed a lot more people than I've slept with so I think sex is more special. Plus I'm greedy...you can kiss without sex but it's pretty rare to have sex without kissing (for me anyway) so you get the best of both worlds!

    xxKPxx

    Ooooo, excellent point. I vote greed too!

    isn't that the tory slogan? lol

    xxKPxx

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    Oooo nice KP!

    I've mentioned this before but no one I know, knows any Tories! (Well except Ad's parents).

    The the only reason we have a secret ballot is for Tories ain't it? I quite like J.S.Mill's idea about open ballots, his argument is basically if you're willing to vote for someone you should not be afraid to say who you voted for in public! It's a shame it leads to huge voter fraud etc...

    Anyway... Boo to Tories!

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    WandA wrote:

    KittyPurry wrote:

    Hard to say really. Sex and kissing are for me all part and parcel of much the same thing...it's all different ways of expressing passion. Having said that I've kissed a lot more people than I've slept with so I think sex is more special. Plus I'm greedy...you can kiss without sex but it's pretty rare to have sex without kissing (for me anyway) so you get the best of both worlds!

    xxKPxx

    Ooooo, excellent point. I vote greed too!

    Oooh I agree too :)

    Ax

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