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    MissTerryCleavage [sign in to see picture]
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    Hi everyone,

    Have searched and read through loads of threads and there is some good stuff out there but I still feel like I need your help please....

    As some of you may know, am in an LDR with OH and events have been conspiring against us recently, including him needing an emergency operation and we haven't seen each other for about a month but we are due, finally, to meet up next week..... *prays hard*

    Now obviously we have been sexting and phone sexing(?) the last few weeks, building up to us talking bout me putting on some sort of sexy "show" for him, dressing up and doing whatever.... the trouble is I'm not a natural performer like that and I have no clue what to do, and doubt whatever I did, it would look remotely sexy....

    So I wonder if anyone has any advice or ideas of what I could do? What to wear, music, ideas etc.. I think he is thinking some kind of lapdance/striptease/playing with my toys for him type thing, but I just don't know if I can get over my lack of natural showmanship....

    Any help or ideas would be gratefully received..... Give yourself a medal if you even got to the end of this rather long post, thanks in advance everyone *booby hugs*

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    Ooh and can I just add, tips from fellas would be much welcome, as well as ladies obviously, basically I need help.... haha!

    Thanks again x

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    Hi Miss TC - I can't help much because I've never done it myself, but I'd say the best thing you can do is be able to laugh with your partner!

    If it does go a bit awkwardly then having a good giggle will definitely make it easier :)

    Also I'd say have a little dance in front of the mirror - come up with some moves that look good and use them at the start, end and anytime you feel a bit uncomfortable. That way you've still got the spontaneity of it being unplanned but the confidence boosting back up if you feel uncomfy!

    I'm sure someone will have better tips soon, it's been a slow day - guess everyone is making the most of the sun :)

    Axx

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    I'd suggest lots of props to tease him with and not wearing anything that is difficult/embarrassing to get out of.

    If you are that worried about looking like a bit of a boob maybe sit him in a chair and blindfold him?

    Hope you get some good ideas and good luck!

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    WandA wrote:

    I'd suggest lots of props to tease him with and not wearing anything that is difficult/embarrassing to get out of.

    If you are that worried about looking like a bit of a boob maybe sit him in a chair and blindfold him?

    Hope you get some good ideas and good luck!

    Oooh good suggestions!

    Also - wear as many layers as you can get away with so you have lots to take off

    Ax

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    Evening MTC!

    I would say firstly choose some music that you can do your lapdance cum striptease slowly to as the slower you go the more he can see and it won't all be over in a flash! There are a few basic moves too that you can easily practice that will deffo get his attention. . . .

    1- The grind! You walk upto your partner (whos sitting) gracefully and position yourself in the gap his open legs are making, your back facing him. You then put your hands on his knees and arch your back sticking your bum out, bending your knees keeping your weight on his knees, lower your booty into his lap barely touching his crotch and grind your bum around in circles and up and down and if you can look at him over your shoulder whilst doing this. . . .extra points girl! (personal fave!)

    2- Breasts! Get into his gap again between his open legs and hold the back of his chair, keep your legs straight and lean forward placing his nose between your ample bosom so he can smell your perfume, rub your nipples across the tip of his nose too!

    3- Ass slap! Standing with your back to this lucky fella, bend forward slightly and stroke your bum then bend more and fully stick your moneymaker right out there and slap your ass cheek!

    4- Grinding down and up! Standing with your feet slightly more than shoulder width apart. . . .slowly grind your hips and start moving down as low as you can then work your way back up! Keep your back arched and straight on this one.

    Heres a quick Q+A video on youtube that may answer some questions for you MTC. Good Luck

    http://www.youtube.com/watch?v=o82aJYmGAzw

    SG x

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    Thanks you two, I thought I could rely on you

    Ad, you're right bout the laughing thing, luckily we can do that, will be a good job cos am sure I will make a right t!t of myself doing it, haha! Shall have to have a little practice at some moves, that can be tomorrows task, just need to think of suitable yet surprising non-cheesy music.... Personally I think he should be doing stuff for me

    WandA - Great point bout the clothing, hadnt thought of that, definitely not my 16hook back fastening basque then.... I had thought bout the chair and blindfold thing, and maybe even tying him to the chair, just for devilment mainly

    Thanks for taking the time to reply, have a nice evening....

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    SG69 - Brilliant tips, thanks so much, just what I was after, altho whether I can pull them off is anyones guess, least the boob one I should be fine with Shall have to try that grind thing, am sure he would love it, whether I can do the over the shoulder thing, hmmm, probably be too concerned with not falling over in the massively heeled fcuk me shoes am gonna be wearing considering I live in Birkenstocks ordinarily, haha!

    God I sound like a disaster area.... lol....

    Gonna watch that Youtube now.

    Thanks guys you're all stars, and Ad the tip bout layers is good,am thinking of going for a nice red set of lingerie cos that's his fave, stockings, suspenders, with a tartan mini-skirt and a tight white blouse so my cleavage looks like my avi here, haha! May even go with the hair up and my secretary glasses on.... Hmmm, what to do....

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    Afternoon MTC,

    First of all, you've got to get this "doubt whatever I did, it would look remotely sexy..." out of your mind. If we go into anything thinking that we're pants, it's not going to sparkle.

    So, totally start digging that you are hot shit. Own that and you're half way there.

    What to Wear

    I wouldn't worry about costumes. Wear something you love. Your favourite lingerie with your most beloved outfit that makes you feels sexy. Hell, the more layers the better: a sexy macintosh with bare legs and heels, can be pure awesome. It's all about a sllooowww reveal....the unbuttoning of a blouse, the slide out of a skirt.....

    Personal Time

    I recommend taking some sexy time to yourself. Pamper yourself, rub sweet smelling lotion into every part of you, dress to kill and adore yourself with every stroke. Whilst standing up, really take time to feel your body with your hands. If you're game, do this with a mirror and start seeing how good you look.

    Music

    And put some killer music on. (still without an audience) Whatever makes you feel as bad ass and sexy as hell. My theory is that men likes a woman putting on a show because it's an excuse for her to show him just how much she digs how good she looks. And show how much she enjoys what that confidence does to him too.

    I totally recommend this by The Coasters http://www.youtube.com/watch?v=I3V3Zpz9_0Y&feature=related It's got a great beat, *and* the movie it's used in has the best lapdance everrr, so it's good for ideas! But choose something you love. I don't know what web cams you use, but when the time comes, if you can both hear the music, that's obviously a big plus.

    'Fudding Myself Stupid and Bloody Loving It'

    Once you're in the groove and feeling the beat, you'll probably find a slow bump and grind quickly turns into self pleasure. In fact, it could be a great idea to indulge in some self love at the same time. When you decide to dance for Mister Lover Lover, it's always good to work up to the dance with a long session of sexy messages and get each other so worked up that it's all you can do not to strut.

    Mirrors and Posing

    I don't think specific moves or poses are necessary at the start. If you've got a full lenth mirror you've got a great opportunity to just admire the shapes your figure can create. We don't appreciate enough how much of a novelty women's bodies are to men, the curves, the lines....Just holding your hair up and tilting your hips should get you started. I don't know about you, but when I'm turned on, I just instinctively find myself arching my back and every movement seems to come from my below bits. In private, this usually turns into a lot of hip grinding. Horniness first, then your body does the talking.

    Slow is Sexy

    If you feel comfortable about getting on camera, keep every movement slloowww. Run your hands up your body, stroke your arms above your head and grind your hips. Keep every layer you remove slow too. Rita Hayworth does this thing where she takes her gloves off whilst singing that's a great example http://www.youtube.com/watch?v=Tzg_1XwzG08 she only takes one glove off in fact and it's fieeerce

    Hair

    If you've got long hair, wear it up. Once your shoulders are bare, take time to lift your hands into it and let it down with a slow, sexy shake and run your hands through it. Massaging the back of your head can feel wonderful too and the position of your arms leaves your bust perky and exposed.

    Eyes

    I'm a firm believer in the power of 'sexy eyes.' They're a staple for me during blowjobs or any situation where I need to transmit cock lust. If you look into his eyes (webcam, whatevs) from beneath your eyelashes and give a devilish Mona Lisa smile, he'll be jelly.

    Strut

    Once your hips have been making figure of eights and you're suitably worked up. You could do a little walk to show off the goods. Killer heels and stepping one foot in front of the other (again, slow, slow) should be very cool. Shoulders down, boobies out.

    Accentuate.

    If you're taking off a bra, really emphasize every move. Slip one strap down and shrug your shoulder and take your time before moving onto the next one. This is where it shows how wearing a proper outfit works wonders. You can spend time on each layer....slowly unzip a skirt with your back arched....sllliiddding off stockings....hooking thumbs over panties to gliiiide them down.

    Oh and turning your back and peeking over your shoulder is a great move too.

    Toys

    It may be best to start slowly with performing. Work up to feeling great in your knickers and if you want to have nekkid time and toy fun, go for it, but don't do anything you feel shakey about.

    I wouldn't try to mimic any porn stuff, which is all about how good it looks for the viewer, but there's no harm in making your play camera friendly. Not aesthetically speaking, just in terms of being abe to see (or not see) things properly.

    A bullet could be a great one to start with because it's small, or a massaager that you can caress yourself with. Again, pay attention to your whole body before going for a home run.

    Work on some private time, without a camera, and get used to showing your pleasure with your whole body. Once you've found what naturally happens (be it lip biting, hair pulling, thigh stroking) remember that when he's watching. I don't believe in faking it, but I think a woman having a genuinely awesome time is hot as hell. Sitting in a chair for this bit might be a great support too.

    Props

    Better than toys, in my opinion, is the stuff in your closet not your goodie draw. Silky scarfs are a great tool to slide over your body and hold above your head whilst pulling it through one hand. Any excuse to get your hands in the air is great. If you're feeling burlesque, feathery fans can be fun and flirty. You can make sexy eyes peeking over them too.

    There's also fun to be hand by using what's in shot. Sit on a chair to slide off your stockings or slliiide down the wall yourself.

    Humour

    Luckily, as you're in a relationship, I'm sure you have the good fortune of being able to have a good laugh in the bedroom. And you have to be able to laugh if you trip over your panties and go face first into the carpet. Besides, a sexy smile keeps things real.

    Rounding it Off

    When you feel things come to a natural end (or it starts getting cold in there) I find a nice way to finish off is to kneel down and blow a kiss, if you're in the romantic mood. Or a cheeky wink.

    Hmm. This reply became more about me getting ideas for tomorrow night. I do hope some of that's useful and not just a barrage of yadda yadda yadda. .

    Have fun! If he can see that you're enoying yourself, he'll be in heaven.

    Let us know how it goes!

    xxxx

    PS As I write this, there aren't any replies yet, so apologies if I've repeated everything above.

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    Ah, Sexyget, you got the ass slap in there! You must be a stripping pro you minx!

    x

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    Ooh and no worries if you don't want to wear 'f*ck me' heels and sexy gear. Just clothes that have a gorgeous texture will have you running your hands all over yourself.

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    Tigerlilies wrote:

    Ah, Sexyget, you got the ass slap in there! You must be a stripping pro you minx!

    x

    I've been known to bust a few moves for my lucky OH there Tiger!

    She's mixed race so seems to do this dancehall grind kinda thing naturally!

    Bootylicious I think is the word.

    SG x

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    I wish I had more tips to give.

    I'd just go with what is comfortable. I remember doing the teacher/6th former role play... felt a complete tit at times but as Ad said its important to laugh. If a blind fold helps our comfort use it, if just feeling damn sexy in heels works then leave it.

    I think corsets are good to wear, slowly undo the ribbons.

    Also remember it will be the confidence he finds sexy, not your unprofessional moves!

    We find a computer chair useful for making a partner sit comfortably and going down on them to tease is great.

    If you don't feel like comfortable with moves then stick to things he can feel. Stroke bits of him though clothes and no clothes, kiss, use your teeth, lick, suckle, trickle your fingers, let him even just feel some 'good bits' hot and wet on parts, consider his neck, face, ears, cock, balls, thighs etc...

    I just threw random thoughts done at the end so sorry for the lack of consistency.

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    Ooh adding on to TLs "eyes" - if you feel confident in make up, make sure you put on your sexiest make up - after you get dressed (saves smudging it and getting it on your clothes.) - if you doll up and feel sexy you're more likely to look confident which is always a winner!

    I'd also add "timing"...nothing worse than planning on doing something and it just never seeming like the right time!

    My favourite tome to do sexy and suprise stuff is be all ready for him as he first arrives - that way, you get the confidence boost of having the personal time before hand as TL mentioned and you don't have that awkward "ok, shall I start now?" moment! You can just give him that sexy look, sit him down, press play on the music and enjoy that gormless, happy look blokes get!

    Ax

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    Or just listen to TL!

    Excellent work again Ms Tigerlilies!

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    WandA wrote:

    If you don't feel like comfortable with moves then stick to things he can feel. Stroke bits of him though clothes and no clothes, kiss, use your teeth, lick, suckle, trickle your fingers, let him even just feel some 'good bits' hot and wet on parts, consider his neck, face, ears, cock, balls, thighs etc...

    Oooh - WandA lovees when I sit on his knee/chest/stomach/back with no knickers - so he can feel the heat and wetness!

    Ax

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    I had an interview as a debt collector for Barclaycard once and had to go through several role plays as a collector trying to get money out of the customer. I wasn't happy with it to be honest and wouldn't have done it even if I had have got the job. But the role plays were ridiculous, funny at times too.

    I'd have probably been visiting most of the people I know from where I live

    Which wouldn't be good at all.

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    MissTerryCleavage wrote:

    Thanks guys you're all stars, and Ad the tip bout layers is good,am thinking of going for a nice red set of lingerie cos that's his fave, stockings, suspenders, with a tartan mini-skirt and a tight white blouse so my cleavage looks like my avi here, haha! May even go with the hair up and my secretary glasses on.... Hmmm, what to do....

    Btw - yum!

    That outfit sounds so sexy! He'll love it!

    Especially with the cleavage you have!!

    Ax

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    AdnaW wrote:

    My favourite tome to do sexy and suprise stuff is be all ready for him as he first arrives - that way, you get the confidence boost of having the personal time before hand as TL mentioned and you don't have that awkward "ok, shall I start now?" moment! You can just give him that sexy look, sit him down, press play on the music and enjoy that gormless, happy look blokes get!

    Ax

    BUT be careful he isn't tired/stressed etc and is ready... You don't want him not being into it and it dent your confidence.

    I agree with Ad about the choice of clothes... MMMMMMMMMMMMM Suspenders and stockings!

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    Wow, thanks so much guys

    TL - Your post was s good, thanks for taking the time, am going to go watch those links now, your advice is great and you're right, I need to get the PMA right first, he must think I'll look good since he said he'd like it, he's not going to do it to just take the piss is he, so yes, I am the sexiest woman around, well that he's going to see anyway and he is damn lucky that I am doing this for him

    I think my biggest problem will be doing it slow cos I suspect that nerves will make me want to rush but then again if he reacts 'right' and lets me get into it, who knows?

    I agree on the timing thing AdnaW, I reckon am gonna get ready for whatever time he says he is coming and surprise him when I open the door, rather than the as you say awkward "shall I get ready now" def need some spontaneity or appearance of, anyway...

    Practice day tomorrow me thinks and work on a suitable playlist!

    Thanks again, you are all fabulous, I umm-ed and ah-ed bout posting for ages, am so glad I did

    *Booby hugs*

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