1. Very weak orgasms - is there something wrong with me?

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    LouiseWeaver [sign in to see picture]
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    I can usually reach orgasm pretty easily when I masturbate (I'm single) but they are always very weak and barely last a second.  It's been that way ever since I first started doing it, and nothing I've ever tried has made much difference.  

    Is this just how it is for some women, or could there be something wrong with me?  

    Is there anything I can do to improve them?

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    VirginAngel [sign in to see picture]
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    Some women cannot orgasm at all, are you sure it is an actual orgasm you're experiencing?

    Every woman is different, i usually get one OK one then any subsequent ones are very weak, but other than experimenting with different techniques or pelvic floor exercises there's not much you can do.

    You could see a doctor if it concerns you but not sure they can do anything, have you tried using an orgasm balm or enhancer?

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    Boomplus [sign in to see picture]
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    Try building it up more. Take your time and make sure not to rush. This may result in you having fuller orgasms hopefu,ly

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    AWB1955 [sign in to see picture]
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    Have you tried any sextoys?

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    kelly_michelle [sign in to see picture]
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    There are many reasons that your orgasm might not be as strong or as long as you would expect it to be. Using Kegal balls will help strengthen your pelvic floor, which will help the strength and ease of your orgasm. Toys may also help as might an orgasm gel

    Getting in the right head space will also help. Clear your head of any stresses, or things you need to do. Having relaxing you time, adding some music, a bath, erotica, porn or whatever helps. Make your masturbation a whole body thing. Lick or stroke your lips slowly, play with your nipples, stroke your skin lightly before moving to your vulva. Experiment with touching different areas, not just your clit.

    Try touching a different part of your clit. A millimetre to the left or the right or up or down can make a huge difference.

    If nothing is working, try psychosexual counselling. A lot of your orgasm is in your head, and talking it through with a professional can really help.

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    kelly_michelle wrote:

    There are many reasons that your orgasm might not be as strong or as long as you would expect it to be. Using Kegal balls will help strengthen your pelvic floor, which will help the strength and ease of your orgasm. Toys may also help as might an orgasm gel

    Getting in the right head space will also help. Clear your head of any stresses, or things you need to do. Having relaxing you time, adding some music, a bath, erotica, porn or whatever helps. Make your masturbation a whole body thing. Lick or stroke your lips slowly, play with your nipples, stroke your skin lightly before moving to your vulva. Experiment with touching different areas, not just your clit.

    Try touching a different part of your clit. A millimetre to the left or the right or up or down can make a huge difference.

    If nothing is working, try psychosexual counselling. A lot of your orgasm is in your head, and talking it through with a professional can really help.

    +1 can't agree with this post enough!

    I need to do all the things KM has mentioned above to have a mind-blowing orgasm and it is possible for me, although from time to time with stress etc. I can have a weak one or one that doesn't last long enough for me to be fulfilled.

    A mains magic wand would be ace to help you as an option for a sex toy, it works for me and is on 'Deal of the Day' at £25 today!!! You can take your time with it as it's mains, so no batteries to run low!! ☺

    'Lovehoney Bliss' balm or 'Tracy Cox' orgasm gel works for me too, when I am struggling. x

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    Lovehoney - Jess Wilde [sign in to see picture]
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    If it's any consolation, I am exactly the same as far as weak orgasms during solo play. During couples play, I'm completely the opposite - it's only when I play alone. Other than mental arousal, I can't explain it.

    There are loads of great tips here from the others to strengthen your orgasms overall, and I think the note about getting mentally aroused and taking your time are probably really useful tips. I find that my climaxes are stronGER when I do this, but they still don't match the strength of them when I'm with a partner. 

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    HunnyMonster29 [sign in to see picture]
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    From my experience, it seems to depend on mood and how I'm doing it. 

    Generally, "manual" masturbation (just hands) gives me quite a weak orgasm but using a toy usually gives me something much stronger. I use rabbits, dildos and vibrators most of the time and I find that climaxing with a vibrating shaft inside me gives the best results. 

    I also find that kegal weights can give your orgasms some "umph". It's always fun to play afterwards to see the results. I've honestly had some orgasms that have hit me like a train, lol. 

    Head space is also important as the others have said. Make sure you are in the right mood and not doing it for the sake of it. I think holding off a few days also helps so you're craving it a little more than usual. 

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    Cb1987 [sign in to see picture]
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    I am.same solo are not as in intense as couple play I believe in solo play mentally I stop too early than I should and my subconscious on mind. When couple play the mind is focused in other areas to explore

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    The future Mrs [sign in to see picture]
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    There’s a lot to be said for being in the right ‘head space’ for a good orgasm. Being relaxed always helps for me. I always find with solo play my first orgasm is great but when I want to continue I can’t hit the right spot a second time.

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