• Ever paid for sex?

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    Laveila [sign in to see picture]
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    After some thinking, paying for sex really means for me paying to someone to have sex with you who otherwise would not have without money or gifts. And I believe thats what this threat is about, partnership just works differently. The money play importance so you can live, but unlike someone who is having sex with you and gets money/jewellery/cloths/expensice electronic/ et, your partner is unlikely to leave you just for loosing your job or serious illness. My partner lost his job and I would never leave him. I am a student, so I dont have lot of money either, yet I dont ask him for money (did only once when I got screwed up with my bankcard being stoplisted and no money in my UK bank account, I even offered to return it, which he told me not to). Someone who is with you for monay would, as he/she would loose some "standard". I think this is why people say they would never pay for sex, because they dont.

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    Mr Clumsy [sign in to see picture]
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    I kind of agree with you Laveila, but blokes will pay for sex for many reasons, like; poor sex life in the marriage, a lads night out, losing virginity, or believe it or not they will see their 'standards' to have risen with their mates by having 'no strings' sex, with a perfect stranger. Or simply to feel dominant or important in the bedroom for once.

    I work in as an electronics engineer in very much a male environment and some men just like their women to drop their knickers and take it, and indeed blokes I work with brag about it all the time. My personal feeling on this is that they feel it just makes up for their own inadequacies.

    I have read all the comments from the start of this thread and it's clear to me that it is different for men and women.

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    Janny [sign in to see picture]
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    I don't know how to do it, do you pay before or after? But don't really think it is a big deal, and I would do it.

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    pantylover02 [sign in to see picture]
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    Its just pure convenience and works for some, not others. If a guy is single and feels the need, can he really be bothered with all the dating malarkey just to achieve one goal-orientated result? I'm sure many ladies have the same opinion. I know plenty who are interested in nsa fun. I agree with the comments about the high quality escort services. That is an altogether different experience where a man can tailor some specific requests and enjoy having them met in real style!

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    Scarlot wrote:

    I find this thread interesting,

    I know of a lot of people who pay for a sexual service, however there is no penatrative sex involved what so ever, when people talk about paying for sex prostitution tends to spring to mind, may this be a positive or negative thought. but not a lot of people think of the other sexual options out there that people pay for, I personally find it all fascinating and love the psychology behind paying for a sexual desire.

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    I'm doing a psychology degree, aiming to be a sex psychologist - I love topics like these too.

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    I have been with a prostitute once, a few years ago on holiday. I was walking back to my hotel late a night and an attractive woman asked me if I wanted a blowjob, so I thought why not, and very nice it was as well.

    I wouldn't do it now as a married man, but back then as a single man I can see nothing wrong with it. It was cheeper than picking up a woman and buying her drinks all night!

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    him'n'her [sign in to see picture]
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    I have nothing against people paying for sex. If both parties are willing, it's up to them whether or not they have sex, not me.

    I have never paid for nor been paid for sex, so perhaps I am naive in these matters but I think the first step in ensuring women are safe, willing participants is to legitimise the industry and to massively reduce the criminal involvement.

    (if a prostitute paid tax, would that count as a DP?)

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    him'n'her wrote:

    (if a prostitute paid tax, would that count as a DP?)

    Haha love it

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    him'n'her wrote:

    I have nothing against people paying for sex. If both parties are willing, it's up to them whether or not they have sex, not me.

    I have never paid for nor been paid for sex, so perhaps I am naive in these matters but I think the first step in ensuring women are safe, willing participants is to legitimise the industry and to massively reduce the criminal involvement.

    (if a prostitute paid tax, would that count as a DP?)

    This!

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    atlanta [sign in to see picture]
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    Reading the above again makes me think of how conflicted we can be. As I said before I have paid for it many times and personally find it difficult to object to prostitution if it is a fair agreement between two free persons. (bearing in mind that most of us have to earn a living in one way or another).

    But I do remember, when I was 21, walking back home to my bedsit in West London one warm evening and being accosted by a "gentleman". "Would I come up to his room?" "For £5", he added. I reacted unthinkingly, angrily. And marched away. Stupid really I could have used the money and I was certainly no stranger to gay sex.
    It was just a gut reaction of disgust. I'm not for sale, I thought, and I suppose it's this feeling that's behind the anti-prostitution views aired here.

    Anybody else had similar experiences?

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    Liquidsugar wrote:

    Scarlot wrote:

    I find this thread interesting,

    I know of a lot of people who pay for a sexual service, however there is no penatrative sex involved what so ever, when people talk about paying for sex prostitution tends to spring to mind, may this be a positive or negative thought. but not a lot of people think of the other sexual options out there that people pay for, I personally find it all fascinating and love the psychology behind paying for a sexual desire.

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    I'm doing a psychology degree, aiming to be a sex psychologist - I love topics like these too.

    Likewise, albeit purely through interest and a fascination with understnding human behaviour and motivations (and maybe my own along the way) and not with a specific professional goal.

    Scarlot - you refer to someone paying for a dominatrix/master or slave I presume? Just because there is no penetration does not in any way shape or form mean a motivation is not sexual I'm sure we can all agree. Sexual pleasure is a wonderful thing like that, in that it can be derived in so many ways.

    To answer the OP, yes I have on a single occasion - my first BJ as it happens. I'd had my first sexual relationship with a girl a coupel of years older than me from when I was 12-15 and one other realtionship since, I'd got to 17 without a BJ though (although I spent plenty of time going down on them, mostly for my own gratification I might admit) and there was a lads' trip to Holland.

    There was a lot of braggadocio from most of them, I just kept quiet knowing what I wanted. So the red light district in the town we were visiting was visited and we were all stood around, everyone too embarrased to go first. Except me, walked up and down the length of the street, found a stunning girl, walked up to the house, gave her the nod and got my first BJ (it was "safe" BTW). I've been hooked on them ever since and have since mostly been very fortunate in finding willing partners and recently a not only willing, but very able OH.

    If I were single again for any length of time, I would spare myself the dating scene until I was ready for a relationship again instead of just trawling it and getting by with empty one-night stands from women expecting more, so I would pay for sex again. Hell I'd probably set myself up as an escort and kill several birds with one stone...

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