1. Condoms in a relationship?

    VirginAngel [sign in to see picture]
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    Neither me nor my partner (currently a LDR, they live in a differnt country) have ever been sexually active previously, and as i have an implant, we aren't planning on using condoms. I'd actually get sterilised if i could, but nobody is going to offer that to a childless 28 year old.

    I just prefer the idea of it being him i feel directly, not a condom, although i do have reservations about the ejaculate since i have pretty severe OCD and don't like it will have traces of urine in it, so what the actual plan is i'm not sure.

    SlimeCoveredCow [sign in to see picture]
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    Lovehoney - Jess Wilde wrote:

    goochsplitter9000 wrote:

    Me and my OH dont use them unless we’re acting silly. We play a condom game where I get him hard and we try various condoms on 😂 Just wondering if some couples/partnerships do use condoms still? We don’t, as I’m on the pill, and he’s too big for condoms so we’d have to spend a fortune on XL ones.


    I can put my whole leg in a condom, so this just isn't true. The idea that some guys are too big for condoms contributes to many not using them or even carrying them. As for spending a fortune: it's a small price to pay for your health. Sex is fun, but it's also life-threatening without proper precautions.

    Having said that, if you've both been tested for STI's and have come back negative since being together and are on other contraception to prevent pregnancy, then you can of course forgoe condoms. Just be absolutley sure you're monogamous, and book another test in in about 6 months (to allow for incubation of disease from a previous partner) to be absolutely certain you aren't play STI ping-pong. (That includes an oral, vaginal, penile and anal swab, to be sure)


    The first few condoms I tried I hated, and felt wrong but as it turns out there's plenty of choice and eventual I found a brand and a size that felt just right.


    That being said, while I was still in my last relationship we didn't bother with them as we both were clear medically, on other forms of contraception and without going into much detail both of us had slight health conditions that would have made conceiving without contraception a statistical miricle. (We still used it anyway though because sodd's law of anyone was going to get pregnant with our situations, it'd be us.)

    Think of it this way. £20 is enough to test several brands of condoms and if nothing else, it's for piece of mind.

    Sassyminx82 [sign in to see picture]
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    Me n my OH half have used them on and off in our 14 years together. I prefer not to as I like to feel him cum, sometimes it gets everywhere but a st o wet and clean sheets and everything is sorted. After my OH had the snip our sex life got even better as no stress of pregnancy and no other participants we don't need to.

    EyeAy [sign in to see picture]
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    We use them all the time, medical contraceptives don't agree with my wife so it's the only option. No big deal, better than no sex at all!

    Little_Princess [sign in to see picture]
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    I'm my previous relationship I insisted on a condom every time despite being on the implant; but with my current partner after a couple months we both went and got tested, when we both came back clear we ditched condoms. If I were to get into another relationship I'd insist on a condom again. Better safe than sorry

    VanillaWithSprinkles [sign in to see picture]
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    I refuse to take hormonal contraceptives due to a massive family history of breast cancer so always insist on a condom on fertile days (using the calendar method). I am less bothered about infertile days but usually still use them just to keep in the habit of it.

    paulsballs [sign in to see picture]
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    Condoms until you know the relationship is going somewhere and then both get tested

    For any indiscretions a welly on the Willy every time

    The Clergy [sign in to see picture]
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    Yes my wife doesn't like the idea of any other sort of contraception and I'm happy with using a condom. I buy in bulk too as I don't see the point of buying just a few in a box. The more you practice the better it becomes😉

    JohnA [sign in to see picture]
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    Another way condoms can be helpful is if the guy tends to be be too quick on the draw. When dating, I had this issue whenever I was with a new partner - as soon as I was inside her, the urge to cum would be overwhelming, so I would always use Durex Performa for the first few times so I wouldn't disappoint her! I don't have that problem in a long term relationship, but it might be helpful for some. Any condom reduces the sensation at least a little. 

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