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    MrandMissbutterfly [sign in to see picture]
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    I know there has been a thread or two about this before but none that have really detailed which to clubs to attend. Do any of you beautifuls attend the club's or have done in the past, which is best to attend for the first time ? We have spoken about this enough to be brave enough now to give it a go! Missbutterfly xxx

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    MrandMissbutterfly wrote:

    I know there has been a thread or two about this before but none that have really detailed which to clubs to attend. Do any of you beautifuls attend the club's or have done in the past, which is best to attend for the first time ? We have spoken about this enough to be brave enough now to give it a go! Missbutterfly xxx

    I dont have any experience as such per se . But from past threads  you can go and just socilaise without participation. That way you can tell if its really something for you by talking to the existing members.Normally many clubs can bve found by searching the Web.

    Your own relationship would also need to be 100% strong.

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    We've tried a few around the Midlands, here's a quick review: The attic Derby. Very well set up with good private and public play areas, staff super friendly, people friendly too. No pressure to do anything, Hit and miss on numbers, go on a couples night if you don't want sleazy men following u around. Good club, fair price of entry. Atlantis Stoke. Private closed door club, fair price on entry. Friendly staff and people. Bit cheap and basic in the play areas. James bond birthday bash when we attended, fair few people in the bar area, dead as a dinosaur in the play area. We had some fun on a love swing then left as the paint had finished drying, and there wasn't much else left to watch lol Xtasia West bromwich. This place has nice hotel rooms you can rent overnight or the prem Hotel next door, if you book early it's fairly cheap. 1st time we went it was bit empty, still had a bit of fun but not amazing. We went again last week for the foam party and all I'll say is OMG! What a night. Only down side is that it started later than expected and the foam party bit just sorta ended with people just not going in? Was rampant before that? But again, no pressure, nice people, fair prices, and some good rooms. Chameleons Darlaston. Didn't bother going as the price of entry made you need to remortgage your house lol Plus towel policy as dress code. Many people like to get dressed up at this scene, in smart gear as well as sexy gear, so a white towel or naked sorta kills it. We don't swing, we like the scene and sexy fun with each other, the excitement of doing stuff in the open, exhibitionism on a light level? All I'll say is Go! If you don't like what you see, leave! If you are offended by sex, nakedness, etc don't go. It's a super friendly environment, with zero pressure to join in, staff are usually amazing. A place where like minded adults socialise and more if all are in agreeance. No means no. Which staff strongly support. No drunken idiots, no drugs. Just adult fun. I'd say go to xtasia for a 1st time, look at their website and forum, they have some interesting theme nights, and events. It's safe it's friendly and well you only live once!

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    We've looked into Xtasia and we were deciding between that and chameleons. Do you get lockers at Xtasia ?? Missbutterfly xx

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    Yes lockers are available, they have a nice jacuzzi too, clothing totally optional

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    Yes lockers are available, they have a nice jacuzzi too, clothing totally optional

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    Been to many over the years.  We started at La Chambre, Sheffield, didn't know what to expect but loved the scene.   Very erotic, but everyone respectful and enjoying themselves.  Liked it so much we went every month for over 2 years until we started home meets.

    There's no pressure to swap or even to play, it's quite OK to watch.  On our first vist we played together in the pool and in a crowded playroom, no swapping then but it was wonderful being among people doing the most intimate things possible.  Next vist we soft-swung with a couple and did that for the next couple of visits until having our first full swap.

    Our favourite now is Chameleons at Darlaston.  Totally disagree with the advice above, it is well worth the entrance fee for a couple. The price for single men acts as a filter and keeps out the less desirable types.  We love the dress code - playsuits, undies or towels as soon as you arrive.  People are there for sex after all and street clothes are wrong.  This way keeps out the voyeurs (usually some single men again) who don't want to undress in any way biut just want to perve.  That's one disadvantage of La Chambre.

    One golden rule - NO means NO.  Peiople may ask you fior sex (and many will probably do, nicely) but if you say "no thanks" they will not harrass you - or they'll get thrown out!

    Just do what we did, go and see and make your own mind up.  Discuss beforehand your boundaries and stick to them on that first visit.  Talk about it afterwards, what you liked and didn't like, what you want to do next time, if there is a next time.

    If you want to visit a reputable club you need to contact them beforehand, you can't just turn up.  Maybe you can at the bottom end of the market, but avoid such dives. 

    Good luck, enjoy!

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    Peak couple We did want to try chameleons, but doesn't it work out at like £80 for your 1st visit with membership? That's a lot to pay for a club you might not like, for a scene your trying out and may never go again, and numbers may be low (which can? Influence a night, not say it always does!) Couples nights obviously don't let single men in, so price doesn't affect this factor. Dressing down: Xtasia has a poll on its forum suggesting a dress down hour at midnight, the poll to see if it shud be compulsory? The results were that people thought it was a good idea, but voluntary, as being forced to do something didn't sit well. Also many people have said they liked dressing up, in town clothes, some we spoke to avoided the foam party for that very reason. So paying a high entrance fee for a club we might not like, and may never go again, and being made to dress down when the wife was nervous about the scene in the 1st place, was enough for us to sack going and try somewhere else. I'm sure if you are a regular your past all this, but if you are a nooby first timer like many people are, this is quite a big factor. Was for us anyhow

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    Been to a few with an ex, best one we went to was Vanilla Alternative.

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    MrGoodGuy wrote:

    Peak couple We did want to try chameleons, but doesn't it work out at like £80 for your 1st visit with membership? That's a lot to pay for a club you might not like, for a scene your trying out and may never go again, and numbers may be low (which can? Influence a night, not say it always does!) Couples nights obviously don't let single men in, so price doesn't affect this factor. Dressing down: Xtasia has a poll on its forum suggesting a dress down hour at midnight, the poll to see if it shud be compulsory? The results were that people thought it was a good idea, but voluntary, as being forced to do something didn't sit well. Also many people have said they liked dressing up, in town clothes, some we spoke to avoided the foam party for that very reason. So paying a high entrance fee for a club we might not like, and may never go again, and being made to dress down when the wife was nervous about the scene in the 1st place, was enough for us to sack going and try somewhere else. I'm sure if you are a regular your past all this, but if you are a nooby first timer like many people are, this is quite a big factor. Was for us anyhow

    Yes that is a good point :p ! We are thinking about Xtasia and trying out a couple night. Would it be best to join another site also to meet others before we go or try it out and see what happens ? Missbutterfly xxx
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    I would suggest going by yourselves the first time. That way, if you find yourselves not enjoying it or being completely comfortable, you don’t feel like you are letting anyone down by leaving. If you like it, have a chat and decide how you want to proceed and maybe consider joining a swinging site then.

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    If you go on the xtasia forum, there's some good chat and advice being passed about, by some great people. Generally you can post that you are on your way, or at the Premier Hotel (u can get discount if you are going to the club) People will usually meet you for a drink, or a meet if you ask. There's usually some after club fun in the hotel if you ask about and that's your thing. Xtasia is definitely a good place to start

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    PS there's a foam party coming up if you look at the events list. The one we've just been to was amazing, and was one of the best nights out I've had in a long time

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    MrGoodGuy wrote:

    PS there's a foam party coming up if you look at the events list. The one we've just been to was amazing, and was one of the best nights out I've had in a long time

    Sounds great, thanks Hun Missbutterfly xxx
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    Chameleons website says the annual fee is £25 for couples and £80 for single men, but we never get asked for an annual sub; we just show our card and pay £25 per visit.  That's very good value for a pretty luxurious place with several public and private playrooms, two hot tubs, sauna, dungeon, orgy room, sex-swings, cinema, smoking area and bedrooms for overnight stays (it's extra for those).  A safe place for sex, with nice people, friends and strangers.  Swinging needs a safe, clean and comfortable environment.  It's always a great night out as far as we are concerned.

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    Has anyone tried Pleasures in Kent? We've talked about trying it but it's just going for it we struggle with! It's the only one I could find close to us in the SE.

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    XAndyX wrote:

    Has anyone tried Pleasures in Kent? We've talked about trying it but it's just going for it we struggle with! It's the only one I could find close to us in the SE.

    I went quite a few years a go and used to enjoy it. The other one you could try is Eurekas which is near Brands Hatch. It is a nudist place during the day (with some swinging activity going on) and has specific swinging parties at the weekend. 

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    Peakcouple wrote:

    Chameleons website says the annual fee is £25 for couples and £80 for single men, but we never get asked for an annual sub; we just show our card and pay £25 per visit.  That's very good value for a pretty luxurious place with several public and private playrooms, two hot tubs, sauna, dungeon, orgy room, sex-swings, cinema, smoking area and bedrooms for overnight stays (it's extra for those).  A safe place for sex, with nice people, friends and strangers.  Swinging needs a safe, clean and comfortable environment.  It's always a great night out as far as we are concerned.

    What is the ratio between couples watching and couples swapping do you think ? :) We're after a mix as we will just want to watch first time around xx
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    MrandMissbutterfly wrote:

    Peakcouple wrote:

    Chameleons website says the annual fee is £25 for couples and £80 for single men, but we never get asked for an annual sub; we just show our card and pay £25 per visit.  That's very good value for a pretty luxurious place with several public and private playrooms, two hot tubs, sauna, dungeon, orgy room, sex-swings, cinema, smoking area and bedrooms for overnight stays (it's extra for those).  A safe place for sex, with nice people, friends and strangers.  Swinging needs a safe, clean and comfortable environment.  It's always a great night out as far as we are concerned.

    What is the ratio between couples watching and couples swapping do you think ? :) We're after a mix as we will just want to watch first time around xx
    It varies, couples who swap will watch others after playing before doing more swapping, and some couples will watch before plucking up the courage to swap.  We intended to watch on our first visit but went and joned in the fun in a playroom, no swapping but playing surrounded by others doing the same.  On singles nights there are always more men than women so lots of the men watch and probably relatively few play.  Just do what you want, nobody will mind you watching the action in public playrooms, or try to mak eyou take part if you don't want.

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    Peakcouple wrote:

    MrandMissbutterfly wrote:

    What is the ratio between couples watching and couples swapping do you think ? :) We're after a mix as we will just want to watch first time around xx

    It varies, couples who swap will watch others after playing before doing more swapping, and some couples will watch before plucking up the courage to swap.  We intended to watch on our first visit but went and joned in the fun in a playroom, no swapping but playing surrounded by others doing the same.  On singles nights there are always more men than women so lots of the men watch and probably relatively few play.  Just do what you want, nobody will mind you watching the action in public playrooms, or try to mak eyou take part if you don't want.

    Hopefully that should make it a bit easier to follow. 🙂

    You do make it sound very appealing, and I had no intention of ever going to such a place. The wife is still a firm no though...🙂

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