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  1. Getting my wife to peg me

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    Zg [sign in to see picture]
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    I have spoken to my wife about pegging and she said that she like her lady parts I am not sure how to reaproch this subject any advise would be very helpful she know I enjoy anal play

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    NatandTom [sign in to see picture]
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    I am not sure what you mean by “she said that she likes her lady parts” could you expand on that or rephrase? 

    You can’t “get” her to do anything. It’s totally up to her whether it’s something she wants to do or not.

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    LIL_KNOWN69 [sign in to see picture]
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    Some people just don’t enjoy anal play which doesn’t stop you going solo. If your partner is worried about you not enjoying her body then reassure her you love her and she satisfies you but you enjoy anal play. If she has never played with anal toys then you can always ask her if she would like too but as natandtom said you can’t “get” people to do things.

    If you want to experience this type of thing you can always get a simple dildo with a suction base and use it doggystyle. Our partners won’t always have the same fetishes/likes/thoughts as us and sometimes you need to ride them out solo ☺️

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    Tazzy84red [sign in to see picture]
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    Ok but confused by likes her lady parts? Do you mean like she likes bring the only 1 who's penetrated?

    Best advice would be to open with her that you would like to try her pegging you. Hear her views on it. She may have a different view on this. Listen to each other but you can't make her do anything that she doesn't want to.
    Hope this helps x

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    AmyA [sign in to see picture]
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    As everyone else has said you can't 'get' anyone to do anything and reading your previous posts pegging may well be something that will have to remain a fantasy. You recently said she had commented that it was 'weird' that you liked anal play, you have also said she has interest in this type of play, to go from that to actually performing the act on you herself is a very big ask. It may happen in time if she has accepted the idea of you using toys but I think it's more likely you will have to be satisfied with enjoying this area of play on your own.

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    Alicia4Ever [sign in to see picture]
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    In your prevous posts, you say she thinks is weird, in another she says it's gay, now it sounds like she is saying, she is happy to have a vagina, so by extention, she is saying that she doesn't want to pretend to have a penis.

    I think it's fair to say that she is saying anything she can to get you to give this idea up, and when you don't accept one, she gives you another. I think you should just accept that this is something she is not happy to do; and as others have said you shouldn't try to make her. If you keep pushing this, she will reach her limit, as anyone would; and that's going to damage your relationship.

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    AmyA [sign in to see picture]
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    Sorry, I meant to say NO interest in this type of play.

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    Lovehoney - Rebecca [sign in to see picture]
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    Everyone has basically covered it already, unfortunately.

    Whilst the question that pops here a lot is about getting a partner to participate in receiving anal, rather than giving, the answer remains the same. Nobody can be made to do something they don't wish to do and it's up to you to respect her wishes and move on.

    It sounds to me that she is dropping pretty big hints that she isn't comfortable participating in any anal play.

    I get that it can be hard to just 'move on' from something that is important to you so I would recommend that your next step should be to have an open conversation with your wife. Let her know why it's important to you that she considers it, and listen when she tells you how she feels. I think it will go along way for both of you - being able to understand each others needs.

    Following your conversation though, if it continues to be something she isn't willing to try, you do need to respect her, move on, and leave it for solo sessions.

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    Jimbo86 [sign in to see picture]
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    Id lime to approach this to ive always wanted to experience being someone's slave slave or bitch

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    Witness01 [sign in to see picture]
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    It can be a delicate thing to navigate - sometimes we or our partners just don't like the idea of something but end up enjoying it...we might dislike the idea today, but be interested next year...or even with a different partner...or we might have a hard limit that simply isn't negotiable - and that's our right...

    ...totally open, supportive, constructive conversation is always a must...and, of course, as has been said...so is respecting each others boundaries...

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