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  1. Erotic reading - Help!

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    MrGoodGuy [sign in to see picture]
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    My wife spends a lot of time scanning FB and horsey media pages, it sort of swallows our evening.

    If I'm sitting watching her, I give up and play with my phone, sad eh.

    I usually end up, with porn as a part of my viewing, which makes me horny, but the wife's horsey fest obviously doesn't make her horny - not good.

    Do other blokes get this?

    So, any erotic reading - blogs, books, posts, anything? You guys can suggest.

    But the big one is..... How can I get the wife to put down social media and focus in on erotica - once in a while.

    We all know a woman's mind is the first place to start when it comes to being aroused, found that worked 100% with the first 50 shades, whilst on holiday, where she always reads, but not so much at home.

    Would be great to read together and get horny together?

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    Laveila [sign in to see picture]
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    To be honest, have you tried to talk to her? Maybe prepare a nice evening together, a dinner, massage, etc? Something to do and make agreement that no phones, unless its a call from family or close friend, as you never know, maybe it would be urgent.

    But definitely no social media, etc.

    I do like erotic books, but I do think that the 50 shades are no good, but lot of women just like it. So you may try that, if she seemed to like it on holiday.

    I cannot advise much, as I am not addicted to FB, Twitter etc. I often dont see my FB for a week or longer... And I dont remember the last time I opened my Twitter (was months ago)... But a dinner plan with husband may help...

    Also maybe if she is on the phone, try sending her erotic messages? It would pop up on the screen for her, but not sure if it would help.

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    CheesecakeAndNP [sign in to see picture]
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    MrGoodGuy, I think most guys can relate to this. Men and women are wired differently and it tends to be one partner has a higher sex drive than the other.

    The only way things get any better are if you talk to her. I think the idea of setting up a nice evening, preparing dinner etc. Is a good one as this will lead to an easier way to communicate. Tell her that you feel you’ve both become a bit disconnected from each other and that you’d like to make time to be ‘together’ again. It’s important to show her that you understand it takes commitment from both of you to make a relationship work. Perhaps suggest leaving your phones on the table and turning the computer off for an hour before bedtime a couple of times a week and making this your time together.

    Once you’re both reconnected talk about fantasies during intimate times, maybe find something on an erotic story website that gets your attention or read the fifty shades books as you know she already likes them and find a scene that works for you, suggest recreating it.

    Alternatively, order some new toys from lovehoney, I can’t recommend a mains powered wand highly enough, light some candles in the bedroom and surprise her.

    Good luck!

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    Shouganai [sign in to see picture]
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    A social media junky like my boyfriend, eh ?

    I swiftly overcame that by rejecting his random advances or putting him in chastity and teasing him, and after about two weeks of that I started sexting him or sending him erotica I enjoyed; this quickly got his focus back to me.

    If you share a device like a laptop, have a sneaky peek at what her porn web history is like and surprise her by recreating a scene from it for when she gets home ?

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    Saphira [sign in to see picture]
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    Firstly the website I find best for erotic reading is lushstories just Google it and it'll pop up. It's by far the best erotica site for reading and as a bonus it has forum boards like here, but with a wider and more active community. Also strictly moderated like here so not many perv alerts.

    In regard to getting the OH off her phone I'm not so much help. Mine is the same and the only way I've found is to be so direct he can't miss it. I find simply getting his cock out and going to town on it is the only way. Hinting just doesn't work for us lol.

    As for getting her into reading, I personally found writing it myself got him going a bit. Though I haven't written in a long time. But before we lived together I'd link him to my lush page and obviously that leads to browsing the site after too.

    Maybe you could use her phone to your advantage and drop her a FB message linking to a story you like when she's on the phone as a "conversation starter". Besides if nothing else it's pretty direct.

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