1. Phone sex while already having an OH

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    Alm1 [sign in to see picture]
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    I love my OH and we have quite a fulfilling sex life and relationship. However recently I got involved in having phone sex/texting with another guy who really turns me on.
    Is this cheating?
    He really brings me to top orgasm when on the phone and I love it. I think it’s the mystery of it all. I don’t know him so we fantasise about what he n I are up to.
    Also I never know what he’s going to talk about so it’s really stimulating. Should I keep going or call it off?

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    Dickiebird [sign in to see picture]
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    You have not stated if your OH knows about this third party. If he doesn’t then I would imagine that he would be affected by you having phone sex with someone else. You state that you know what the third party is going to say. Have you spoken to your OH about what turns you on.Maybe your OH could do the same for you?

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    How would you feel if your half was doing the same behind your back? If you found out he was getting his rocks off with another person behind your back would you say "ye carry on", or would you feel cheated and say "stop now"?

    From your answer lies the answer to your question

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    True xx

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    I should talk to him about those sorts of things that are turning me on and maybe a bit of role play etc with my other half would have the same effect. Just don’t know how to start the conversation about the mystery part of sex play with him. Thanks for the advice/ wake up call Hampshire couple and Dickiebird x

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    I can understand that it is not always easy to raise issues regarding sex with your OH.
    But if your relationship is to flourish you will need to find a way that you both can discuss positions or what you like and dislikes. This is the time you need to find a way.Stop the phone sex now, it will only cause upset if you don’t.

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    I personally 100% get what your doing!! I have done the same in the past but when my oh find out it neerly ended us so it is not worth it. Just be careful with what your doing and think what your oh would do and feel if he found out. :)

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    The answer is simple, if your OH knows and agrees, carry on, if he doesn't, then you're cheating on them....quickest way to destroy a relationship for absolutely sod all real gain....how much does your OH mean to you? so little you would risk losing them for a phone quickie? Give your head a check and get yourself back to where you really should be. Invest in your relationship, it needs to be nurtured and cared for, ignore it and you'll lose it.

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    There have been quite a few posts similar to this recently. I will say to you what I have said to others in this situation. Yes, it's cheating unless you have an arrangement with your OH. If its secretive it's wrong.

    This sort of thing nearly killed my marriage, years on and the trust still isn't fully restored. It's heartbreaking being on the other side, knowing you just aren't enough to keep the one you love happy. Johnny Depp once said if you are involved with 2 people and need to choose always pick the second, you never truly lived the first if you needed another.

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    Thanx to everyone. I needed a wake up call and got it from you. Phone sex is OVER . He was using me just as much as I was him.
    My OH is too precious to risk - I am going to be more candid with him about what gets my rocks off.

    Actually feel relieved xx

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    Alm1 wrote:

    Thanx to everyone. I needed a wake up call and got it from you. Phone sex is OVER . He was using me just as much as I was him.
    My OH is too precious to risk - I am going to be more candid with him about what gets my rocks off.

    Actually feel relieved xx

    Good move. Enjoy your time with your fella

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    Great to see you have given up the Phone Sex.
    I am sure you have made the right decision and can now have a more fulfilling relationship with your OH

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    Alm1 [sign in to see picture]
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    Thanx Dickiebird. Appreciated your honesty x

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    No problem, honesty is always the best policy.

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