1. Seeking online female for fun, isn't cheating, right?

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    Humpy Tail [sign in to see picture]
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    So, I'm happily married, but my wife has a very low libido in comparison to myself. I watch porn and often view porn webcams to get my kicks and thrills to jerk off to.

    Just recently I've been thinking about seeking an online friend who just wants to goof around, share photos/videos and fullfill my sexual urges. My question is, would this be considered as doing wrong?

    I have no desire to have sex with someone else in any way shape or form, nor am I seeking a real life affair, just someone who is up for online fun.

    Thoughts?

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    Humpy Tail [sign in to see picture]
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    I would like to add my wife is fully aware of my higher sex drive and doesn't mind me watching porn to get my kicks.

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    NatandTom [sign in to see picture]
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    If you have to ask this question, then it probably is.

    Would your wife be ok with you talking to someone else in a sexual way? If the answer is no, then it’s cheating. She might be fine with the porn but that doesn’t mean she’s going to be fine with you getting your kicks from someone else.

    Cheating doesn’t have to be physical. If your partner wouldn’t be ok with it or you have to hide it from them, then it’s cheating.

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    wildflower [sign in to see picture]
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    Some people may consider this cheating ....question being is your wife one of them? Watching porn and interacting with someone else in a sexual way even if it's just online are two totally different things in my opinion.

    There's really only one solution to this and that's to be upfront about it with your wife. If she's totally against the idea then you need to accept that it's crossing the boundaries in your relationship .

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    Jezebella [sign in to see picture]
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    I too think you should speak to your wife about it as honesty is always best to keep a relationship strong.

    Have you considered using a professional? There are plenty of sex workers online now who will send you pics / have webcam sessions for a fee. Probably would be best as you could find a sex worker who specialises in the kinds of material you would like. It would also be much less likely you would form a relationship with this person, as sex workers have professional boundaries.

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    LucieLoo [sign in to see picture]
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    If your going behind your wife's back then I definitely think so.
    If your wife is okay with what you already do why not sit down and talk to see if she's OK with what you would like to do?

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    NatandTom wrote:

    If you have to ask this question, then it probably is.

    Would your wife be ok with you talking to someone else in a sexual way? If the answer is no, then it’s cheating. She might be fine with the porn but that doesn’t mean she’s going to be fine with you getting your kicks from someone else.

    Cheating doesn’t have to be physical. If your partner wouldn’t be ok with it or you have to hide it from them, then it’s cheating.

    +1 Totally agree with the above

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    Humpy Tail [sign in to see picture]
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    Thanks for the feedback everyone. If I were to sit down and speak with my wife about this I very much doubt she would be ok with this, which in turn answers my own question that this wouldn't be right.

    I guess I'll just add it to my fantasy list and carry on as I did before. I guess I'm just a little frustrated with the lack of sex compared to how things used to be. But I'm sure everything will figure itself out in the end.

    Thanks again everyone

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    LucieLoo [sign in to see picture]
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    Humpy Tail wrote:

    Thanks for the feedback everyone. If I were to sit down and speak with my wife about this I very much doubt she would be ok with this, which in turn answers my own question that this wouldn't be right.

    I guess I'll just add it to my fantasy list and carry on as I did before. I guess I'm just a little frustrated with the lack of sex compared to how things used to be. But I'm sure everything will figure itself out in the end.

    Thanks again everyone

    Have you spoken to your wife about your frustration? Communication makes then world of diffrence. She can't do anything about it if she doesn't know, she's not a mind reader X
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    JoJoXxX [sign in to see picture]
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    I'd personally be deverstated if my partner did that. Maybe attempt to put your efforts into working on her libido see if there's anything you can do to help her find it again. The damage that your idea could cause could be irreversible and make the current situation worse. Plus it could damage her confidence in both herself and you making that libido 10 times harder to get back.
    Hope it works out for you x

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    Humpy Tail wrote:

    Thanks for the feedback everyone. If I were to sit down and speak with my wife about this I very much doubt she would be ok with this, which in turn answers my own question that this wouldn't be right.

    I guess I'll just add it to my fantasy list and carry on as I did before. I guess I'm just a little frustrated with the lack of sex compared to how things used to be. But I'm sure everything will figure itself out in the end.

    Thanks again everyone

    Well done for realising this before you did something you'd regret! As others have said, though, have you tried talking to your wife about your frustrations. Things might not figure themselves out without an honest, respectful conversation.

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    Vanessa8 [sign in to see picture]
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    Porn is a fantasy land... you are not personally connecting to those people youa re being visually stimulated and probably masturbate.

    But a specific chat up with a person may be more personal and can get emotional in my book so I think the OP has himself sorted here that that probably would not be ok to his OH but for others I think talking to your partner is the best route.

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    SquirtyPanda [sign in to see picture]
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    I class it as cheating. anything sexual with someone else is of course cheating

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    LIL_KNOWN69 [sign in to see picture]
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    Would to be willing to tell your partner about this online fun? And how would you feel if she did the same?

    Online fun with another person is very different from porn

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    Consent.

    If your OH consents to these behaviours, then that is not cheating.

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    Lozz [sign in to see picture]
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    I think maybe you need to sit down and have an honest discussion with your wife - is there a reason she has a low libido, can you work on that? That may be the better option for you both

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    HoneyBabe [sign in to see picture]
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    Hi there.

    Myself as a women would find this very degrading if my partner did this. Just because she has a low labido doesnt mean she would be happy for you to share pictures with another female for sexual pleasures.

    There will always be worries of " oh he may fimd this or that person more attractive " " what have i done so wrong? " You may find your wife will become very unhappy and doubt herself and she will belief she isnt enough to fulfill your needs..

    You could maybe ask her? Or just continue on the porn sites if that is what she happy with ☺

    Personally i dont think having online fun with another women would do your relationship any good ☺ Hope this helps!

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