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    sexisfunissex [sign in to see picture]
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    Was wondering if anyone could help me with positions etc. As anal absolutely kills! My partner is pretty girthy and liked it rough but I can’t even handle his tip! Is this normal - we use loads of lube and butt plugs etc. But it hurts so much?!???

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    Xialos [sign in to see picture]
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    You could try wearing a butt plug before attempting anal, if you haven't done so already. It might make things a little easier.

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    sexisfunissex [sign in to see picture]
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    We have tried buttplugs before anal and for some reason it still hurts so much - maybe the position?

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    ButtPlugFan [sign in to see picture]
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    I don’t think the position is the issue here, but you could always try lying on your back, this is supposed to relax you a bit more, but it’s generally whatever is most comfortable for you.

    I think Xialos is right with the butt plug, maybe the one you used is a bit too small. Here are some products that I use before a girthy experience:

    - Lovehoney Booty Buddy Silicone Butt Plug - https://www.lovehoney.co.uk/product.cfm?p=16665 (I use this to loosen up before any other toy goes in, but you could also use fingers as an alternative).

    - Lovehoney Lifelike Lover Realistic Dildo 6 Inch - https://www.lovehoney.co.uk/product.cfm?p=22814 (This is the dildo I use, but any beginner sized dildo will do, I use this to gerenrally get used to the feeling of a regular penis, and after I use this I can move onto bigger dildos to get used to the length/girth of the penis I will be taking)

    - Doc Johnson Medium Butt Plug - https://www.lovehoney.co.uk/product.cfm?p=38 (I use this to loosen up before moving onto another toy with a bit more girth).

    - Cock Locker Inflatable Foam Core Ball Butt Plug 6 Inch - https://www.lovehoney.co.uk/product.cfm?p=36890 (try pushing this toy out and back in, and then gradually increasing the size once you are comfortable, but don’t do it to the point where it is difficult and painful to push out/in).

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    lovingnewtoys [sign in to see picture]
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    I would just say if it hurts that much don't do it. Your body is trying to tell you to stop.

    Just my opinion x

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    ButtPlugFan [sign in to see picture]
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    I agree, if it does hurt so much, even after loosening up appropriatley, you probably shouldn’t continue with it.

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    sexisfunissex [sign in to see picture]
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    I feel as if I’ll try a few more times and masturbate and if after that it’still to painful unfortunately my anal days will have to be put away 😔

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    ChloJakes [sign in to see picture]
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    Hey!

    I used to have similar trouble with anal and occasionally still do. I basically have to start in a spooning position and them move into others. I can't seem to start in any other position as it really hurts!

    You maybe just need to persist with the butt plugs, moving up sizes slowly until it resembles your OH.

    Lube, anal beads and butt plugs have been my saviours. Have you also considered glass dildos?

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    sexisfunissex [sign in to see picture]
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    I’ve always wanted to try a glass dildo - I’m a bit sceptically worried though; what are they like? Yeah I think I’ll do that and work my way up. Thanks for the advice!!

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    Alicia4Ever [sign in to see picture]
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    https://www.lovehoney.co.uk/community/forums/sex-tips-and-talk/1663132-1st-time-anal/

    https://www.lovehoney.co.uk/community/forums/sex-tips-and-talk/1663132-1st-time-anal/#p1663242

    Take a look at these threads, I wrote some longer info on anal there.

    I think the main thing you are doing is you perhaps haven't built up to it; it can take a while starting with a smaller anal dildo, or fingers then working up in size gradually over time, before having actual anal sex from your OH.

    it's something you need to keep up with, at least at first; as your anus will sort of forget how to react and relax to something going up it.

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    ChloJakes [sign in to see picture]
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    Glass dildos are awesome! You can get thinner ones which can be good for anal. I sometimes start with a glass dildo rather than a butt plug, but everyone is different! You just have to try loads of different things, until you find what's right for you.

    Good luck with everything and let us know how you get on :)

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    sexisfunissex [sign in to see picture]
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    Thanks very much! I’ll get looking for a glass one now!!

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    KingGrthy [sign in to see picture]
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    You just need to practice anal play. I would reccomend getting a dildo of a similar size as your partner or even a little larger and then practice until you know how to handle the toy without pain. Then you will be able to enjoy anal with your partner, rather than just tolerate it. The reason I reccomend doing it by yourself is because its the easiest way to really learn how to control your sphincter muscles.

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    DaisyDee [sign in to see picture]
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    I’m not sure if you’ve already had this answer... but I’m new to anal and I love to go on top as I have full control of speed, depth, that kind of thing, just be careful he doesn’t get over excited, grab your hips and slams you down on him 😳 I tend to hold his hands above his head x

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    Humpy Tail [sign in to see picture]
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    Speaking from a males perspective I find my wife relaxes most if I go down on her before hand, including her butt.

    She was not enjoying things before I tried this, now she can't get enough. I am rather girthy too, so this might just work out for you.

    And yes, on your back with a pillow or two under your butt to better your position should also help.

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    Whitworth [sign in to see picture]
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    As above, my wife relaxes and can't get enough of being rimmed beforehand. I'd recommend trying this to relax you and enjoy it more.

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    AMcouple5231 [sign in to see picture]
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    This is an interesting thread for me. I’m acutally the one that enjoys the anal play rather than my wife. I’ve never actually performed it on her but she has used a few toys on me and we love it. We are still pretty new with it but I can get enough. I’ve been looking at a number of new toys to try some new things. I’d recommend trying the Lovehoney Vibrating Inflatable Butt Plug or any other inflatable anal toy to help prep you before getting physical.

    Some of the toys I’ve been interested in:

    Lovehoney Vibrating Inflatable Butt Plug
    https://www.lovehoney.com/product.cfm?p=6406

    Malesation Remote Control Vibrating Prostate Massager with Ball Loop
    https://www.lovehoney.com/product.cfm?p=37450

    Lovehoney Bumper Booty Bundle Anal Sex Toy Kit (6 Piece)
    https://www.lovehoney.com/product.cfm?p=37704

    Fetish Fantasy Double Delight Vibrating Double Dildo Strap-On Set
    https://www.lovehoney.com/product.cfm?p=29012

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    Angus&clare [sign in to see picture]
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    Hi everyone I am trying to get my partner to try anal more but she’s very against it even tho the last time we did it she loved it, thanks for your help

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    NWMonkey83 [sign in to see picture]
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    If she's against it there's not much you can do, except talk to her and find out why she's against it so much .If she lets you know why then you could try to overcome any issues

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    Angus&clare [sign in to see picture]
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    Will try that tonight thank you

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