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  1. Is it even really a bj...work talk. (Fun)

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    Jay13 [sign in to see picture]
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    I work in a male dominated work force and sex chat/ banter comes up alot.

    Some recent comments.

    Is it even really a bj if she dosnt gag?

    Can you fit two dog's in a bath?

    Most talk about anal sex and make it sound like every girl loves it.

    Even down to **edited** sex ideas like

    The rusty pirate

    Tarmacing

    And A2M.

    Please feel free to add recent comments or thing's disscusses by yourself

    Or

    Thoughts on any of above.

    Thanks

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    Weeradge [sign in to see picture]
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    I probably come ocross as a bit old fashioned ,but when I'm at work , sat haing a cup of tea with a few fellas , I don;t like it when they start using crude terminlogy in front of women .
    I consider that I wouldn't like vulgar talk in front of my mum ,wife or Sister , and these women are all somene's daughter .
    I even , semi jokingly ,tell some of the young ones of for using ba language in front of ladies .
    They think I'm a real prude .........If only they knew LOL

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    Delboy1991 [sign in to see picture]
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    Sound like they are a bit immature to me 🤔 what might be "removed" to some might not be to others..no shaming here 🤚

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    KinkyMira [sign in to see picture]
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    Sounds like thoroughly inappropriate topics for a workplace if you ask me.

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    NatandTom [sign in to see picture]
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    Sounds like the men you work with watch too much porn and don’t respect women much.

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    RosyCheek [sign in to see picture]
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    I too work in a male dominated work place and these topics are highly inappropriate. If one member of staff even mentioned something on these topics it could be grounds for dismissal.

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    Lovehoney - Jess Wilde [sign in to see picture]
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    Ugh. It's 2018: When will guys realise that locker room 'banter' is sexism under a different guise. 

    How would you feel if you found out a bunch of men were talking this way about your sister/daughter/mum? 

    Exactly. Bloody disgusting.

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    LIL_KNOWN69 [sign in to see picture]
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    I’m fine with a bit of crude banter, but I don’t allow talk of a graphic nature in my team. I run an office of around 27 members of staff and I can tell a few find it extremely distasteful, even if one person in the office feels uncomfortable then I shut things down very quickly.

    We tend to discuss tv and things happening in the world. Recently it’s been a lot of people getting involved in fitness and healthy eating due to January being the “new me” phase of the year. Most of the lads who tend to discuss sex in graphic details openly need to have a bit more respect for their partners.

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    DreamsOfChi [sign in to see picture]
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    Yak, sounds like these guys are a wee bit immature to say the least. Perhaps they need to read something a bit more intellectual than Viz's Profanisaurus.

    Although I now work from home (BLISS!) I have held my own in a few 'lively' workplaces but there is a line that really shouldn't be crossed. As others have said, it's about respect. I can talk about sex until the cows come home but there's nothing big or clever about demeaning women for 'bants'.

    Being intimate with someone is a beautiful thing, disrespecting the people who trust you enough to allow that intimacy is just not cool. Nothing wrong with indulging in filth in the bedroom but discussing it in public to score points with your mates is always going to be nothing but classless.

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    myrkari [sign in to see picture]
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    I'm the only girl in my office and I guarantee all the guys would be more embarrassed than me by talking about any of that stuff, we're quite a serious bunch here. Swearing and joking in general seem OK but I can't think of a time when there's been any sexual jokes. I'm very glad.

    Haven't they done sensitivity training at your place? Crikey.

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    BigInBerks [sign in to see picture]
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    Lovehoney - Jess Wilde wrote:

    Ugh. It's 2018: When will guys realise that locker room 'banter' is sexism under a different guise.

    How would you feel if you found out a bunch of men were talking this way about your sister/daughter/mum?

    Exactly. Bloody disgusting.

    Going to have to pull you up here Jess (and hope I don't get booted off LH ;) )

    There's no place for this conversation in the workplace, absolutely agree on that. But a group of women talking dirty about men is just as likely as the other way around.

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    Lovehoney - Leanne [sign in to see picture]
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    I think because the OP has stated "male" that is where the comments towards men discussing this are coming from.  Also, with recent media, it has become more talked about with men and their 'banter' towards another sex.  I myself have had to report local businesses for their comments towards me walking into work. Sadly, these were all males commenting towards me as a female. 

    But, I totally agree it happens the other way around. 

    And I think we can all agree,  this type of behaviour and attitude towards discussing any other sex/gender openly in a workplace is out of order. 

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    Lovehoney - Leanne wrote:

    I think because the OP has stated "male" that is where the comments towards men discussing this are coming from. Also, with recent media, it has become more talked about with men and their 'banter' towards another sex. I myself have had to report local businesses for their comments towards me walking into work. Sadly, these were all males commenting towards me as a female.

    But, I totally agree it happens the other way around.

    And I think we can all agree, this type of behaviour and attitude towards discussing any other sex/gender openly in a workplace is out of order.

    BigInBerks wrote:

    Lovehoney - Jess Wilde wrote:

    Ugh. It's 2018: When will guys realise that locker room 'banter' is sexism under a different guise.

    How would you feel if you found out a bunch of men were talking this way about your sister/daughter/mum?

    Exactly. Bloody disgusting.

    Going to have to pull you up here Jess (and hope I don't get booted off LH ;) )

    There's no place for this conversation in the workplace, absolutely agree on that. But a group of women talking dirty about men is just as likely as the other way around.

    Your both right on this . Its upto every individual to report this sort of talk as it borders onto sexual harrassment.

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    Lovehoney - Jess Wilde [sign in to see picture]
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    BigInBerks wrote:

    Lovehoney - Jess Wilde wrote:

    Ugh. It's 2018: When will guys realise that locker room 'banter' is sexism under a different guise.

    How would you feel if you found out a bunch of men were talking this way about your sister/daughter/mum?

    Exactly. Bloody disgusting.

    Going to have to pull you up here Jess (and hope I don't get booted off LH ;) )

    There's no place for this conversation in the workplace, absolutely agree on that. But a group of women talking dirty about men is just as likely as the other way around.

    Hmm.. I would agree that women do talk about men/their preferred gender in a sexual way, but it's usually in private, and doesn't come with the same background connotations. I'd also say that (generally speaking) women tend not to be quite so crude when discussing their preferred gender sexually, but obviously that's a sweeping statement and I can't speak for all ladyfolk. 

    In my personal opinion, I would say that, as a result of years of female opression, comments about women's sexuality comes with more pain and anguish than those made about the socially preferred gender: men.

    For example, if I made a "bantery" joke about someone's weight who I know for a fact loves their body, my joke would roll over them like water off a ducks back. They would likely laugh and take the joke as a joke.

    If I made the exact same joke with the same delivery to someone who already felt sensitive about their weight, it would likely go down like a lead balloon and the person would feel really hurt. Even though my intent wouldn't be to hurt them, their back story means it did and regardless of intent, I would still owe that person an apology. 

    For millenia, 'the fairer sex' have been cited (mostly by men / people in power) as being best for breeding, being "sexy" and eMoTiOnS, so when jokes are made about those topics they sting a little more than when they're said about 'the stronger gender' who are seen as "smart", "strong" and "powerful". 

    In an ideal world, all genders would be equal and then we could all confidently banter away to our hearts content with wild abandon. Sadly, whilst genuine equality is still a farce around the globe, some extra consideration needs to be taken so as not to hurt our fellow humans.

    As a species, we listen to our peers more than those in power, our parents and the media, so the quickest and most effective way to get to equality is to pull our friends up when they make innappropriate comments. In just the same way as you would give your mate a slap on the wrist for a racial slur and explain why it's wrong, it's time to start doing the same with sexist slurs, no matter how "innocently" they were intended. 

    Most people who make these comments are unware of their impact and do it to 'fit in with the lads' or boost their social status (which, when you think about it is pretty sad; these people feel the need to put someone else down to raise themselves up). So it's about gentle education and making certain comments socially unacceptable. Then, when some jerk makes a nasty comment about women / a certain race / disability / sexuality etc etc, they'll just be shooting themselves in the foot and fall down the social ladder, rather than climb up it. 

    But those are just my musings! 

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    mysteron wrote:

    BigInBerks wrote:

    Your both right on this . Its upto every individual to report this sort of talk as it borders onto sexual harrassment.

    Yes, good point. 

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    I've worked for a construction company and even the 'rough and ready' builders/site guys were perfectly capable of moderating their behaviour, jokes, banter etc to the company present, in fact they were some of the most respectfull and decent guys I've known and would certainly have pulled a colleague up if they got inappropriate.

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    omg this is sexual harassment / creating a hostile work environment in my area if the world...

    what is the point of your post? too feel validated this is acceptable behavior at work in 2018... you wont get a pat on the back from me... this does not belong at work.

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    Vanessa8 [sign in to see picture]
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    PS if you are curious about sexual chat amongst mates and topics like that i think it would be an interesting thread to read but given the mind set this is going on at work is just eeeek.

    I am a survivor of workplace harassment because of "guys being guys" thank god my male boss stood up for me.

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    Mr Pheebs [sign in to see picture]
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    I work in a female dominated environment so I see the polar opposite of this stuff and it’s just as common so when I can I stamp down on it, I do so and it always raises eyebrows and makes people blush. It’s hierarchical nonsense, unfortunately, people get stuck in the middle but you don’t need to be. Lads and laddets are just the worst they do my fruit....

    If they stopped being Muppets and thought about what they were actually saying they would be really embarrassed. Either that or maybe they’re not clever enough to be embarrassed. That’s my experience anyway.

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    Even if the guys were discussing such I would politely refrain from adding comment, and I was under the impression that males (used) tend not to discus openly about sex guess it depends on the individual be they male or female?

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