1. Extreme premature ejaculation

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    Cw91 [sign in to see picture]
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    I have had this problem all of my sexual life. The only thing that works are really strong delay sprays. I feel like I’m going to orgasm as soon as I’m touched. This means I have to spray before I have sex with my OH which isn’t ideal. I have tried all the normal methods.

    Does anyone know of any medicine or pills (or any other method) I can take so I don’t have to do this? Is there any medical procedure?

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    Alicia4Ever [sign in to see picture]
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    If you could say just what you have tried otherwise I would be guessing.

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    Stop start technique
    Cock rings
    Solo play an an hour or so before
    Practising better habits whilst solo
    Delay lube
    Condoms


    The really strong delay spray works.

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    Alicia4Ever [sign in to see picture]
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    Solo play an hour before will give you time to re-load as it were, how quickly can you get hard again after cumming, as many guys find that if they receive a hand job or whatever sometime during fore play on her, after about 5 or 10 minutes they can go again. only they have not had time to fully recover, so they last longer. if you can go multiple times in quick sucession, you may take longer each time; it doesn't have to be through been in her, as you could end up making her sore. Unless she likes to do that kind of sex.

    Cock rings can either slow you down or speed things up depending on the guy.

    Not sure what you mean by " better habits, while solo" ; it wold help if you could explain this too. Also do you cum quickly when solo. The reason I ask this is to see if it's more of a psychological thing rather than a physical stimulation thing.

    Guy's can get problems if they masturbate too often, and with a heavy hand; it can cause them to struggle to cum duing sex with a woman, as her vagina is not providing as much stimulation as they have become usd to from theer heavy handed masturbation. So it may help if you do this until you last longer, with her; don't do it so much that you end up with the opposite problen I just mentioned.

    Watching too much porn while solo can cause guys a problem in reaching a climax with a partner; as the brain starts to depend on the over stimulation through the eyes; again watching porn may help to desensitise your mind if it's a mental thing that's causing you this problem; same with this though don't end up with a porn adiction, that results in you needing it to get off at all.

    Edging or stop start as you call it, just teaches you to recognise when you have reached that point when any more stimulation will mean you can't stop your climax, enabling you to back off and avoid cumming. With this have you just done this solo, or have you tried it while having sex; what you could try is as soon as you feel you are near, pull out and focus on her, give her some oral or whatever, foreplay in the middle as it were. Then go back to sex, and so on, the more you do this, it should help some.

    I don't know just how fast you cum, I once knew a guy who only had to have a woman put her hand on the front of his jeans, and it was all over for him. If this is you then the last paragraph won't help you much.

    Do you tense your pelvic floor muscles, you know to make your erection harder, lots of guys do this whithout really noticing, it also will make you cum faster; try to notice if you do this, and try not to, it will take abit of thinking about, to not do it as it can have become an automatic thing.

    Focus your thoughts on your partner, about pleasing her; if you find yourself focusing on what physical sensations you are feeling, or how utterly beautiful and sexy you find her; you can go back to thinking that kind of thing, once you have a handle on your problem. Thinking about pleasing her is more fun than the old trick of thinking about fixing car tyre or mowing the lawn; it's so your mind comes away from what you are feeling downstairs.

    Have you tried 2 condoms, it could be be that it is more of an in your head kind of problem, or a bit of both; if it's more in your head it could be why condoms don't help. Have a think about what is happening when you cum, is it all physical sensations, or are you all swiming with her in your head, like the guy I told you about who used to cum in his jeans, before anything happened.

    If you are still having problems go talk to your doctor, don't be shy they will have heard it all before; I know that guys who have been circumcised can last longer as the glans penis becomes desensitised, due to not been protected by the foreskin ( friction against underwear, day in day out) But it would be an extream thing to try, with no absolute guarantee of sucess. That's definatley one for a gp to answer.

    I have not heard of any pills to help.

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    Have you discussed your options with a doctor?

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    Don't be shy. If you can share this problem here, you can go and share it with you doctor, where I am sure you will get sympathetic and supportive treatment to help your condition.

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    As others have mentioned, I would speak to a doctor who may then refer you to a therapist or possibly have some other forms of delay products. Have you tried just using condoms? Just so it kind of removes part of the feeling down below?

    When you do your solo sessions, can you control it for longer? And have you tried any of the endurance toys?. You can get a fleshlight endurance kit to build yourself up to the main event. Unfortunately the delay sprays and condoms are they only real off the shelf products at the moment, as this can be psychological as well. Just be assured that a huge percentage of men suffer from premature ejaculation and it’s nothing to be embarrassed about. Maybe it’s worth just a quick doctor visit or a sex therapist to help, maybe speak to your partner too and see if they can help in certain situations to delay things.

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    Is it really a problem? I ejaculate the first time after a few minutes if I go hard at it, luckily I can reload in about 10 mins and normally in a good night can ejaculate about 6-8 times on an all night session. If you don't want to ejaculate quick, pull out and use your tongue. As you have already said, if the delay spray works for you, why do you not just keep using it.

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