1. Bi-Sexual males

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    emanem [sign in to see picture]
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    I have a couple of male sex partners who have no problem having a bit of Bi 'oral fun' when having group sex. It all started when I said in exasperation why is it its ok for men to love watching me and another women but in the main they cringe when it is suggested two men to the same?

    For me I find it a real turn on particularly when I and another guy are performing oral sex on a man. I am not saying all women find it a turn on but most I have spoken to do but their partners would never entertain it. My playing male friends are only bi in a sex situation and are heterosexual but their attitude is why shouldn’t everyone enjoy each others bodies.

    Be interesting to hear what other ladies or men think as I cannot see the different between 2 men or 2 women having a bit of fun.

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    Michael777 [sign in to see picture]
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    I'm bi and have sex with other guys. My OH would never entertain the idea of doing it whilst she watched. In fact she knows very little about my sexual antics with other men!

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    I find 2 guys together quite erotic too - but Mr Spider would never entertain the idea - not even in fantasy

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    One of my fantasies is to suck another guy off, but in the real world I'm not sure if I could, if I was it would have to be in a mmf.
    I have for many years enjoyed cum kisses and have recently started to try creampie (both with my cum) so I guess it's possible that's one day I will get my lips round a nice cock and feel it twitch as it releases a nice load in my mouth/ down my throat. I have practiced deep throating dildos and I always deep my bananas anywhere and everywhere except work.

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    loves fun wrote:

    One of my fantasies is to suck another guy off, but in the real world I'm not sure if I could, if I was it would have to be in a mmf.
    I have for many years enjoyed cum kisses and have recently started to try creampie (both with my cum) so I guess it's possible that's one day I will get my lips round a nice cock and feel it twitch as it releases a nice load in my mouth/ down my throat. I have practiced deep throating dildos and I always deep my bananas anywhere and everywhere except work.

    I really enjoy sucking other guys off till they cum. Possibly as much as receiving anal.
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    BigInBerks [sign in to see picture]
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    I've always had a bi side - I sucked cock before I'd even kissed a girl. Coming out as having a bi side to my wife after 15 years together was amazing. She presents to me her life like toys to suck, so who knows where we'll end up...?

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    Peakcouple [sign in to see picture]
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    We are both bi, her bisexual (had an FF relationship once) and him bi-playful or heteroflexible (not attracted to the same sex emotionally). We play bi separately occasionally, her with girlfriends and him in men-only saunas, and we also include bi play in our swinging activities when we are together.

    Many swinging woman are bi-playful but few swinging men are, our favourite couple who we've known for years are both bi. We also go to swinger club bi nights now and again, and bioth enjoy watching our OH involved in same-sex activity, as well as opposeite sex activity. She's particularly fascinated by MM penetrative sex.

    Some folk are bi inclined, some are not. We think everyone should try it ,but for some it's a taboo. Just be happy with what you are and let others do waht they want is our philosophy.

    We heard a comedian say years ago that he'd really like to be bisexual, but being rejected by women was bad enough for him, he couldn't take being rejected by men too!

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    As part of our swinging scene and as my wifes sub I'm expected to have sex with our male friends which I do and really enjoy it. My bisexual side took a long time coming out and I kept on denying it, but over the years Ive been kidding myself and now do as I'm told by my dom and I like it. My wife love to see me get penetrated by several of our male friends and receiving oral to completion.

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    SSLH [sign in to see picture]
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    Only have two answers on the subject. My wife has as much interest as me in male homosexual activity - and that is none. A female friend says she likes watching men having sex.

    Although I realise it's off topic, there's a question that I always wanted to ask swinger couples. Why do you think that female homosexual activity is so much welcome and encouraged, while male homosexual activity is mostly at best frawn upon? My suspicion is that this happens mostly because guys mostly love seeing girls (including their own) with other girls, and this is a reflection of the fact that the swinger environment is male dominated. But then we are not swingers, so I could be far from the truth.

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    Am bisexual. Despise double standards.

    I do get both men and women just assuming that my bisexuality means i want to be the man who fucks your husband in a threesome. Such is life.

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    Peakcouple [sign in to see picture]
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    SSLH wrote:

    Although I realise it's off topic, there's a question that I always wanted to ask swinger couples. Why do you think that female homosexual activity is so much welcome and encouraged, while male homosexual activity is mostly at best frawn upon? My suspicion is that this happens mostly because guys mostly love seeing girls (including their own) with other girls, and this is a reflection of the fact that the swinger environment is male dominated. But then we are not swingers, so I could be far from the truth.

    Don't agree the swinger environment is male dominated at all - when you visit a club you see the women are 'calling the shots' so to speak. It's very much their choice of who they have sex with, how many, when, where, etc. Once the sex has started it might give the impression that the men are dominant but that's just nature taking her course.

    Think the key is male confidence or lrather ack of, women are encouraged and even expected to interact with other women, it's seen as erotic not shameful. Whereas man with man sex is still seen as 'wrong' and some men feel that to do it makles them less masculine. We never see MM sex openly in clubs except on bi nights, if it happens it does so in locked private playrooms. During group play woman will kiss and touch one another, men never will.

    We have only seen one nasty incident in a club, and that was when one man touched another intimately in a crowded playroom. They went outside and a noiisy argument resulted. If a woman had touched another in the same way and it hadn't been welcomed, the hand would have been pushed gently aside and maybe the words "no thanks" or "I don't do that" spoken.

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    Peakcouple wrote:

    SSLH wrote:

    Although I realise it's off topic, there's a question that I always wanted to ask swinger couples. Why do you think that female homosexual activity is so much welcome and encouraged, while male homosexual activity is mostly at best frawn upon? My suspicion is that this happens mostly because guys mostly love seeing girls (including their own) with other girls, and this is a reflection of the fact that the swinger environment is male dominated. But then we are not swingers, so I could be far from the truth.

    Don't agree the swinger environment is male dominated at all - when you visit a club you see the women are 'calling the shots' so to speak. It's very much their choice of who they have sex with, how many, when, where, etc. Once the sex has started it might give the impression that the men are dominant but that's just nature taking her course.

    Think the key is male confidence or lrather ack of, women are encouraged and even expected to interact with other women, it's seen as erotic not shameful. Whereas man with man sex is still seen as 'wrong' and some men feel that to do it makles them less masculine. We never see MM sex openly in clubs except on bi nights, if it happens it does so in locked private playrooms. During group play woman will kiss and touch one another, men never will.

    We have only seen one nasty incident in a club, and that was when one man touched another intimately in a crowded playroom. They went outside and a noiisy argument resulted. If a woman had touched another in the same way and it hadn't been welcomed, the hand would have been pushed gently aside and maybe the words "no thanks" or "I don't do that" spoken.

    I can see how that happens in a club situations, where you might get two groups of people who'll have probably mentioned their boundaries in their group, who might get one or two people from each, merge (in want of a better word) with a group playing alongside them.

    We have had 4somes where I've been the only straight guy, but the boundary was discussed and not a problem, the bi-guy has played straight and hasn't made a move on me.

    Would I be offended, in the 4some yes as the rules have been set? In a group scenario, I think my rationale would to take the stance that I'd push away and/or say no thanks if I thought that it was possible the person doing it wasn't aware of my standing on this.

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    SSLH [sign in to see picture]
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    Thanks for your insights.

    If I can create a last bit of off topic: why do you think that in swinger couple around 70% of females claim to be bisexual or bi-curious, whereas the percentage for men is about 5%? In the general population this would be around 10% for each gender.

    Things that I think may help in explaining this:
    - swingers are a different, more sexually open group - but why then make bisexuality rates don't go (significantly) up?
    - some females are lying / over-stating their claims, to either or both:
    a) Please their male partners
    b) Get more chances of meeting other couples

    If you are a woman and meet a woman who is reportedly bisexual but then just closes her eyes and does it for England, it should be easy to tell. Is that a common experience? Thanks.

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    emanem [sign in to see picture]
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    Thanks for everyones comments, very interesting. I have been involved in the Swinger Liftstyle for 3 years now and whilst I accept https://www.lovehoney.co.uk/community/members/sslh/ comments that some women say they are bi to please their partners, I can assure you the majority generally are Bi. Conversely their are many men that are Bi (only in the lifestyle world I might add) but only a small amount auctually say they are as its not considered socially acceptable. The main reason is that can potentially put other people off meeting or playing with them when the truth is most Bi Swingers are fundamentally straight but they just enjoy group play with both sexes. Equally they are happy to play straight.

    My male playmates would never consider having a bi relationship of any description in their non-lifestyle swinging world.

    So I go back to my first point, why is it one rule for women and another for men?

    Oh and dislike the word Swinger... Refers back to the 1970's keys on a bowl scenario. Much prefer lifestyle as its just like dating accept there is something else to come at the end of the evening ;-)

    xx

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    SSLH [sign in to see picture]
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    Probably my summary of the discussion from the members in the lifestyle perspective is that you need to go to a bi night / party to witness this openly - there should be a fair deal of those around.

    Not expecting to start swinging any time soon (in fact I'm sure it will never happen). So speaking in abstract, I would feel comfortable to give a female partner a spit roast or DP experience with a male. If she wasn't bi or bi-curious, I wouldn't ask her ever to do something with a woman just to please me.

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    As a CD I do enjoy sex with men but get the impression that if I was not dressed as fem they would be less interested .When my wife was in good health we would play with another bi couple and the ladies did like seeing me and the guy 69 each other and quite often I would get fu*ked by him as they watched but he was only a giver not a taker .Sex with the same sex is more exceptable these days and if it feels good do I say !

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    Male half here, i myself am completly open in being bisexual and my other half is the same, it is such a turn on for both of us to watch the other play with same sexs and join in and have fun. becuase when we do it its always in the name of fun. Double standards is such a common problem here in todays life. i do also agree with most of the comment in that being bi behind the closed doors of sexual play but not openly is heavly stigmatized in todays life. its not seen as being socially acceptable still which is a real shame becuase we are who we are and theres nothing that should stop us for being and enjoying it so.

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    emanem wrote:

    So I go back to my first point, why is it one rule for women and another for men?

    Simple answer to that is because it's men who make the rules. !!

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    We are a both bi couple amd my wife loves to share a cock with me. Its not for everybody. To be able to have fun with others and not worry in the mix who is touching who is very liberating and relaxing.

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    I have left the door open for my husband to express that side of himself should it be who he is but I would never force it because I find it a turn on. How I see it is sexuality is something that can't be forced on another person as it to do with another person's identity. Should that person want to explore bi-curiosity or bisexuality I would support entirely but I don't think it is double standards to not want to engage in something that is not part of their own sexuality. Straight guys find lesbians a turn on is because they are straight and that is two objects of his desire having sex, bi females and males haven't made themselves bisexual that's their identity and that's why it isn't double standards in my opinion.

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