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  1. Swingers Club - Question about etiquette

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    MalRoss [sign in to see picture]
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    I am thinking of going to a Swingers Club, would you advise me to remove my pubes as most swingers appear to do that?

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    Michael777 [sign in to see picture]
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    Look clean, tidy and smell nice are the basics. Neatly trimmed will suffice as opposed to full on bald.

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    Peakcouple [sign in to see picture]
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    Just be yourself, we are seeing more pubic hair in swinger clubs than we did a few years back, including young people, fashions are changing. Many men like bushes, anyway.

    If you've never been to a club before it may take some getting used to, people happily doing things openly that most people only do in private, rather like watching a live porn movie rather than one on a screen, but with 'real' people, not ones with unrealistic bodies.

    Despite being raunchy, they are also respectful places. Don't forget the golden rule - NO means NO. You can always say "no thanks " if someone suggests or does something you don't want, and you should respect that if it's said to you. Clubs are very strict on this.

    Take things at your own pace, we didn't swap on our first visit and didn't do a full swap until a few visits later. There's no pressure, you can just watch of you want and nobody will mind.

    Enjoy, you will either love it or hate it, hope it's the first!

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    MalRoss [sign in to see picture]
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    Peakcouple wrote:

    Just be yourself, we are seeing more pubic hair in swinger clubs than we did a few years back, including young people, fashions are changing. Many men like bushes, anyway.

    If you've never been to a club before it may take some getting used to, people happily doing things openly that most people only do in private, rather like watching a live porn movie rather than one on a screen, but with 'real' people, not ones with unrealistic bodies.

    Despite being raunchy, they are also respectful places. Don't forget the golden rule - NO means NO. You can always say "no thanks " if someone suggests or does something you don't want, and you should respect that if it's said to you. Clubs are very strict on this.

    Take things at your own pace, we didn't swap on our first visit and didn't do a full swap until a few visits later. There's no pressure, you can just watch of you want and nobody will mind.

    Enjoy, you will either love it or hate it, hope it's the first!

    What is the average age would you say? Are there any clubs you could recommend?
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    Michael777 [sign in to see picture]
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    When we have been there's always been a good cross section of ages both in couples and single guys if it's not a couples only night.
    As for good ones, depends where you live. You'll find reviews of clubs on various swinging sites which will give you an idea
    We've visited ones round the Manchester area and probably favour Cupids, although it's some time since we've been now.

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    4Uonly [sign in to see picture]
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    1st time landed in a swingers club in Seattle WA. Most people are in mid 30 to 50+. 70% males from observation.

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    Peakcouple [sign in to see picture]
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    MalRoss wrote:

    What is the average age would you say? Are there any clubs you could recommend?

    Any age really - most are 30s and 40s we'd guess, but you see quite a few older couples (like us) and the occasional very young couple. You have to be 18 to get in.

    We are regulars at Chameleons, Darlaston near Birmingham, it is welcoming, very well fitted out and has a pleasant attendance. We like the rule that you have to undress on arrival and wear lingerie or a towel - except upstairs where nudity is normal (and in the jacuzzis).  Some people are nude in the bar as the evenings go on.

    Our first club was La Chambre, Sheffield, we went here every month for a couple of years. Been a few times since. It has a disco (which Chameleons doesn't) if you like dancing. You can wear 'street' clothes in the bar.

    You have to ciontact these two clubs before you attend, Chams has a waiting list for single men.  Both have good websites. There are many other clubs around the UK, some you don't need to contact before turning up.  Fabswingers has a good clubs section, with locations, entry details such as prices and customer reviews.

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    Check out " the vanilla alternative " in sandy , Bedford..never been ( wish I had the balls ) but have heard it's one of the best. I believe you also have to sign up online.

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    4Uonly [sign in to see picture]
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    Hi Peakcouple, instead of becoming a member, do they have guest membership? I mean at Chameleon.

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    Peakcouple [sign in to see picture]
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    4Uonly wrote:

    Hi Peakcouple, instead of becoming a member, do they have guest membership? I mean at Chameleon.

    We have taken non-member guests to couples nights and singles night, but our guests were always couples. We think single women can get in as guests too (on couples as well as singles nights) but suspect single men can't be guests. Give the club a ring and ask, they're really friendly! Their number will be on their website and they have a Facebook group too.

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    After attending various parties I would say just make sure your member is trimmed. Doesnt need to be bald. Maybe shave your shaft and balls but you can just trim your pubes down a bit if its a jungle.

    Make sure you have a nice clean, freshen your breath, maybe wear a nice aftershave and smile, you will do fine!

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    How does one even find such places? Seems very word of mouth.

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    MK7 wrote:

    How does one even find such places? Seems very word of mouth.

    If you join fab swingers there's a club directory

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    Hi Peakcouple, thanks. Has sexual diseases ever cross your mind? I would not call myself a virtue woman but this is one area that worries and stops me.

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    Is everyone generally naked?

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    4Uonly wrote:

    Hi Peakcouple, thanks. Has sexual diseases ever cross your mind? I would not call myself a virtue woman but this is one area that worries and stops me.

    Yes, which is why we don't bareback wirh strangers. You'll find the only people not using condoms in swinger clubs are partnered or very good friends. Some clubs have bowls of free condoms in the bar but we always bring our own. We don't use condoms or dental dams for oral with strangers, never have, and have had no problems at all.

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    Peakcouple [sign in to see picture]
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    KingGrthy wrote:

    Is everyone generally naked?

    Depends on the club rules, as mantioned some clubs allow people to wear clothes but others insist you undress to some extent on arrival. In the playrooms most people are nude apart from some women in lingerie, stockings, 'playsuits,' heels, etc. People are always totally naked in the sauna, steamroom, jacuzzi, or pool, if clubs have these.

    Some people walk around the playroom areas nude, we do; others wrap themselves in a towel or put lingerie back on when leaving a playroom. There are usually several playrooms, public and private, and maybe seats to sit on in the corridors. Like 'vanilla' naturist places, if you are nude you always sit on a towel for hygiene.

    At Chameleons quite a few people are nude in the bar as the night goes on, again, we usually are too. Everyone is respectful and there's no groping.

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    Wow! I want to go Chameleon if I can get a chance. The info by Peakcouple is so sexy.

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    Peakcouple wrote:

    KingGrthy wrote:

    Is everyone generally naked?

    Depends on the club rules, as mantioned some clubs allow people to wear clothes but others insist you undress to some extent on arrival. In the playrooms most people are nude apart from some women in lingerie, stockings, 'playsuits,' heels, etc. People are always totally naked in the sauna, steamroom, jacuzzi, or pool, if clubs have these.

    Some people walk around the playroom areas nude, we do; others wrap themselves in a towel or put lingerie back on when leaving a playroom. There are usually several playrooms, public and private, and maybe seats to sit on in the corridors. Like 'vanilla' naturist places, if you are nude you always sit on a towel for hygiene.

    At Chameleons quite a few people are nude in the bar as the night goes on, again, we usually are too. Everyone is respectful and there's no groping.

    Hey PeakCouple = Thanks for sharing all the info - Mr Spider is desperately wanting to try a club... me? I'm curious, but put off by the fact I'm on the large size and feel I'd be intimidated by all the younger skinny girls - do many older (I'm 52) and fat girls go to clubs? I understand there would be all sha[es and sizes - But hell I'm big! (also disabled) I'm on the vergeof suggesting he goes alone... I'm not making excuses but I can't loose weight cause of poor mobility and all the drugs I have to take. Do you think a club would be a good idea for us, with me being how I am?

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    Peakcouple [sign in to see picture]
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    LadySpider wrote:

    Hey PeakCouple = Thanks for sharing all the info - Mr Spider is desperately wanting to try a club... me? I'm curious, but put off by the fact I'm on the large size and feel I'd be intimidated by all the younger skinny girls - do many older (I'm 52) and fat girls go to clubs? I understand there would be all sha[es and sizes - But hell I'm big! (also disabled) I'm on the vergeof suggesting he goes alone... I'm not making excuses but I can't loose weight cause of poor mobility and all the drugs I have to take. Do you think a club would be a good idea for us, with me being how I am?

    There are all shapes and sizes in swinger clubs, you certainly don't have to have unrealistic "porn star" bodies! We are larger than average and many people much larger than us go - and we have played with some. Size doesn't mean you can't enjoy swinging, for sure. We know a woman who is both very large and has reduced mobility who goes to our local club and also to others. She seems to get planty of action as far as we've seen.

    While most of the playrooms are upstairs at Chameleons, there's a play area downstairs and other clubs will probably have similar places for those who can't use stairs. One club we visited didn't even have an upstairs.

    We would really recommend you try a club, as mentioned, there's no pressure to play and you can just watch others. All the ones we know have private playrooms, so if being watched isn't your thing, you can go to one with your playmates and lock the door. Swinger clubs really are a totally different, and liberating, experience!

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