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  1. How did you start your kinks?

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    lisa_uh [sign in to see picture]
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    Just curious, how did you get into kinky things?

    Mine started when my bf started asking me to spank him. Then it grew into caning and more discipline type, like when he is late for our dates, he gets caned. I still don't know how or when he really liked pain.

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    BigInBerks [sign in to see picture]
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    I've posted this a few times recently, so apologies if it's boring!

    We had friends over, boozy evening. The conversation turned to a story about someone my wife knows who was dumpedon a first date for refusing anal. We all agreed a man expecting anal on a first date was daft, probably the fault of porn.

    Later that night when cuddling in bed to fall asleep she confided to me that she'd like to try anal. All this time I'd been led to believe it would never happen, i'd not even asked! She asked if I'd done it before - I had.

    A couple of weeks later she reminded me while sober that she'd still like to try. I told her we needed to get some toys - she told me was my job. So I did. When I presented the toys a week later it all came flooding out. Including the fact we've both had bisexual episodes before, we'd both like 3somes. It was so liberating.

    4 deliveries from LH later the sex is amazing (after 10 years of rubbish!).

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    Yes man [sign in to see picture]
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    A kindle of all things! I've alway had the urges to try something new but my OH had always been very very vanilla! I bought her the kindle for Christmas in 2009 and it was the best thing I could have ever done. She started reading some soft porn stories on it and the recommendations gradually got harder and harder and it lit a fire in her curiosity as well as somewhere else! She decided she wanted to try some of the stuff they were doing in the books! She knew it was fiction but if it was halve as good as they said it was worth a go. Her biggest step was anal, this was never even mentioned in bed as I knew it would be a massive no go but thanks to the stories she was now curious enough to try it! She did everything that was written about gradual stretching to get ready for the first attempt and this is where Lovehoney came to the rescue! I mean where do you go as a very nieve person to buy a load of gradually bigger butt plugs! With Lovehoney, and others, we could shop in the privacy of our own home for all the stuff we needed. We bought the plugs and never looked back. We have bought and tried almost everything that she has read about from anal originally to nipple and pussy pumping, rope bondage, urethral stretching in me, pegging, stretching of her for fisting both holes, spanking and more, everything we do she is always dressed up in all manner of lingerie and costumes. She is now no longer vanilla but the full chocolate waffle cone with chilli ice cream, a flake and sprinkles on top!😂 So thanks Amazon and thanks Lovehoney!

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    AmyA [sign in to see picture]
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    Fan-fiction for me, although I don't know if I can call them kinks as I don't have a partner to explore them with but I certainly have a list of things I'd like to try, including subbing, pet-play and food kink. Toys have allowed me to explore anal but the rest will remain unfulfilled and untested.

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    ToGildALily [sign in to see picture]
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    Of all things, following models and performers who are in the alt fashion, burlesque and fetish scene. I love anything different, unusual and when it came to sex I wanted to understand why people are generally so uptight about it.

    Started in buying incredible lingerie, corsets and learning about the industry. I support indie brands, even met some of the designers and lingerie is a real passion of mine. I haven't yet tried latex wear as it's expensive but want to give it a go. With sex it's just been exploring things I am curious about and at last met a great male friend who is equally adventurous, curious and willing to try whatever piques our interest. So that has been a big step up in having crazy, sexy adventures with a fwb. Would be nice if it turned into a lifetime journey but who knows.

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    Aqualaria [sign in to see picture]
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    Well, I had known my now wife for about 9 years before we started. Neither of us was kinky beforehand. We got together on the Thursday, I was sucking on her boobs on the Friday and our first shag was the following Wednesday. :-D
    Anyway, our first kink was jammy sex, which I asked about and she was keen to do (her first period after we got together). Next was anal, which she offered during the jammy sex discussion, but we delayed til shortly after.
    We got a lot more kinky a few months in, when she was so exhausted one day that she desperately needed a pee, but could muster up the energy to get up the stairs. I offered to get a bucket so she could just roll off the settee. She said she assumed I'd watch, and I said of course, so she said OK. Other stuff then followed on after.
    This is only really possible because of the relationship we have. We are totally open and relaxed about pretty much everything. If we try something and it doesn't work, not problem, we just try something else.

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    RandA [sign in to see picture]
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    These soft porn stories.... any recomendations?

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    Corset_is [sign in to see picture]
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    Years ago I met a guy who told me he was a cross dresser and something about that excited me. Unfortunately it never got that far cos he decided he actually wanted to be a woman full time and I like cocks not pussies, but the thought of a man dressed as a woman or wearing lingerie in bed really excites me. I've just started chatting to a guy recently who is a cross dresser and kink-wise we are so on the same page right down to him wanting me to fuck 'her' with a strap on (another thing on my kinky wish list. I can't wait!!!!) No idea why that turns me on but it really does!

    Oh and an ex got me into anal.

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    Eager-2-Please [sign in to see picture]
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    When I first got into porn at er... 18 I guess, it was strictly of the hentai variety. I hated the live action stuff as it was filled (from my limited knowledge at the time) with platic-breasted barbie dolls who screamed and moaned unrealistically at every little touch, and it was all highly staged, highly controlled "professional" stuff.

    Ironically, that stuff was more fake, more manufactured to my eyes and ears than the highly stylised, colourful and horror/fantasy filled stuff being drawn and animated by the Japanese. Now, again at the time I didn't really know what it was I was watching, but as anyone else who's familiar with hentai will know, it is very much predominantly filled with BDSM and/or fetish related material.

    Nowadays I'm more into the live action porn and my tastes are quite varied/mood dependent, but again I tend to lean more towards BDSM/fetish stuff, or amateur/homemade stuff so it's real sex with real people (or at the very least, made to look that way for the viewer). I still avoid the overly staged "professional" stuff with fake women in it - mostly.

    So yeah. I blame porn. Specifically messed up hentai porn.

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    Lady Bella [sign in to see picture]
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    I first became interested in fetish clothing (PVC, leather, latex etc.) when I was reasonably young beause I absolutely loved the aesthetics of it, and all I can say is that Freddie Mercury has a lot to answer for! It was only when I got to being a teenager that I connected the dots and figured out that there was kinky business associated with the clothing and I decided I wanted in on it.

    I've always been dominant rather than submissive and that was something that simply came very naturally to me - I can't point to any specific root or particular experience. It was always just a part of my sexuality from the very beginning, and I've learned that trying to pretend that it's not there is not healthy for me, so I'm really glad I've found a partner who shares most of my kinks and passions.

    In terms of what I wanted out of a relationship, my eyes were seriously opened when I watched The People Versus Larry Flynt and there's a scene where Woody Harrelson and Courtney Love have a foursome with 2 girls in a hot tub. Once again, teenage me was all like, I want a bit of that - haha!

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    Weeradge [sign in to see picture]
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    interesting thread .
    My desire for dominant woman , I think , stems fro watching a film/ programme on TV many years ago , I was very young , too young to know anything about sex .
    It was a comedy (might have been Benny Hill ?) and there were a couple of guys , surrounded by a load of bikini clad female ,enjoying themselves very much (being stoked , etc)
    At that point ,I became aware of women's sexual power over men ,and it sort of stuck with me

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    Make mine a large one! [sign in to see picture]
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    I don't remember being any other way. With my first boyfriends, they thought I was just a nympho.
    But been with my husband for nearly 23 years, so my kinks have all just unfolded naturally over the years.
    All helped by the fact that I'll try anything once. It just seems I like rather a lot of them!

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    Senator [sign in to see picture]
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    Still discovering ours I guess.

    started after a night of drinking,p with a spectacular bottle of red wine with friends. Later that night, instead of the usual "alcohol puts her to sleep", it was more like our youth, alcohol made her horny. We had a great session including me just gently rimming her externally with a finger during sex, I'd not seen her so deep into sex in a long time. Got us talking about our sex life, it's routineness ect and she said she'd be open for anything, except butt stuff, she still had a hang up about that.

    That lead to my first lovehoney order, which included a blindfold and some restraints and remote toys for each of us.

    Night one was a bit of experimentation at being restrained and spanked (by hand) for both of us followed by some very vigorous sex. She then gave me instructions on on more toys for her impending birthday.

    That lead to order number two, which was some jiggle balls, a flogger and bed restraints.

    Full day of play with the kids at school was just awesome, taking it in turns to be tied up, whipped, spanked with a wooden spoon, and we also both used a small plastic vibe anally which was well received by both.

    That lead to order number three, including some butt plugs and a realistic dildo for her.

    we haven't had the opportunity for a full play date yet, but we are 1000% more adventurous than we were previously. It's our anniversary in a few months and we are hoping to get some time off before the kids break up for summer holidays.

    All starting with wine, bless alcohol for helping drop inhibitions

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    Bigtrak [sign in to see picture]
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    Literotica....read a story on T-girls drove me nuts and continue to adore them. Also Porn for my loves of Lesbians. Watching 2 women is so sensual and sexually attractive.

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    VanessaTG [sign in to see picture]
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    I always thought i was sub until i met a woman who was also sub and my dom side just naturally came out, the more she allowed me to do. Now i love the feeling of being in control and love spanking someone. Other fetishes i have like dressing etc i cannot discuse on here,

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