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  1. Prostate massage

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    ToGildALily [sign in to see picture]
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    Ok so found I have a really adventurous fwb who is willing to try just about anything once and I plucked up the courage to ask him if he knew anything about prostate massage and would he be willing to let me try it on him. He said he'd give it a go. I'm up for it as I want to do something purely for his pleasure plus I appreciate it is potentially a lot of power in my hands so to speak.

    So while I have an idea of how to go about it do any male members who've tried it, or even are aficionados, have any tips or advice on how to make it a good experience?

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    BigInBerks [sign in to see picture]
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    Just dabbling at the moment, but one thing is for sure. The prostrate is much like the female pleasure spots. It needs to be warmed up with some foreplay. Get him in the mindset first.

    Of course, LH have a helpful guide too: https://www.lovehoney.co.uk/sex-toys/male-sex-toys/buyers-guide/bad-boy-aneros-prostate-massagers-stimulation/

    A previous gf introduced me to male anal fun. We were shopping at Lakeside one day and she turned to me with a twinkle in her eye and told me she had plans when we got home. I knew EXACTLY what she intended, and when we got home she tied my hands to the bed head and put a vibrator up there. Within 2 minutes I had the most incredible orgasm (mine are normally really quite dull) and then I couldn't walk for a while.

    Go for it, and I hope you both enjoy.

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    KingGrthy [sign in to see picture]
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    Watch some videos!

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    KingGrthy [sign in to see picture]
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    Sorry was supposed to be more on that post but something happened.

    Anyway, as I was saying. Porn is normally a terrible place to get examples of sexual practice but if you search for "verified amateur prostate massage" on Pornhub you will get a lot of videos of real people(as opposed to actors/performers) getting their kicks off and can give you an idea what to expect and try.

    Also check out some male anatomy diagrams so you have an understanding of what is what and where to find it!

    And finally the prostate is highly sensitive to pressure and an orgasm that combines both prostate stimulation and penis stimulation is epic! But. . . . The prostate is not the only focus for anal on a man, general all around stimulation including depth, girth, and also stroking in and out can be very pleasurable even without focusing directly on the prostate.

    and finally, go a bit wild with the lube back there, consider getting a lube launcher or similar so you can put it where us needed, inside, less messy that way too.

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    ToGildALily [sign in to see picture]
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    Thanks for the advice so far. I have read a bit into it and think while I'd love to see how a vibrator would do for him, me having slim fingers is a bit less of a concern for him to start with to find out if he enjoys it and take it from there before buying anything for it.

    I'm just thrilled he's so up for it as it was a big risk to ask him and as we'd been sharing more of what we've thought about I felt confident to ask then. Hopefully it will encourage him to open up a bit with what he'd like to try on me too!

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    taggart65 [sign in to see picture]
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    I find it hard to have the spot hit with a vibrator or massager , maybe just the way i'm made . Fingers do the job for me , can even do it to myself with a bit of contorting :)

    Feels great when the fluid starts to drip from the end of my penis !

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    Alicia4Ever [sign in to see picture]
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    Start with a bit of oral on him, to get him warmed up and relaxed. Then as you say you want to use your fingers, I would go for an oil or silicone based anal lube, such as this,

    https://www.lovehoney.co.uk/product.cfm?p=17607

    which has a little something to help relax his anus; other wise a good waterbased anal lube such as this, https://www.lovehoney.co.uk/product.cfm?p=35809

    Then start by massaging his butocks, slowly working your way towards his anus, massaging that too on the outside. next gently slip the tip of a finger in just a litle way, and just draw an imaginary little circle with you finger tip, and or rotate your finger. Withdraw, massage his anus again for a few seconds beforegoing in again a bit deepr this time; keep repeating this, until your entire finger is in him.

    Then start again using 2 fingers ( not the buttock massage bit) this he will find a total tease, before the main course.

    His prostate is about 2 inches in on the front wall of his anus ( this varies a bit) you will feel a walnut sized bump; thats it. Push your two fingers up onto the top of the bump, and appliy a litle pressure as you pull your fingers back towards yourself; keep repeating this, but as you push your fingers up lift them up over the bump before pressing down again. Pushing against the wall on the way up will possibly be uncomfortable for him.

    On the out side, if you can get in a position to massage his perineum at the same time, that will feel good for him; as would performing oral at the same time.

    Other tips; appy pressure to the prostate, and use a static circular massage technique. Pulse the pressure of your fingers to give a vibe like feeling for him. He may get a sensation like needing to pee, thats normal; there could well be quite a bit of pre cum produced.

    It is usually a good idea for him to douce before, https://www.lovehoney.co.uk/product.cfm?p=952 to get him clean inside.

    Up it to 3 fingers if or when he starts to get size hungry; from that point on it's toys or your are heading towards fisting.

    If you have a magic wand or strong vibe, you can press it against the back of your knuckles, the vibes travel well down bone. 

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    Alicia4Ever [sign in to see picture]
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    A wand pressed against his anus, and perineum is a good way to start things off too.

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    ToGildALily [sign in to see picture]
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    Thanks Alicia4Ever! Some great advice and have ordered some anal lube to make things easier. I went for a plain one as I think I can get him to relax with other foreplay.

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    Cutecountrygirl [sign in to see picture]
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    Some good tips here!

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    capt [sign in to see picture]
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    My ex-gf used to do this for me and I can vouch for it feeling amazing. Without too much repeating of all the usual about relaxed / lubricant, etc, I used to find that moderate rubbing from my back towards my front over the prostate from her inserted finger, whilst she used her other hand to masturbate me was the best feeling. Make sure there are no hang-ups about cleanliness so sort that out first. He will be aware of that sort of thing as well as you, so remove it as distraction before starting. If my ex-gf was using her mouth to suck me as well, even better. Lots of lubricant, moderate prostate stroking from back to tummy, steady rythmic full-length hand or mouth strokes on his penis, some reassuring hot words from you to show you're enjoying it too... neither of you will regret it. Match the moderate prostate stroke from back towards tummy with the down-stroke on his penis with your hand or mouth, and that's what felt best for me. I don't tend to find prostate massage on its own makes me cum, although I know some men can do this. If you both really get into it, suggest a bit of tying him up with his ankles spread and his hands above his head. The above, coupled with the lack of control he has will make it even better.

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    ToGildALily [sign in to see picture]
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    I presume he does since he admitted he read about the pleasurable side of the prostate and I did get a douche from the Lovehoney if he feels he needs it but it was bought more for my use for my own anal play; I know clean thoroughly if we're sharing stuff. I might leave tying him up out for the first try but an idea if he enjoys it and wants to try it again.

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    Lovehoney - Jess Wilde [sign in to see picture]
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    Hey ToGildALily

    You might be interested in this article I wrote for Cosmo about p-spot play :)

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    ToGildALily [sign in to see picture]
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    Lovehoney - Jess Wilde wrote:

    Hey ToGildALily

    You might be interested in http://www.cosmopolitan.com/uk/love-sex/sex/a12157775/prostate-massage-anal-fingering/ for Cosmo about p-spot play :)

    Oh cool, thanks for that! :)
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    Mr&MrsA75 [sign in to see picture]
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    Oh some great tips here! My OH has given me the green light to try some p-spot play but I'm too nervous so far!!

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