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  1. Being watched having sex need advice plz

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    Tazzy84red [sign in to see picture]
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    Hi all me and hubby have always enjoyed outdoors sex ( mainly risk of getting caught) and lately have spoke about being watched while having sex and we both really want to look into it more. We definitely don't want anyone touching us or joining in.
    So not sure what would be best.
    Web cam?
    Swingers club ECT.

    Any advice welcome 😘😘😘

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    Purring-Pussy [sign in to see picture]
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    I love swingers clubs. Most have a variety of rooms to choose from. A room with a viewing window would be perfect for you. It's also a great excuse to get dolled up and meet like minded people, even if you play privately on your own, it's nice to meet new people.

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    Tazzy84red [sign in to see picture]
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    If we went to a swingers club though how would it work with us not wanting to be touched or people joining in? Sorry not sure how it works. Was thinking of maybe doing doggying but unsure of the rules xx

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    LIL_KNOWN69 [sign in to see picture]
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    Hey Tazzy, with webcam shows it's exciting but the risk of being recorded will always be there. If you wanted to be watched in private without being touched you can go to a swingers club as purring said. A lot of them have rooms where you can put on a scene without anyone getting involved. The rules are strict and everyone is like minded so they keep to these. You can also check a few forums for like minded people as a lot of couples will watch and then let you watch and vice Versa.

    We have done this a few times with one of my partners best friends. Thankfully she was happy to just watch and it wasn't awkward at all, plus I got to watch them have a little play which was incredible.

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    Lady Bella [sign in to see picture]
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    Hi Tazzy.

    Going to swingers clubs or "adult parties" can be an awful lot of fun and, as LIL_KNOWN69 says, there are very strict rules. For example, my partner and I have been to several parties organised by Killing Kittens, and before every party all the guests are e-mailed the rules which include things like "no phones or photography", "no means no" and "treat everyone with respect".

    There is always a party organiser there who keeps an eye on things, and if anyone was making you feel uncomfortable then tell the organiser at once. It's never happened in all the times we've been, and everyone has always been very respectful of our boundaries.

    I know I was a bit apprehensive the first time we went because I had this sort of vague idea in my head that it would be a big free for all with everyone jumping in at once, but the reality is that people sit and chat first, get to know each other a bit, decide what they are happy doing (and with whom) and then go off in little groups to separate rooms to do it. Lots of couples only go along to watch and be watched, and not to play with other people. Being watched while having sex was a big dream of mine for years, and it was well worth making it come true! Both my partner and I are now so much more confident about our bodies and ourselves as a result.

    Best of luck. x

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    Tazzy84red [sign in to see picture]
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    Thank you so much for the responses. Will definitely looking into it. Just need to find a good 1. Don't know where I would start lol 🙈

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    Heidi920 [sign in to see picture]
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    hi tazzy, I don't have any advice but so far I'm very intrigued by the replies, it's always been something I've fantasised about but don't have the confidence to actually do.

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    chisel [sign in to see picture]
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    Go to swingers club and you will get your own group of friends as my wife and I did. We have over 50 friends who come to our place about every 3 -4 weeks ( not all at the same time ) between 6 -10 people that you trust. We all love to be watched or watchers. Give it a go but dont be bullied into anything. Play at your pace. We have been doing it for many years.

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    Tazzy84red [sign in to see picture]
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    I'm really excited at the whole idea about it. We have spoke a lot and neither 1 of us would want to include anyone else. I definitely think swingers club would be right for us as it would be more than 1 couple around us so wouldn't feel so eyes r on us.

    Would you recommend 1 near or far from him. Omg I wouldn't want to see someone I know. We r very private where out sex life is concerned xx

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    Purring-Pussy [sign in to see picture]
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    Let me know where you're based Tazzy (eg north west, west midlands etc, no need to disclose your town/city), I can recommend some clubs.

    If you start chatting to people, just mention you're only exhibitionists. People will respect that. I've seen many couples do the same, or even venturing to have sex with each other with another couple at the side having sex too.

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    Tazzy84red [sign in to see picture]
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    I'm in east essex 😊

    Thank you so much purring pussy xx

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    Dreamspace couple [sign in to see picture]
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    Thanks so much for the info in the thread, we have had a little same room fun, but are keen to visit a club to open our horizons.....much like Tazzy, have done quite a bit of looking at clubs and think there are a couple of decent ones in the Midlands, they all seem to say a first visit is a very social experience and no pressure which would suit us!......easy for Mr DS, but not sure what the dress code is in the bar area? I guess as you progress it's less of a challenge ! Any help or advise welcome.

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    Eager-2-Please [sign in to see picture]
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    Dreamspace couple wrote:

    Thanks so much for the info in the thread, we have had a little same room fun, but are keen to visit a club to open our horizons.....much like Tazzy, have done quite a bit of looking at clubs and think there are a couple of decent ones in the Midlands, they all seem to say a first visit is a very social experience and no pressure which would suit us!......easy for Mr DS, but not sure what the dress code is in the bar area? I guess as you progress it's less of a challenge ! Any help or advise welcome.

    The clubs I know of in the Midlands (and slightly north of that area) basically all have the same guidelines: dress to impress! You're at a night club after all, so smart, sexy, presentable. No scruffiness, uncleanliness or "street wear"... dress like you're going out on the town.

    They also stress that nobody is at any point pressured or obligated to do anything they're not comfortable with/ready for. Some people go just to chat, socialise, a little drink, a dance, maybe a naughty peek or two, maybe not. Whatever you like.

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    Tazzy84red [sign in to see picture]
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    Any recommendations for east essex area anyone?

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    Zoboobs [sign in to see picture]
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    Mingles ..... and also eureka which is near dartford

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    Zoboobs [sign in to see picture]
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    Also google dogging sites we go to 1 in basildon theres also a good 1 in leigh on sea . Most blokes just wabt to watch anyway unless told otherwise

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    J&K2016 [sign in to see picture]
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    We can recommend Pleasures in Kent, not that far from you. It's a very big private house, nice clientele and hosts.

    As others have said, no means no. And don't be afraid to say no to anybody. If they get too close the hosts will ask/ tell them to leave

    If you want to know more let us know, more than happy to help

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    Tazzy84red [sign in to see picture]
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    Sounds great definitely look into that 1. I'd rather go out a little bit incase we bump into people we know lol.

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    J&K2016 [sign in to see picture]
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    That's what we did! Travelling a bit further is safer and feel more relaxed and less worried

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    J&K2016 [sign in to see picture]
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    Wouldn't recommend cam shows or anything like that. You never know who is watching and it can be recorded. Going to a club is a lot safer

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