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  1. Bi curious bi sexual too many questions

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    ShyAndChatty [sign in to see picture]
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    I posted in old thread so might be better to start a new one

    i don't fancy girls in a way i don't want to be in a relationship with a girl, i definitely want to be with a man, however i really enjoy watching some lesbian porn it really turns me on.Also i sort of would like to have an experience with a girl but really because I'm a bit obsessed with boobs and i think I've always been as i remember having fantasies for years now in massaging/sucking/kissing them and i know i really really want to try it; i know I'm really not into fingering (sorry for details) as done on me or me on a girl, i have no,idea how i feel about going down : i don't know if i would be turned on if a girl would go down on me and I'm not sure i want to go down on a girl, however i am nearly 100% sure that scissoring would be the best thing i would ever experienced.

    im also thinking that i am quite open minded about sex and wish I'll find a partner who will be quite adventurous and curious as I'd like to try a sex party and watching my partner with someone else, however i don't think i'll enjoy my partner pleasuring another woman but i'd love to watch my partner with another male, so if i am thinking like that i assume that it would only be fair than if my partner is watching me it would be with another female but also because i don't see the point having sex with another man only if my partner is watching and not participating, like for a three or more some i'd like trying at least a threesome because i think i'd like to have one person on my boobs and another going down (i don't think the gender of people is important) but in a threesome i wouldn't either, once again, enjoy watching my partner pleasuring or being sexually looked after by another female; being insecure this would just increase this feeling and i don't want that

    do you think i am being selfish in wanting sharing partners "my way" or is it a justified feeling

    is it wrong that i would enjoy my partner with another male because i don't want him with another female?i could accept, and i know how wrong it will sound but this is one of my fantasies and i also saw it on a thread feeling thank god im not alone, having a threesome with a sibling (i don't have any but i like having fantasies about it) and if my partner would have brothers and sisters i wouldn't have any objection that we all have sex as i know that him being with his sister shouldn't lead to a romance, affair…

    because i am questioning myself and my life about anything at the moment i don't know if i wonder too much about everything -, also am i twisted having some of these ideas?

    i just hope i will find myself and a matching partner

    please share your thoughts

    many thanks LH people

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    Bigtrak [sign in to see picture]
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    No not twisted...Just need to decide if it's a cool fantasy or something you want to experience. With your level of insecurity it may not be all it's cracked up to be. If your single why not experiment now so no one is hurt?

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    Glaswegian82 [sign in to see picture]
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    ShyAndChatty, as a guy who likes girls, guys and all the variations in between, I honestly think that it doesn't help to try and put a label on yourself.

    You like what you like, and what's important is finding someone with whom you share a mutual attraction, and who likes the same things you do. Obviously that's easier said than done, but I'd try to worry less about the gender of the person in question and focus more on simply finding someone you connect with on that level. Details of what "activities" you want to partake in can be ironed out later, and honestly, I'd suggest trying things that you don't think you'll like - because you really never know until you've given it a go.

    I don't think you sound at all selfish, and definitely not twisted - just like someone who is nervous and not as experienced as they'd like, and has desires they've not been able to explore. And there is nothing wrong with that at all.

    I've said this before, but I feel from all your posts here that whoever you find is going to be a very lucky person indeed - your openness and willngness to explore your sexuality and desires is rarer than it should be.

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    latex_lover [sign in to see picture]
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    Glaswegian82 wrote:

    ShyAndChatty, as a guy who likes girls, guys and all the variations in between, I honestly think that it doesn't help to try and put a label on yourself.

    You like what you like, and what's important is finding someone with whom you share a mutual attraction, and who likes the same things you do. Obviously that's easier said than done, but I'd try to worry less about the gender of the person in question and focus more on simply finding someone you connect with on that level. Details of what "activities" you want to partake in can be ironed out later, and honestly, I'd suggest trying things that you don't think you'll like - because you really never know until you've given it a go.

    I don't think you sound at all selfish, and definitely not twisted - just like someone who is nervous and not as experienced as they'd like, and has desires they've not been able to explore. And there is nothing wrong with that at all.

    I've said this before, but I feel from all your posts here that whoever you find is going to be a very lucky person indeed - your openness and willngness to explore your sexuality and desires is rarer than it should be.

    This. I couldn't have said it any better myself. You sound a cool person ShyandChatty (as well as you, Glaswegian!) and I'd love to meet you ShyandChatty, especially since you like jazz! 😉
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    Terri JJ [sign in to see picture]
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    Glaswegian82 wrote:

    ShyAndChatty, as a guy who likes girls, guys and all the variations in between, I honestly think that it doesn't help to try and put a label on yourself.

    You like what you like, and what's important is finding someone with whom you share a mutual attraction, and who likes the same things you do. Obviously that's easier said than done, but I'd try to worry less about the gender of the person in question and focus more on simply finding someone you connect with on that level. Details of what "activities" you want to partake in can be ironed out later, and honestly, I'd suggest trying things that you don't think you'll like - because you really never know until you've given it a go.

    I don't think you sound at all selfish, and definitely not twisted - just like someone who is nervous and not as experienced as they'd like, and has desires they've not been able to explore. And there is nothing wrong with that at all.

    I've said this before, but I feel from all your posts here that whoever you find is going to be a very lucky person indeed - your openness and willngness to explore your sexuality and desires is rarer than it should be.

    This 100% xx

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