KayXxX wrote:
does anyone else find it difficult to orgasm any other way than clitoral stimulation? For me to orgasm from Gspot simulation I have to be with a partner that has a relitively "small" penis in relation to length. Does anyone else have this problem or any tips?
Hi KayXxX
You're definitely not alone. This is extremely common for a lot of women. In fact, the vast majority of women can't climax vaginally and rely soley on clitoral stimulation to orgasm.
You mention that shorter penises help with g-spot stimulation and this is exactly right. The G-spot is only about 2-3 inches inside the vagina. Other than a couple of other groups of nerve endings (at the cervix and back wall of the vagina) the rest of the vagina doesn't have nerve endings to feel. Longer penises just shoot (ha) straight past the G-spot and hit areas which aren't sensitive.
If you want to try to enjoy more consistent vaginal orgasms you could try the following:
-lots of foreplay, including manual g-spot massage (this helps your internal hot spots swell making them easier to find and play with)
- shallow penetration (when your partner's penis is "too long")
- changing position (lay on your back with a cushion under your bum. This tilts your hips so that when he enters the tip of his penis aims for your g-spot)
- play with your clitoris at the same time (the clitoris and g-spot are the same thing really and the nerve endings are connected so playing with your clitoris will heighten internal sensations. Experiment with rythmns and pressure to find the right combo.)
-nipple stimulation alongside penetration (nipple play releases oxytocin: the hormone responsible for bonding and key to orgasm. This is a great shortcut to climax)
-climax before you have penetrative sex (cum from foreplay any way you like. THEN move onto penetration with some nipple or clitoral stimulation)
-wear a butt plug (wearing a butt plug is another way to shortcut to climax thanks to the nerves a plug presses on. But additionally, wearing a butt plug (especially in doggy style positions) directs the penis right to your g-spot)
-do kegel exercises (having a stong pelvic floor is the key to climax, and strong ones at that. The better toned these muscles are, the easier, stronger and more frequent your orgasms will be.)
I hope that helps a bit!