1. Planned or Spontaneous?

    Fujiyamamama [sign in to see picture]
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    Prefer spontaneous but have to have planned sessions due to the kiddies

    lace21 [sign in to see picture]
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    NatandTom wrote:

    I'd say it's spontaneous most of the time, but we occasionally plan it if we know we don't have much time together (long-distance problems!)

    I prefer spontaneous - if it's planned and then I don't feel in the mood when the time comes I get frustrated with myself for not being able to follow through. Planned sex to me has often felt like I'm just going through the motions rather than enjoying myself, so having sex when the mood strikes suits me better.

    + 1 this is just like me! We usually plan for our 'naughty sat night' when we have a few drinks, watch a bit of porn and get out all he toys etc as it's the only night of the week we can both really unwind due to work and the kids. The rest of the time is spontaneous as depends on mood!
    Lu SB [sign in to see picture]
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    + 1 for planning due to kids. As much as I love espontaneous, it's not possible so we go with the flow when we have the house for ourselves or teens away.

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    Im a planner - I like to flirt/have a bit of foreplay during the day etc as takes me a while to get fully turned on... luckily my OH is ready any time....xx

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    Hmmm, well currently my husband works away so I see him one day a week without children usually. Sometimes it can be once a month depending on sitters and shifts.

    In a way it's kind of planned as that's the only day we have chance. We don't set a time though. He could jump me at the door or have a fumble before sleep.

    Before he got this job it was spontaneous but always when we were going to bed. Most of the time we were just too tired so it wasn't fantastic sex.

    I like knowing that on a certain day we will have sex, it kind of builds up anticipation.

    Purring-Pussy [sign in to see picture]
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    Definitely spontaneous. Always has been, with any of my partners, past and present. Planning to me, feels pressurised and I can't enjoy it and just end up going through the motions and not enjoying it.

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    +1 for Planning. We are planners in general due to both working and having kids.

    My wife works 12 hour shifts 3 days a work so quite she's too tired on those days.. any spontaneous sex is a bonus! We don't actually mind planning ahead, we get to talk about what we fancy doing and come up with some pretty hot ideas.

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    Mr S [sign in to see picture]
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    Mostly planned for us due to busy lives ..... we plan when but not what ..... its been fine for us but clearly doesnt suit everyone.

    Its almost 100% daytime sex too ....... which we both enjoy more than evening/nights ..... dont know why, maybe an age thing

    Sparky 1 [sign in to see picture]
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    Spontaneous mostly for us it just seems like much more fun as it's all a surprise as it happens. Planned is sometimes as good, the expectations can lead to a great build up to the act of sex,setting the scene and roll playing ect

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    I prefer spontaneous always but as said before with kids you need to plan sometimes.
    You can't beat it when the mood takes you it all adds to the improvisation, location etc..

    paulsballs [sign in to see picture]
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    Love the spontaneous, just sneaking up from behind, knickers down cock in, or just being anywhere and saying, bend over I'm going to fuck you!!

    All though the planning and anticipation is hot too.

    Heidi920 [sign in to see picture]
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    Mostly spontaneous sex for us. It's hard to tell how exhausted we are going to be at the end of the day so planning a sex session doesn't always work, and I would hate for it to ever feel like a chore!

    Penny26 [sign in to see picture]
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    Spontaneous for us.

    Jake Perolta [sign in to see picture]
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    I like both. If you plan it well and build the suspense, the waiting becomes part of the fun.

    And spontaneous is always a thrill.

    GinaGee74 [sign in to see picture]
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    I much prefer spontaneous but with kids, work and studying, it's now become a planned event :-(

    Jake Perolta [sign in to see picture]
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    I feel your pain. Having kids definitely limits the window for spontaneous sex. Though I can't even plan anything at the moment as my OH is rarely in the mood.

    Not a fun position to be in.

    ShannonMarlene [sign in to see picture]
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    We do both. It depends on the vibes we send each other throughout the day.

    Hazeladam [sign in to see picture]
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    planned times often don't go as planned and end up in a disaster lol
    So spontaneous normally works for us but does get us into trouble, have both made each other late for work on occasion that sort of thing

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