• newbie solo anal play: beads or butt plugs?

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    Lu SB [sign in to see picture]
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    Hi guys. I've finally decided to start to explore a bit with anal play. I say finally because I've been intrigued by that for quite some time now and I can't wait to experience the new sensations

    I've read the guides and I reckon I know what I want, but I need something discreet (I mean quiet and not too big and intimidating) and easy to use on my own when I play with a wand or a clit vibe as I'm a bit clumsy - lol! And I don't want to get my hubby involved before I'm quite comfortable with this kind of stimulation.

    I'd appreciate any tips whether I should start with beads or a butt plug. I think some of them look so pretty and I know it's silly but I do like a beautiful toy.

    Anyway thanks for your help.

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    Aims85 [sign in to see picture]
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    I would go for the basic anal beads... Only 3cm circumference.

    I would also recommend a small plug too....anal toys often tend to be on offer too so perfect to try a few.

    I've not long been exploring anal and the beads are amazing used during solo play and sex, I also love the small plug with the ball in. Will grab some links for you in a sec.

    Anal glass dildo is only 4cm too so good for beginners. Just remember to lube up, a lot as it doesn't lube like our vaginas do 😀 I'm clumsy too and manage just fine using a wand with anal toys and vaginal toys too if I've got time as those orgasms take a while to come down from 🙌

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    GinaGee74 [sign in to see picture]
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    The products listed above would be perfect for you! I've also just gotten into anal play as hubby and I are desperate to build up to double penetration, using a good sized dildo. I have also been using beginners beads and a slimline butt plug and have ordered a bigger size butt plug for use next week. Good luck and enjoy. Dont forget the lube! 😁

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    JJLWB [sign in to see picture]
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    All great suggestions above. I would also recommend this plug:

    https://www.lovehoney.co.uk/product.cfm?p=28501

    It was the first one I ever used and it's still one of my favourites. It's small in size so not too daunting for a beginner plus you get to experiment with some vibrations too.

    Plugs are great as you can leave them in whilst you have some clitoral fun and it won't get in the way. Enjoy!

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    SquirtyPanda [sign in to see picture]
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    You're forgetting about dildo's!

    For me I prefer using dildo's for anal play - i like the feeling of being pounded rather than a stationary feeling of plugs and/or beads. Only a butt plug for when I am having vaginal sex/play.

    My current fave dildo for anal is this, whilst holdng a wand to my clitoris. 💦- https://www.lovehoney.co.uk/product.cfm?p=32884 I reviewed it the other day! 

    To answer your question, for me it'd have to be plugs. I can't seem to get much depth further than about 7" in both canals. Deep penetration isn't a massive requirement for me. So beads don't really appeal to me.

    I recommend these plugs : https://www.lovehoney.co.uk/product.cfm?p=37178 - so pretty!
    https://www.lovehoney.co.uk/product.cfm?p=25809 - glass is a game changer!

    🐼

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    KingGrthy [sign in to see picture]
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    Squirty is right, I would also recomend to any newbie to anal, get a good quality dildo thats not too big and has some texture to it, I still think the lovehoney beaded glass dildo is a great beginners toy. It is rigid, but that is ok for exploring. It is not too big but is big enough to feel it. The bumps, shape, and length, and even the second ball, provide different aspects of anal to explore. just a really good toy. A beginner might need to use something a little smaller as a warm up to accomodate it but after a little practice it will be your warm up.

    Between a plug and beads? plug. Beads are ok, I am generally underwhelmed by them. I wont recommend a plug, there are so many and as long as your mindful of the size you just have to try some. Dont spend a lot on your first few plugs. You may outgrow them and or decide you want a different shape or design. You have had some really good recomendations already.

    It gets addictive.

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    Purring-Pussy [sign in to see picture]
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    I started with beads, but they're too faffy for solo play and harder to clean. Stick with a beginners plug, the lovehoney ones are great:

    https://www.lovehoney.co.uk/product.cfm?p=30704

    https://www.lovehoney.co.uk/product.cfm?p=33939

    I like this Cupid plug too:

    https://www.lovehoney.co.uk/product.cfm?p=16479

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    Bigjason [sign in to see picture]
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    For me, I use large dildos on myself. But for a beginner, you should use a small butt plugs or use a small dildo first. Then after a while you can up grade to little bigger butt plugs or use large dildos. Until you get the size you want on butt plugs and dildos to use and feel comfortable with.

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    AmyA [sign in to see picture]
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    I started with plugs and still love them for making you feel fuller but the feeling of pulling beads out at the point of orgasm has been a revelation. I always pair either with clit stimulation and a dildo vaginally. I haven't tried an anal dildo yet so will also be checking out some of the suggestions here.

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    NatandTom [sign in to see picture]
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    Purring-Pussy wrote:

    I started with beads, but they're too faffy for solo play and harder to clean. Stick with a beginners plug, the lovehoney ones are great:

    https://www.lovehoney.co.uk/product.cfm?p=30704

    https://www.lovehoney.co.uk/product.cfm?p=33939

    I like this Cupid plug too:

    https://www.lovehoney.co.uk/product.cfm?p=16479

    +1! I'd definitely recommend a plug to start with. Get used to something being inserted before playing around with length of beads and dildos.

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    Lu SB [sign in to see picture]
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    Hi guys, I've taken on board your recommendations and I feel that a plug is the right thing to get me started.

    It seems I'm not able to link at the moment, but I've decided to go go with Lovehoney beginners glass butt plug. It's absolutely gorgeous and the Lovehoney logo gives a bit of an extra oomp, plus the cute storage bag.

    I'm just a bit scared because even though the descriptions says it's perfect for beginner, it'll be a challenge for me. But hey-ho I like a challenge and glass is so hot and arousing and very easy to clean. I know I'll want to be displaying, which in my caso is a no-no, have to hide it.

    Thanks a lot.

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    AmyA [sign in to see picture]
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    Was it this one? https://www.lovehoney.co.uk/product.cfm?p=32887

    People do tend to underestimate the size they will want as a beginner, quickly upgrading to something bigger so I don't think you will have too much problem there.

    The only thing I would say is that there isn't much difference in size between the bulb and the 'stem' bit or its very gradual so you might find it difficult to keep in, especially when you orgasm. Don't what to put you off your choice though, glass is lovely.

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    Purring-Pussy [sign in to see picture]
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    AmyA wrote:

    Was it this one? https://www.lovehoney.co.uk/product.cfm?p=32887

    People do tend to underestimate the size they will want as a beginner, quickly upgrading to something bigger so I don't think you will have too much problem there.

    The only thing I would say is that there isn't much difference in size between the bulb and the 'stem' bit or its very gradual so you might find it difficult to keep in, especially when you orgasm. Don't what to put you off your choice though, glass is lovely.

    I find that this plug pops out easily. In fact, most plugs with a round base do, I need T-bar plugs, they stay firmly in place.

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