• Wait! We think you’re in the US - Lovehoney.com is a better site for you.
    Shop there and get 10% off!
    United States Flag
    Go to Lovehoney.com
  1. Is Internet sex cheating?

    1498816519
    Lovehoney - Jess Wilde [sign in to see picture]
    • Rank: Field Marshall
    • Posts: 2115
    • Joined: 30 Nov 2012

    Oh, something I meant to put in my original reply...

    Do you make plenty of time for solo sex? If you and your partner are mis-matched as far as sex drive, you may find that spending more time masturbating and loving yourself will help balance you :) 

    1498819430
    leroylapaboy [sign in to see picture]
    • Rank: Officer Cadet
    • Posts: 13
    • Joined: 16 Jun 2017

    Everyone seems to agree that it is cheating. There is a good book called ' Not just friends' by Shirley Glass. It talks about emotional affairs and how sharing personal information can develop into more. It's worse if you have a 'history' with the other person. It obviously depends in your relationship, as people have said, but it nearly killed me when I found out about mine and her ex being in contact like this, long distance and only via Facebook, email etc. The lies were the worst. Trickle truth. It started with her saying 'he's just a friend of my brother from school.' It took a year of hell and almost divorce for the truth to fully emerge and the real communication to start. I had to look at what I was doing wrong (as he will have to as well) as well as what she was doing wrong. That was a couple of years ago and we are really strong and honest now. Communication and truth are key. I saw our marriage as black and white, but found out she wanted something several shades in between. ;-)

    1498820418
    Sarah's wench [sign in to see picture]
    • Rank: Captain
    • Posts: 31
    • Joined: 12 Dec 2015

    For the pleasure and excitment you may get from having fun with your ex will be nothing compared to the hurt your partner will feel if he finds out, especialy if he does genuinly love you, please dont do this to him, I have been through it many years ago and the pain was like loseing a close relative, It took me over a year and counseling to even start to get over the pain.

    1498822354
    thechosenone [sign in to see picture]
    • Rank: Captain
    • Posts: 29
    • Joined: 28 Apr 2013

    Yes, next question

    1498823652
    Lovehoney - Leanne [sign in to see picture]
    • Rank: Field Marshall
    • Posts: 2177
    • Joined: 9 Oct 2014

    ScumptiousDumptious wrote:

    Thank you.
    Its only happened once and won't be happening again.
    Its the first time I've ever been tempted and would love to blame the booze. But I can't. (We only split due to distance)
    He's been told and blocked. I will talk to O. H this weekend again. Hopefully things will change.
    And No I wouldn't stand for a man to do it to me.
    I also have to accept that if things don't change. This probably isn't the relationship for me.
    Thank you all again x

    Good luck and I hope all goes well for you, whatever it is you may want from the talk. 

    1498851704
    delilahxx [sign in to see picture]
    • Rank: Field Marshall
    • Posts: 5540
    • Joined: 12 Mar 2013

    ScumptiousDumptious wrote:

    Thank you.
    Its only happened once and won't be happening again.
    Its the first time I've ever been tempted and would love to blame the booze. But I can't. (We only split due to distance)
    He's been told and blocked. I will talk to O. H this weekend again. Hopefully things will change.
    And No I wouldn't stand for a man to do it to me.
    I also have to accept that if things don't change. This probably isn't the relationship for me.
    Thank you all again x

    I hope the talk goes well xx
    1498852627
    Tinkerbell90 [sign in to see picture]
    • Rank: Major
    • Posts: 11
    • Joined: 24 Nov 2015

    I agree with everyone that it's a form of cheating maybe talking to your O.H again will help with things

    Sex shouldn't be the main focus in a relationship yes it's great but it shouldn't be the reason to end a relationship if that's the only thing wrong

    Maybe bring some more fun into you sex life you never know if you don't try

    1498941880
    illtakethehighroad [sign in to see picture]
    • Rank: Lieutenant
    • Posts: 46
    • Joined: 11 Jul 2014

    In short yes.

    Its something you have to lie about and you know what your other half will think if he finds out. I think you know the answer really.

    1498942714
    pusseypleaser [sign in to see picture]
    • Rank: Lieutenant Colonel
    • Posts: 341
    • Joined: 4 Jun 2009

    How would you answer if you found out your partner was doing it?

    1498952497
    lace21 [sign in to see picture]
    • Rank: Major General
    • Posts: 508
    • Joined: 17 Apr 2014

    RosyCheek wrote:

    As you say my love, deep down you know the answer. Is it cheating? It depends on your relationship. A while back my husband was messaging a colleague. Was it cheating as he didn't physically do anything? To me it was. It's the lies, the secrets, the breaking of trust. Acting out fantasy with others instead of opening up and just saying "hey let's try this" or "I like this". He broke our trust, he stained our relationship by hiding it.

    I personally think contact with exes is difficult. They are an ex for a reason and the new love often compares themselves to the past lovers. It's a super sting.

    Just have a think, have a chat with your OH, say you would like a bit more action and try compromise.

    Good luck.

    + 1 I personally think that going behind your partners back talking and getting turned on by someone else is as the temptation is there. My OH in the past was texting someone he classes as a 'friend' he met on the Internet before we met and I found out only through me snooping as wondered who the number he kept texting was and getting messages from . He lied and it hurt so much and I then confronted them both and let's just say it stopped after that due to an ultimatum. We are still together and happily married but i sttuggle with trust now as had been cheated on by an ex in past and fear it could happen again. Just think about what you're doing and how you would feel if the boot was on the other foot.
    1498979684
    JohnSartre [sign in to see picture]
    • Rank: Officer Cadet
    • Posts: 10
    • Joined: 28 Jan 2016

    In a way I'd say but not as nearly as bad as real cheating

    Post a reply to this thread

    Please sign in to post messages to the forum.