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  1. Ideas - Adventurous ones?

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    MrGoodGuy [sign in to see picture]
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    Ok, 12 years married and absolutely in love with each other, and have a solid relationship. Sex is pretty much one way, as i have just explained in a previous post, but that's something we need to work on.

    However, she has agreed to try and spice things up and try a few new things, but she can be a little reserved? Obviously i don't want to push it, but normally with a little light encouragement she's game and ends up enjoying herself immensly.

    But it's all down to me 100% to come up with new stuff - and frankly i'm fast running out of ideas!

    We've tried:

    Naughty Truth or Dare - I've come up with a vast amount of content, but i've now run dry.

    Date nights - Nice meals and walks, with a naughty romp in our car, where we nearly caught, which proved highly funny. Wife wearing no knickers, which we enjoyed. But open restaurant so nothing further, as too exposed.

    Naturist beach and spa - Both enjoyed this, but obviously no hanky panky in public.

    Anal - but ended quickly, even after a very long build up. I'm extremely well endowed, I wouldn't want that up me either lol

    Peeing - I have a slight fetish where i like to watch a woman pee, we've tried it, but she can't go whilst under pressure of being watched. Again i don't want to push it, and feel thats run its course?

    Things like sex outside, sexy underwear, toys, and just general couples stuff, porn etc.

    Not interested in: Bondage, pain, swinging (I fancy a bit of voyeurism, but she's defo not interested) dressing up/role play. **edited by moderator** 

    So ides if possible folks? - Adventurous ideas, not cosmopolitan, blindfolds, food, massage by candlelight kinda stuff. Been there done that x 1 million.

    Or have we done it all?

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    NatandTom [sign in to see picture]
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    As this is an open and judgement free community, it's best to not refer to things as 'weird stuff'. It could potentially make someone feel bad about their interests or fetishes. It's fine to not be interested in those things, but that doesn't make it wierd!

    You could look into some of the sex games available on Lovehoney for ideas, the Kinky Calendar in partciular might be interesting?

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    MrGoodGuy [sign in to see picture]
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    My appologies, i stand corrected as some of the stuff we've done would be regarded as weird to some people.

    **edited by moderator** 

    Thank you for the idea of the calendar, i will look at it.

    But so far most of the online sex game or ideas topics, tend to be repeated over and over and things i tried when i was 18!

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    SquirtyPanda [sign in to see picture]
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    watched porn together?

    id try anal again, but of course with a different edge (i.e did you use butt plugs last time? if so then try anal beads/dildos etc....)

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    NatandTom [sign in to see picture]
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    No worries :)

    I have found that to be true with many sex games too, although I have the calendar myself and there was a few things we hadn't thought of!

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    mysteron [sign in to see picture]
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    The fact that you don't want to try bondage or anything related to that is probably limitting yourselves IMHO .

    However there are many sex positions as laid out in Kama Sutra so there are plenty of these to go at.

    If you are into games then you could get the Lovehoney Kama playing cards deck which has 52 positions and perhaps pick one. If you want to spice things up you could play Strip Poker with them and then the winner picks a position from his or her winning hand.

    There are plenty of things to go at and you can always go back and revisit an activty that you havnt done for some time.

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    Lovehoney - Leanne [sign in to see picture]
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    You have mentioned voyeurism, what about watching your OH with a realistic toy (look but don't touch) 

    Also, SP has a great suggestion with watching porn as a couple. 

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    MrGoodGuy [sign in to see picture]
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    Think we've tried evry position in the karma sutra that we are capable of doing !

    Bondage S&M etc, just doesn't appeal to either of us, just doesn't feel like it's something we'd like.

    We've spanked lightly with a riding crop, but ouch! and err not again thanks.

    We've watched some light porn, but my wife isn't overly interested in watching other people having sex or performing sexual acts.

    TBH i'm yet to find a web site or playing cards that step outside of either anything we haven't already tried or anything that isn't cosmopoliton.

    The truth or dare game took things WAY past strip poker, and was very fun, but as i said, i've run out of dares

    Cheers for all the help so far folks

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    Vanessa8 [sign in to see picture]
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    What about blindfolding each other during foreplay and doing some sensory play such as ice ir chilled glass dildo, feather tickler, even a massage candle with hot wax?

    Sorry if i missed your other thread abd this is a repeat idea i just find focusing on touch vs suggt can be very erotic.

    I realize you state no bondage... but some light restraints abd playing with control can ve quite freeing.

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    MrGoodGuy [sign in to see picture]
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    Thank you for the ideas

    We've done blindfolds, perhaps that's something i could explore more of - thinking cap time!

    Candle wax, isn't something we'd enjoy. Pain tends to be a no no.

    Really beginning to think we've reached the end of ideas, and trying things again doesn't have the NEW novelty.

    We played Truth or dare with the same questions and it went down in flames.

    I wrote some new ones and pow! it was good again.

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    Lovehoney - Leanne [sign in to see picture]
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    What kind of dares do you add, this may help other suggestions? 

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    MrGoodGuy [sign in to see picture]
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    Too many to list!

    Here's a few - Perhaps this may help other couples? - We also do "Grab Bag", fill a bag full of dares and blindly pick one out - mixed in with a few "Take a shot of alcohol" to loosten things up.

    Are you sitting comfotably?

    Squirty cream on 3 sensual places and lick off

    Hold pen between teeth and give oral

    How many marshmellows can you hold in mouth and give oral?

    Wear a butt plug for a few turns

    Order a sex toy on line that would make partner go OMG!

    Go in another room and take 3 naughty pics using partners phone, partner can't look until next day

    Have a vibro rubbed on a private part for 2 mins without moving

    Bring partner close to orgasm and stop

    Give oral to partner with curtains open, but light off

    Do something sexual outside

    Perform a yoga pose naked

    Squirt cream on bits you want partner to lick clean

    Be a photo model and let your partner take shots of you as they wish

    Blindfold partner and move yourself to a position of your choice, Blindfolded person has to give oral to the body part their mouth reaches first

    I have another hundred or so dares and a couple hundred truths, begginning to feel i have a talent for this kinda thing lol

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    lace21 [sign in to see picture]
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    Have you tried the ' mojo upgrade' test ? It's an online test that you and your partner do separately but on same computer after each other and it asks you lots of questions about what you would like to do, already do or wouldn't do regarding lots of different sexual acts and at the end it matches up your answers for anything you would both like to try. If neither of you (mostly your OH as have read your previous thread) have opened up about certain desires this could be the way to finding new things to try. Good luck!

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    ScumptiousDumptious [sign in to see picture]
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    I would've suggested a suggestion box, but you've already been there and done that.
    How about a strip club or 1 of the sex hotels where you can partake or not as the mood takes.

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