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  1. How did you tell your OH that you wanted to be kinki?

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    Lulu26 [sign in to see picture]
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    So heres the question guys.

    How did you break it to your otherhalf that you wished to experiment with kinky stuff in the bedroom?

    My fella and i have been together for 7 years and i am only just feelinh comfortable enough to let him in on my hidden desires!. I had toys when we got together but he wasn't very interested in using them so over the years they have dwindled and now i am starting to replace my collection with a new genre addition. Ive always found bondage and anal play a big turn on but only recently have decided to let my otherhalf know. I started with dropping small hints and he quickly caught my drift!.

    Recently i baught some underbed restraints (the idea of being restrained drives me wild) and my fella seemed intrigued by the idea. We have used them and the experience was awesome. Although it has taken some time i now feel comfortable talking about THAT side of sex.

    So how did you let your OH know any have you got sny tips for the shy individuals out there?

    Look forward to seeing your responses 😁

    Lulu x

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    lovingnewtoys [sign in to see picture]
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    Tbh - it was more the other way round in the beginning but I think I was already thinking it anyway, so when he introduced it I was ready to try.

    We now have seperate wishlists on here which we can both see so there is no doubt where we are both at.

    I think creating wish lists is a great way of communication if you find it hard to speak about it face to face xxx

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    Lulu26 [sign in to see picture]
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    Wishlists hadnt crossed my mind but i might give that ago.. Hopefully he will come around to my way of thinking 😉

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    Hi lulu seems like you are heading in the right direction! Maybe try out one of those online couples quiz' x

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    Lulu26 [sign in to see picture]
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    Heidi920 wrote:

    Hi lulu seems like you are heading in the right direction! Maybe try out one of those online couples quiz' x

    That could either be very fun to do or it could end up scaring him half to death with how "dark" that side of me is becoming 😂😂
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    That's true by he may also surprise you too with his answers 😊

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    My boyfriend and I have been together for 5 months and he knew from the beginning that I was kinky but we have gone at his pace as his ex wife wasn't into sex and didn't even own a rabbit!! Slowly but surely we have gone through my two kinky trunks of treasure and although there are still toys that haven't been touched he's grown more confident at using as well as knowing what or how I'd like him to treat me or do to me.

    I would suggest doing the mojo upgrade test as it'll show you what you both would like to try.

    I have shown my man porno clips as to what I like and I have used the toys on myself so he knows how I get myself off with them and as much as he finds this a huge turn on he's also learnt techniques from watching.

    Movies like 50 shades if you're new to BDSM could also help as well as The Secretary, sometimes things as simple as showing them these threads with enthusiasm can help ease.

    If you're shy then you could always sext him as it can be easier to be bolder via text, if you're feeling bold you could have a chat in the car so you're not face to face, starting simply with ... "Babe I love the way we (make love, fuck, have sex) but I was thinking about spicing it up, what do you think?"

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    I've just tried a couple's sex questionnaire, they're a good idea as they email your partner and ask them to take part, and only once they've completed the questionnaire do they send them your results. I've suggested swinging to my OH!! Will see what he says, eek!

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    *sexybabe* wrote:

    I've just tried a couple's sex questionnaire, they're a good idea as they email your partner and ask them to take part, and only once they've completed the questionnaire do they send them your results. I've suggested swinging to my OH!! Will see what he says, eek!

    I did it a few weeks back and it turns out Mrs TD said positive yes more than me, who was more inclined to take an if they agreed POV

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    Sounds as though you're going about things in a fantastic way hunni😘

    I told hubby around six months into our relationship bondage really me. He totally didnt get it and other than an odd time re-raising the subject nothing progressed ss hubby said no its not his thing. Obviously that was understood, I just figured bondage would remain a fantasy........until finding Lovehoney bout 3 years ago. I seen a blog post by Jess and showed him. He really taken the information in and realized bondage isnt about kicking the living daylights out of each other!

    He became more interested in restraints but remained a bit apprehensive when it comes to spanking implements. Over time they were introduced too and he's every bit as 'kinky' as me. Who'd of thought it after a decade! 💖xx

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    Oh my I'm not sure we ever really did. I think we were both just really open but me and captain had a long distance relationship for the first 9 months so we only had words at times. Maybe he will have a different opinion on how it all came out...

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    slinky binky wrote:

    Sounds as though you're going about things in a fantastic way hunni😘

    I told hubby around six months into our relationship bondage really me. He totally didnt get it and other than an odd time re-raising the subject nothing progressed ss hubby said no its not his thing. Obviously that was understood, I just figured bondage would remain a fantasy........until finding Lovehoney bout 3 years ago. I seen a blog post by Jess and showed him. He really taken the information in and realized bondage isnt about kicking the living daylights out of each other!

    He became more interested in restraints but remained a bit apprehensive when it comes to spanking implements. Over time they were introduced too and he's every bit as 'kinky' as me. Who'd of thought it after a decade! 💖xx

    Sounds like it worked out for you hun! 😁 Ive always had a bit of a problem opening up n saying what i want/ how i feel but ive been working on that and now things are getting really fun! Im glad my OH is understanding enough to put up with me! 😂😂
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    I messaged her a few ideas of things I'd seen on LH I'd like to try and she gave me the green light. Never looked back... I just keep introducing new toys all the time. Xx

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    I slowly started dirty talking with stuff I wish he would do to me, tie up and a bit bondage and dom/sub play. For the toys bit....i causually said was interested in a few thinks and showed him them on lovehoney website (eg. butt plug jewelled) and he seems intrgued and not against it so I brought it, made sure the package coincidently arrived the day he was coming so when i got back from work i opened it with him there (and added handcuffs to the order hehe) so he could see and projected how enthusiastic I was about using them, he's fine with it.

    I suggest the dirty talk option first if you are not that confident out right talking to him about it, and then if no objection, when you next have a play...suggest adding it to your play together and what you want him to do (sexy voice helps with the last bit). Hope this helps, and if you find another method that really works, post it up :) xx

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    He knew from early on that i like the thrill of being pinned down but he got a right shock when he saw the restraints id baught! He had a shocked but slightly cheeky look on his face. I was happy with just the retraints but during the first session he stepped it up a gear n pulled out my toys.. One thing lead to another n wow! He was happy cz i let him in the backdoor to finish off n that only happens if im extremely satisfied! Im looking forward to the next time because hes agreed to let me restrain him!

    Everythings going well! 😁😁

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    I've always worked hard on the communication aspect of my relationships. Its Paramount in working out a happy relationship. Use your embarrassment to be arousing, its natural to be anxious of rejection or ridicule. In reality this hardly ever happens. Intact its usually very arousing.

    Buy the new toy and leave it on his pillow he will get the idea. Enjoy

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    Lulu26 wrote:

    He knew from early on that i like the thrill of being pinned down but he got a right shock when he saw the restraints id baught! He had a shocked but slightly cheeky look on his face. I was happy with just the retraints but during the first session he stepped it up a gear n pulled out my toys.. One thing lead to another n wow! He was happy cz i let him in the backdoor to finish off n that only happens if im extremely satisfied! Im looking forward to the next time because hes agreed to let me restrain him!

    Everythings going well! 😁😁

    Glad it all worked out for you 😊 have fun 😉 still trying to get my Oh to restrain me lol xx
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    TBH I was always into trying new things and had an open mind . With my current partner it was a combination of her reading 50 Shades of Grey books and looking through the Lovehoney site together.

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    Do you let him watch you use your toys on yourself? maybe try and ask him things whilst you're playing? I'm really shy with a really dirty mind.

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    Quiet ones are worse! wrote:

    Do you let him watch you use your toys on yourself? maybe try and ask him things whilst you're playing? I'm really shy with a really dirty mind.

    Hes never really expressed much of an interest in watching but then again i usually keep "me time" private. We do things together though which can get quite erotic. Hes been suggesting more things over last few days so im thinking ive converted him to the darkside! 😝

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