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  1. Pegging. *Male pride confidence boosting thread.* Part 2

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    Saphira [sign in to see picture]
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    Thank You.
    The dildo that comes with that harness is pretty firm and a bit bigger than it looked online, but I have the doc Johnson jellies 5.5 inch one that fits too and we've used on him already, perhaps start with what we know then.
    Thanks for the tips makes it a bit less nerve wracking to speak with experienced folk first.

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    Alicia4Ever [sign in to see picture]
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    Saphira wrote:

    I think I'm on the right thread here.....

    If I may pose a question from a woman's point of view.

    The OH and I have talked about pegging and tried other anal play for him, but I've just bought a harness for when he gets home tomorrow. He's excited but I'm hella nervous about hurting him. I've been on the receiving end of an angry male and am all too aware of how wrong anal can go.

    Now I know this is entirely different since all parties are consenting and no one is trying to hurt the other but even still, I'm really afraid of getting it wrong and causing pain.

    So guys the question then is this.... is there a position that you've found gives you more control and allows you to safely discover what you like? I've read that doggy isn't a good way to start in this, even if it seems the obvious starting point. Is there anything you wish you're partners knew prior to trying it out?

    Thanks in advance guys. I'm just trying to get some male advice since both me and the OH have limited experience in anal play for him

    Let him go cow "boy" so he can control how it goes, at least at first; but I would imagine that he's going to like being taken, rather than just riding it. But it would get him used to how the new one feels, without any risk of you hurting him.

    Doggy may allow deep penetration, but that shouldn't be a problem with anal, like it can be vaginally. It will allow him to pull away from you if he needs to, so don't grip his hips; also he can control it if you remain still and he pushes back onto the dildo. Any other position where you are on top, doesn't allow that.

    There is a postion I call lazy doggy, it's a cross between cowgirl and doggy I have described it on this thread, my second post there. https://www.lovehoney.co.uk/community/forums/sex-tips-and-talk/1684912-taking-from-behind/

    You may find that interesting as an alternative position, it gives a good view for the giver, I know they say men are the ones who like the visual aspect of sex, but i"m sure women do too.

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    What sort of anal play have you engaged with previously?

    If small toys like a butt plug or prostate massager, then certainly the depth of a dildo will be a step up and allowing him control of pace and depth would be good for the initial stages. If you have already tried dildos and depth isn't an issue, then doggy may very well work.

    Mrs Sen and I recently tried harness pegging for the first time. I had used butt plugs, prostate massagers and the LH glass anal dildo, so depth was already there. We had the LH curved dildo 7inch. We went doggy straight up, it seemed the most comfortable to have our bodies in. I really liked the sensation of her hips slamming me from behind. Pace and depth were somewhat in my control still as I could lean forward for less or push back for more.

    Whatever the position, take it slow, allow him to control depth and pace and communicate frequently (although his moans maybe enough feedback).

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    Saphira [sign in to see picture]
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    Wow guys the feedback is great thank you.

    In regard to what anal play we've tried; we don't bring toys to bed very often but fingers and tongue are pretty much a standard part of our sex now. We've tried with the doc Johnson jellies anal dildo a fair few times and one of the slim swoon vibes once or twice.
    To be fair he asks for it more than I give it and a strap on was the next step for us. The DJ dildo fits in the harness so we know that one is okay, have really gone for it with that one.

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    J here,

    I totally agree with what Alicia said, doggy is actually a great position for it as you can control it.
    I find in doggy I can bury my face in the pillow and let N go to town on me, but if ever it feels too much of too deep or hurts etc it is very easy to pull away.

    Missionary variants where she is ontop, that is not really possible.
    Riding her is also great for having the control and I find is actually one of the most comfortable positions for deep play.

    The important thing is to use plenty of lube and keep communicating all the time.. Tell her if something hurts, or if the angle isnt right etc.

    A soft toy definitely helps too, DJ jellies should be fine, but my personal favourites are the true lover cushioned core toys sold on LH. They are THE MOST comfortable dildos I've ever used.. And I was absolutely delighted when i recently saw the bigger one was available again and bought it straight away.

    There will be a review up soon ;)

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    Hi all,

    I'm straight, and used to consider anal play dirty and gay (no disrespect) but truth of the matter is that recently I've been experimenting with it, just lube and fingers you know, and i'm really starting to enjoy it, i'm waiting on the postman to bring some toys, to see if I really like it or not. these toys were chosen for single play, but, could be used by the wife too, as most others i've seen posting around here, broaching the subject is the hard part, she's not as adventurous as me (understatement of the year).

    If I get to the point of being comfortable with it on my own, then i would love to get her into it, and pegging me... that would be... HOT

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    Pegging is new for us as a couple, I had used toys by myself previously, never fessed to the Mrs about it though as I had no idea how she would react.

    Slowly started to introduce anal play for us both about 9 months ago, a plastic vibe during our first ever spanking session, then his / hers butt plugs as well as a prostate massager for me, then a glass anal dildo that she had used on me during oral and/or hand jobs, his / her glass butt plugs and a remote vibe butt plug for me (she says too big for her which I can respect).

    finally at the start of the year, I introduced the idea of a harness / strap on kit, she was up for it "whatever you enjoy is ok" sort of response and to date we have had 3 sessions with the harness / dildo, our most recent session just last night.

    Oh my goodness, I could feel a strange tingling sensation in my penis when she was penetrating me from behind (doggy), I then changed onto my back with her in between my legs, this way I was able to play with her boobs and kiss her. I reached around and grabbed her ass as she thrust. I don't think I have ever felt closer to her than I did in that instant.

    The sex afterwards was mind blowing, strongest orgasm I can recall (that tingling sensation from earlier was multiplied 100 times). Part of me wanted to withdraw and see it happening, but she was wearing a LH peekaboo lingerie (for the first time) and I didn't want to soil it.

    Talk to your OH about your interest in anal play, reassure her that it's not weird or dirty, let her read up on it (Cosmo online or even these boards, a quick google of "pegging" yields 100s of results) and then perhaps without the stigma attached, she may be more open.

    Good luck, enjoy your new toys.

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