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  1. Caught in the act ...

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    lola69 [sign in to see picture]
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    Lately I know my partner has been looking at and watching porn I don't have a problem with it but I have always had an interest in bondage these are the images he is looking at yet he doesn't seem interested in experimenting with me .


    Question how could I gently introduce it into our relationship bearing in mind we have a child and don't often get the chance

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    wildflower [sign in to see picture]
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    If he doesn't know that you have an interest it could be that he just doesn't think you'd be into it. Or he could have left stuff on the computer knowing you'd find it and maybe bring the subject up. He may be a little shy about suggesting it.

    You could just bite the bullet and talk to him about it or maybe leave some bondage related stuff on the computer for him to find as a hint if you find it difficult to bring the subject up but really one of you at least needs to say something about it if anything is going to happen.

    I know from experience in the past when I've felt a bit a shy about suggesting something leaving a few 'hints' on the laptop worked a treat without me ever having to say anything !

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    Mo D [sign in to see picture]
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    Get yourself a set of under-mattress restraints and just suprise him. I did that to my wife, she'll never take sleep for granted again ! Huge fun, and tbh, if he's already looking at bondage he's probably just worried about what you might think if HE brought the subject up.

    When not in use the restraint sets can be tucked under the mattress, your little one will never know.

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    Tiger Dick [sign in to see picture]
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    Mo D wrote:

    Get yourself a set of under-mattress restraints and just suprise him. I did that to my wife, she'll never take sleep for granted again ! Huge fun, and tbh, if he's already looking at bondage he's probably just worried about what you might think if HE brought the subject up.

    When not in use the restraint sets can be tucked under the mattress, your little one will never know.

    Great idea

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    lovingnewtoys [sign in to see picture]
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    Tiger Dick wrote:

    Mo D wrote:

    Get yourself a set of under-mattress restraints and just suprise him. I did that to my wife, she'll never take sleep for granted again ! Huge fun, and tbh, if he's already looking at bondage he's probably just worried about what you might think if HE brought the subject up.

    When not in use the restraint sets can be tucked under the mattress, your little one will never know.

    Great idea

    I actually totally agree with this - great idea.

    Have you actually spoken about it at all or are you assuming he is not interested because he hasn't said so?xxxx

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    I am going against the consensus of opinion here. With introduction of new things , I don't think its a good iead in surprising your partner it may just put them off , for good. I think its something you perhaps need to talk about when perhaps snuggled up together perhaps even browsing this site together .

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    Tiger Dick [sign in to see picture]
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    mysteron wrote:

    I am going against the consensus of opinion here. With introduction of new things , I don't think its a good iead in surprising your partner it may just put them off , for good. I think its something you perhaps need to talk about when perhaps snuggled up together perhaps even browsing this site together .

    I'm in the 50/50 camp here, yes you have a more than valid point here about communicating things. However, and here's the rub, I'm also a big fan of the surprise element too. This comes with risks, offending the OH clearly is a biggy, and could actually break a relationship so you really do need to know (or at least have a good idea ) how they will react. You do need to be prepared to eat humble pie, not be offended by their reaction. Then also be prepared to talk about it, which if you've found it difficult to raise the issue to begin with and decided the surprise route will be the easiest way to breech the subjuct, trust me it won't be, particularly if offence is caused.

    It really is a case of knowing your OH and your relationship with them.

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