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  1. Rule Changes

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    Bigtrak [sign in to see picture]
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    When I first met my wife she was a virgin and very scared of expressing herself.......fast forward 17 years and she is now bi-curious and loves watching lesbian porn.....masturbating for me and fantisies on sex in changing rooms and open air. She has also done photoshoots that are posted on the internet that are very explicit.

    Now this last week she has told me she finds me watching porn alone disturbing....when did the rules change.

    Anyone else go through these late changes to the rules?

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    NaughtyNerd [sign in to see picture]
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    Bigtrak, has she said why she finds it disturbing?
    Also does she always watch her porn with you or alone too? 

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    Scorpius12 [sign in to see picture]
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    I personally find that in a relationship things are always moving and evolving, you just grow together and change if necessary - no rules are set in stone...

    Maybe she has seen something online that she found upsetting. Have you spoken to her and asked her why she now finds it disturbing? I think you need to talk to her, and make sure that she is ok.

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    Tiger Dick [sign in to see picture]
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    Has the type of porm you are watching changed? Maybe its what you are viewing she finds disturbing. The thing about porn in some peoples hands is that they " need a bit more" to get off. 

    Guns n Roses put it best

    I used ta do a little but a little wouldn't do
    So the little got more and more
    I just keep tryin' ta get a little better
    Said a little better than before
    I used ta do a little but a little wouldn't do
    So the little got more and more
    I just keep tryin' ta get a little better
    Said a little better than before

    Ok thats drugs but the same applies here I think

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    Tiger Dick [sign in to see picture]
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    Tiger Dick wrote:

    Has the type of porm you are watching changed? Maybe its what you are viewing she finds disturbing. The thing about porn in some peoples hands is that they " need a bit more" to get off.

    Guns n Roses put it best

    I used ta do a little but a little wouldn't do
    So the little got more and more
    I just keep tryin' ta get a little better
    Said a little better than before
    I used ta do a little but a little wouldn't do
    So the little got more and more
    I just keep tryin' ta get a little better
    Said a little better than before

    Ok thats drugs but the same applies here I think

    By saying the same applys here, I mean in regards to how porn affects some peoples viewing habits in general, not to whats happening with Bigtrak specifically.

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    NatandTom [sign in to see picture]
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    Rules aren't set in stone. Over time our tastes grow, change and develop. Her boundaries regarding porn may have just changed.

    Have you asked her why she finds it disturbing? Is it the category of porn you are watching? Is it that your sex life together is suffering as a result? An issue with her self esteem and confidence? Whatever it is, I think you need to talk to her about it away from the bedroom and understand why her limits have changed.

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    mysteron [sign in to see picture]
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    I think you need to have a talk with your OH to find what she is objecting too. Porn covers a multitude of things and maybe as Tiger mentioned it could be a case of what your viewing she has objctions of .

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