• Bi-Curious

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    Captain Cave Man [sign in to see picture]
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    I'm have often though what it would be like to masterbate and be masterbated by another guy.....nothing else other than a wank.
    I'm married and have a great sex life but would like to experience a one off mutual wank one day. I enjoy watching guys wanking but don't consider myself bi. Any advice?

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    Smudgey [sign in to see picture]
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    I regularly have this feeling, I find myself watching more and more Bisexual porn when masturbating. My kinks with my partner have gotten the same, as in I love strap on play and snowballing and so on. Hard to know if I'd ever really go for it, don't consider myself bi and the thought of kissing another man doesn't excite me, however anal and oral sex with a guy does.

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    tinytheturtle [sign in to see picture]
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    well i would like to all the way with another guy i know im Bi just cant find the other guy

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    ScottishSweethearts [sign in to see picture]
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    Never heard of your circumstance before, I'm in the same boat as Smudgey. I'm very aroused by dildos but having a guy behind the penis just doesn't do it for me. That's why the biggest consumer of transexual porn is straight men, lots of guys like the idea of receiving anal but not having it performed by someone who looks like a man. This is obviously different because you're just talking about a wank.

    I wouldn't say there's anything wrong with your desires though, and if you're really thinking about it then I'd say go for it if you can find the right person. There's lots of experiences in life that are intimidating but if you don't go for it then you'll never know if you truly like it or not. It's a bit like eating new food I guess. After trying it you might not like it and never have to try it again or it may be something you find you do enjoy.

    Perhaps try speaking to your wife about it, she may be interested in the whole idea. And don't worry about the labels of being bisexual, when I was younger I always felt your sexual identity were what others say you as but really it's what you identify as. Having an intimate experience with a guy once won't just magically make you bi, you have to feel that you're bi.

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    NatandTom [sign in to see picture]
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    I wouldn't worry about labels. You don't have to call yourself anything. It seems as though you just want the experience and are curious as to how that would be. It's more of a fantasy than a sexuality thing I think. I would try speaking to your wife about it though, find out her thoughts on it. She might find the idea quite hot!

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    WestMidsBiGuy [sign in to see picture]
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    For me its difficult im not attracted to a guy per se but i do love cock :p haha. I have experimented with guys twice and enjoyed it both times but im just not attracted to men. But when it comes to sex with guys i do get turned on and really enjoy it.

    Guess it depends on your individual desires but i would reccomend exploring after all if you dont enjoy it you wont have to do it again :)

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    cobra1987 [sign in to see picture]
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    Well for me i have never has this fantasy but if this turns you on then i guess its fine as long as you are happy.

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    Boox [sign in to see picture]
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    Try not to see it as you think you are bisexual, we all have some sort of attraction to the same gender because we are attracted to ourselves in different manners, you don't need to have romantic attraction to be physically attracted to something/someone. You're only really bisexual if you can build a romantic urge with the same gender, if seeing another fella masturbate turns you on then its simply put as self attraction. My friend isn't bisexual but enjoys seeing other women having sex because she knows what the woman is feeling so it creates a mental image of such things being done to her and causes an obvious arousal, but would never initiate sex with another woman. Unless you feel any slight romance towards another man then i wouldn't say you are bisexual or bi-curious just human :) I myself am bisexual and i don't see other women as just a fun once in a blue moon thing, i see them as a possible future, a relationship. Hope this helps in some way!

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    ScottishSweethearts [sign in to see picture]
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    Boox wrote:

    Try not to see it as you think you are bisexual, we all have some sort of attraction to the same gender because we are attracted to ourselves in different manners, you don't need to have romantic attraction to be physically attracted to something/someone. You're only really bisexual if you can build a romantic urge with the same gender, if seeing another fella masturbate turns you on then its simply put as self attraction. My friend isn't bisexual but enjoys seeing other women having sex because she knows what the woman is feeling so it creates a mental image of such things being done to her and causes an obvious arousal, but would never initiate sex with another woman. Unless you feel any slight romance towards another man then i wouldn't say you are bisexual or bi-curious just human :) I myself am bisexual and i don't see other women as just a fun once in a blue moon thing, i see them as a possible future, a relationship. Hope this helps in some way!

    Very well said! +1

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    Goooner1 [sign in to see picture]
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    Love to see my wife being fucked by one or more guys, love to be "made" to suck the guys off until they cum in my mouth or I clean the wife up after.

    It's purely sexual, I have no interest in having a relationship with a man as such, so whether that makes me bi, I don't know, if care for that matter :)

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    Alicia4Ever [sign in to see picture]
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    You are you, there is no need for lables. Many people don't fit the "box", as the extent to which a person is attracted to the same sex is different for each individual, both physically and emotionally.

    It's only when you come to tell someone else that you you find difficulties, as many people do like to have set boxes for other people, particulally those who see sexuallity as set in stone, to either gay, bi, or straight.

    Also, you will probably find that how you feel changes, like door that constantly swings open all different ways, do be scared if this happens to you, it doesn't me you have to be anything new, you just changed what you like.

    I would say that you do need to feel capable and desiring of a relationship with a same sex partner to say you are trully gay, or bi; but as I said you are just you. And it's the rest of the world that needs to get over it's self, and stop judging others simply for being different.

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    Lush Lolita [sign in to see picture]
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    I'm not one for labels when it comes to any aspect of life, and definately not when it comes to sexuality, I don't put myself into any boxes when it comes to sexuality.

    Why do we have to define ourselves?! Can we not just like what we like without fearing judgement?!

    Maybe speak with your wife to see what she thinks, then talk about making your fantasy a reality

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    Alistoy [sign in to see picture]
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    Our joint favourite fantasy is sex with another couple where the two guys have to perform on each other.

    We have never done it, but if the circumstances came up I would be up for it.

    Perferably somwhere warm!

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    matnem [sign in to see picture]
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    Since you are married, I would suggest discussing this with your partner. They may be turned on, or not be interested at all. If they are not interested then I would suggest keeping this as a fantasy. Relationships are built upon trust and, if you act out this fantasy, your partner may see this as a break of that trust, even if it is not in your mind.

    If they are interested, you can look into swingers clubs that allow gay/bi members. It may be easier if you identify as bi just to help things along. These clubs will allow you to choose your own level of involvement, and (on the whole) as nice places to be even if you are not involved with the sex. (If they are not nice places to be then leave, and find another club. I have been to many clubs, and 95% of the time not as an active member - I've visited one that was horible, they are mostly nice places)

    As someone who previously identified as "bi", I would say that there is nothing wrong with this curiosity. It doesn't make you gay, bi or anything. Its completely normal.

    It may be fufilled by living it out, it may not. Honestly though - from someone who has done this (and more), a wanks a wank ;)

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    Cane & Anal Addict [sign in to see picture]
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    Everyone who was ever born is to some degree bi curious. We all are. Some more than others.

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    Evolution [sign in to see picture]
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    I have also had this fantasy of having a mutual wank with another man but I don't find other men attractive in anyway. I find myself watching more and more bi porn or transgender porn when I'm masturbating and when I do I seen to have a more intense orgasm. Part of me would like to experience sex with a guy but as mentioned earlier, I'm not attracted to other men but I think if it was with a beautiful femine transgender then I would love it. I have never mentioned this to my wife as I'm not sure what her reaction would be. I often feel kind of guilty after I've cum whilst watching bi or transgender porn. I have just ordered a Vibrating butt plug for myself to experiment with on my own and that should arrive by tomorrow. I adore the female figure and sex with my wife is fantastic but she always finishes before me so afterwards she lies on her back with with her head near my feet with her legs spread so I get a great look at her pussy whilst I masturbate and she plays with my balls but what really makes me cum is if her finger strays across my perineum towards my bum hole, which she knows I love but I just wish she'd put a couple of fingers in. Anyway, that's just my take on how I feel. I've heard that a lot of guys have this fantasy of a mutual wank with another guy or a transgender.

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    WillC [sign in to see picture]
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    Is it an age thing? When i was younger i would never give it a thought.Now i`m in my 50`s i find the idea more and more appealing,i wonder if it`s an age related reduction in testosterone or just my ageing brain opening to new possibilities?

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    Curiousscots [sign in to see picture]
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    I am straight and married but I find myself looking at more cocks when watching porn. Single female porn doesn't really do it for me now. There has to be a cock involved solo or couple. Also thought about mutual play with a guy, if You've ever do it is a different matter, never say never.

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    SmokingHotLove [sign in to see picture]
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    Is it a fantasy or you really want to experience it? I am a married female and love girl on girl porn or female masturbation, but not 100% if the opportunity was to arise I'd go for it! Just appreciate the female form a lot. Floats my boat big time.

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    Goodvibrationz [sign in to see picture]
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    Opinions please: if a newish female friend (who you don't know much about) often compliments you, gives you hugs - and kisses you on or near the lips - how can you tell if it's bi curious signals or just being very friendly? Needless to say, I quite enjoy it but I fear miss-reading what's going on.

    GV

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