• Awkwardness

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    SassySue [sign in to see picture]
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    Like Mrs tj I also have body confidence issues. Some iv learnt to slowly overcome and somebody that still have no signs of disappearing anytime soon.

    I completely understand the certain positions/lighting and clothing situation. one thing that really helped was being blindfolded....after all if you can't see the problems then they aren't really there right?!? Lol.
    Your senses are heightened and every touch (even the areas that she dislikes) becomes so sensual.

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    tj10699 [sign in to see picture]
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    Thanks Sue. The blindfold sounds like a great idea and is something we will try soon.

    If anyone else has any thoughts, specifically around the day time awkwardness when chatting about the evenings plans then we would love to hear it. Just to be clear we have no trouble at all communicatng what we both want once we are in bed, however in the cold light of day it seems so much more challenging!

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    Richie1 [sign in to see picture]
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    Gem276 wrote:

    Mrs TJ why don't you try some hold ups to ease you in gently and help you to feel sexy but keep you Tshirt on so you're comfy too while you gain confidence xx

    http://www.lovehoney.co.uk/product.cfm?p=32646

    then you could try something that feels a bit softer and sexier to touch for you to enjoy... Maybe try masturbating in something like this .... http://www.lovehoney.co.uk/product.cfm?p=31039 or I think this is beautiful http://www.lovehoney.co.uk/product.cfm?p=36135

    As for communicating then if that's really a struggle you could try finding porn clips that show the kind of things you'd like to say/ hear or new things to try. This way the other person can watch in their own time and then message back if they liked any aspect or really wouldn't want to do a particular act etc xx

    I think Gem276 is spot on here Mrs TJ. 31039 and 36135 are both beautiful, and once on, you will look at your body differently. They will make you feel sexy and comfortable, and paired with a pair of hold ups, these would ease you in gently and I feel sure you would love your body again. Give it a go.

    You could try wearing these during the day whilst discussing your evening plans it might just help with the awkwardness you are feeling, and who knows you may not wait to the evening!!

    As a male who likes to wear female underwear, I nearly didn't because I thought it would look wrong on me. I am so glad I took the plunge, and now I wear it every day. xx

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    wee_bear [sign in to see picture]
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    It is very difficult to change your body image perception.

    You can't just accept and move on.

    It is a pretty naive to think otherwise.

    It is like telling bigger people to just stop eating.

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    tj10699 [sign in to see picture]
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    Will definitely be purchasing some hold ups along with 36135 when I get paid (Although I still can't stop picturing the image of her in hold ups with a baggy t-shirt).

    On reflection, the awkwardness in the day time is probably due to me being a little selfish. I have a vivid imagination and love the feeling of anticipation, knowing something is going to happen and the tease of talking to each other about that. I guess I'm looking for a way of accommodating that desire while not making Mrs the feel too uncomfortable or silly.

    We'll keep working at it!

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    SassySue [sign in to see picture]
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    Your welcome tj. Only a small suggestion but hope it helps

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    The Real Mr Grey [sign in to see picture]
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    A lack of confidence can absolutely kill a sex life of any kind. But the main things are that you love, respect and are happy with each other. Your OH needs to know that whatever her size you find her sexy and pay her compliments (which im sure you do). If she can see that you are turned on by her im sure the rest will follow.

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    Goodvibrationz [sign in to see picture]
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    Hi tj10699

    It can be a long process.................

    Having had similar experiences try posting a couple of tasteful profile photos and asking for some feedback.  It can be very encouraging.  See mine please.

    Suggest you try reading "New Shy and need encouragement" thread under Introduce Yourself and "Uploaded Pictures Thread" under Lingerie and Clothing. Was it helpful?

    OH

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    Goodvibrationz [sign in to see picture]
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    The Real Mr Grey wrote:

    A lack of confidence can absolutely kill a sex life of any kind. But the main things are that you love, respect and are happy with each other. Your OH needs to know that whatever her size you find her sexy and pay her compliments (which im sure you do). If she can see that you are turned on by her im sure the rest will follow.

    Couldn't agree more. OH

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