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  1. First time swinging

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    Badger73 [sign in to see picture]
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    • Joined: 10 Oct 2012

    Caliente wrote:

    I've been looking at fabswingers and it's utterly terrifying! I've already had to block the single men. :( I think I need to go along to an event near me to meet some people.

    We know what you mean. We used to be on there and the amount of guys that you have to block is unreal. We opened a second facebook profile and got an extra mobile phone to keep everything seperate, that way if we had given out our number and he turned out to be a problem we would just change the sim card.

    We did meet 1 or 2 decent guys after a few months and had a few meets with 1 guy before he got deployed. Mrs Badger did most of the talking with the guys and we were normaly together when we were chatting.

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    MondaySixteenth [sign in to see picture]
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    • Joined: 20 Jun 2014

    Caliente wrote:

    I filtered out singles so only couples can message me, but it seems to be the husbands that are doing all the chatting, and that makes me a little suspicious. I don't think it's what I was looking for. Will find another way. A party or event might be the way to go.

    It can be overwhelming but I still accept single men and am meeting one who seems wonderful and genuine next week. I only advise to respond to people who are photo AND meeting verified in person. Starting at a well established (check reviews and organizer veris) club or party is NY advice :) have fun! X
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    Caliente [sign in to see picture]
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    Badger73 - everyone is so pushy! Maybe I've just been spoiled by the kindness and respect on Lovehoney. Glad you found some good people. Deployed .... in uniform?....oh there goes another fetish lol

    MondaySixteeth - thanks so much for the advice. I've looked at the events and there might be something for me there. Still a bit scared about going on my own, but I'll have to get over that! Hope your meet up goes well. x

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    MondaySixteenth [sign in to see picture]
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    Caliente wrote:

    Badger73 - everyone is so pushy! Maybe I've just been spoiled by the kindness and respect on Lovehoney. Glad you found some good people. Deployed .... in uniform?....oh there goes another fetish lol

    MondaySixteeth - thanks so much for the advice. I've looked at the events and there might be something for me there. Still a bit scared about going on my own, but I'll have to get over that! Hope your meet up goes well. x

    The one I went to I was by myself and was so nervous but I had a great time :) just have to bite the bullet xx
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    emanem [sign in to see picture]
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    • Joined: 1 Feb 2017

    I am an experienced swinger, started around 2 years ago. if you still have questions please feel free to ask me. I had the same concerns as you and started by going to a club with a friend and just watching. I also went to Kestrals, a nudist daytime place that also built my confidence. I have now been to many clubs and parties and have a number of regular playmates ranging from couples to singles. It's not just the sex (aothough thats the main thing) but I have made many friends. It is just like having any other 'vanilla' friend accept you have sex (always safe) as the end of the evening.

    As I say happy to answer any questions you may have

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    Peakcouple [sign in to see picture]
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    • Joined: 10 Sep 2014

    Don't do anything you don't want - ever - and take things easily. It took us several swinger club vists before we were both ready for a full swap. Soft-swinging is amazing fun and some people just stick to that.

    The advice immediately above is great, maybe start with naturism so you are comfortable being nude around aother people before you go to a swinger event. Having said that, the erotic atmosphere of clubs and parties encourages people to play. Make sure you have, and use condoms, don't be swept up by the excitement if you are in a big group and people are barebacking - they may be regular partners.

    We've been swinging regularly for 13 years now and have made some good friends, we stil play with some of our first 4some couples. It hasn't done our marraige any harm, in fact it has allowed us both to have variety without deceit.

    Good luck, everyone should try swinging once. Maybe it's not for you but you won't know until you try. It's not immoral, unnatural or perverted, most ancient societies practiced some form of group-sex and why not?

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