• Getting my OH comfortable with the idea of sex toys

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    Sam66 [sign in to see picture]
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    I haven't quite got used to this forum yet - it's taken me several minutes to work out how to post a new thread, so apologies if this has been covered millions of times before ...

    I would like to introduce a vibe or two into our love making ... but she (my oh) is quite resistant to the idea of anything like that. She thinks it's a bit clinical. I'd like to do anything that would give her as many and as intense as possible orgasms.

    Any ideas as to how I might broach this subject wth her?

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    Ecksvie [sign in to see picture]
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    The best thing is the be gentle with the subject and dont try to force anything on her.

    If you can, browse LH together and get her to pick a toy. That way you'll know she's comfortable with it and it's something she wants. What women want and what men think women want are often two different things.

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    Sam66 [sign in to see picture]
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    Thanks for the replies... I will try to entice her in front of the computer!

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    Noon [sign in to see picture]
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    Hi Sam, my partner and I had never used toys and what got us started was the I Rub My Duckie bath toy. Once that was on the scene the flood gates opened! :)

    The Duckie is good because it is fun and sold as a bath thing rather than a bedroom thing, a really nice way of exploring a new thing.

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    Noon [sign in to see picture]
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    Sorry, should have added a link:

    http://www.lovehoney.co.uk/product.cfm?p=432

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    Wizzie86 [sign in to see picture]
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    Duckie is a good idea - they do Christmas editions so it could be a stocking filler? I would personally go for a massager toy as this can be used on less intimate areas like the neck and shoulders... To start with... It's a nice way to ease someone into it and they feel lovely everywhere. They also tend to be less intimidating than other toys. The tracey cox supersex massager is great - you can read the reviews from the sex toy awards. The basics finger ring is also on there - cheap, not intimidating and doesn't just have to be used on intimate areas x

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    Sam66 [sign in to see picture]
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    Thank you - what a brilliant idea!!!

    Just off to order it!

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    Noon [sign in to see picture]
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    Just off to order it!

    Great, which?? :)

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    Sam66 [sign in to see picture]
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    ooops!!! The Duckie!

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    Noon [sign in to see picture]
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    ooops!!! The Duckie!

    Good choice, keep us posted on how well it goes down? So to speak. ;)

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    masterandslave [sign in to see picture]
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    Even exploring the LH website is great fun to have together - I always try and check at least the Deal of the Day with my OH!

    x

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    Sam66 [sign in to see picture]
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    Problem MAY be solved!!

    Just placed an order with LH and guess what - it comes with a free vibe! So I can look all innocent and say 'Well, as it's here ...'

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    Wizzie86 [sign in to see picture]
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    Good plan Sam ;-) x

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    Sam66 [sign in to see picture]
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    Well ... it's a plan anyway!!!

    She can only say 'no' - but often once the idea is planted it 'becomes' her idea in a month or two!

    The only big flaw in this plan is that I'm hopeless at looking innocent!!

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