1. Anyone else unable to orgasm on anti-depressants

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    Sweet Cherries [sign in to see picture]
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    Thanks mamz, LouthCouple and Laveila.

    I'm on 100mg and I do think it may be time to go back down to 50gm again. I feel like it's having a negative impact and that isn't good. I'll have to make an appointment to see her on Sat..

    I'm about to take my son in for conjunctivitis but I don't want to discuss the tablets in front of him. He's extremely sensitive and it would be very bad for him to hear about.

    I think dropping down slowly would help though. I have an impulse to just to start myself, I've done it so often in the past, but I won't. I know it's dangerous. I'll wait until Saturday and get it done the right way.

    Thanks guys, you're all so lovely and supportive and it helps a lot. 💖

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    mamz [sign in to see picture]
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    Not totally related to the title of the thread, but it's the most recent thread I fond on the topix of antidepressants.

    I've been on antidepressants for three days. I am taking half a dose for a week to minimize the possible side effects, but I have been experiencing neausea. Does someone knows if this side effect should dissapear after a while or?

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    delilahxx [sign in to see picture]
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    Hey Mamz

    I took sertraline, and it did make me nauseous for about 2 weeks until my body got used to the drug.

    Hope it goes away soon for you

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    Thanks!

    Glad to see there's still some hope. But I'm a bit neervous about getting a higher dose in a week :S

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    I'm on sertraline atm, and in the past have taken fluoxetine, mirtazapine and promethazine. I can't say that nausea was a problem, but indigestion was, so I suppose it's not a big jump to nausea. the latter two really wiped out my personality though

    good luck in your recovery

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    Yes as now a long term sufferer of major depression and on medication ( Venlafaxine currently ) for nearly 30 I am unable to achieve an erection but thankfully being a single separated guy in his late 50's I have found various forms of sex play to find pleasure on my own without the stress of not fulfilling time for a partner. I have found through urethetal sounding through purchased medical steel sounds stimulating and by masturbating with one in place allows me to get' hard ' enough to climax and of course enjoying the taste of the white stuff as my reward for having to work so hard for it .

    Anal play is also very enjoyable but have not been able to climax via my Rosa prostrate Massager- it's a good feeling anyway and sometimes slip it in prior to climax when using a sound.

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    when i was first prescribed anti-depressants which i am still on, for a long time i couldnt feel a thing during sex wither it be foreplay or sexual intercourse, i could get erect and perform, but it felt as if my whole johnson was numb - after some time it went away, but it had me in tears that i couldnt feel pleasure

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    I've been on sertraline, mitazipne and duloxetine all at the same time and had no issues with nausea. I've just come off sertraline as it made me gain weight and be forever hungry.

    I am however, having the issue of not being able to orgasm. I get aroused, just struggle to climax, which is so frustrating

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    I've been on 75mg Venlafaxine for about five years following a breakdown. Without it I get very vivid dreams at night, and become anxious and irritable during the day, so they are effective 'happy pills' for me; however, reaching an orgasm is very, very difficult. Often I feel guilty about the amount of effort my OH puts into trying to help me get there. So much so that I will go solo from time-to-time just to get it out of my system. Even then it takes help with some porn in most cases.

    I've looked at alternatives but have yet to find anything that will help, though I understand Mianserin added to the regime may help. Next stop is to chat to the Doc and see what they say, but, before doing this I am trying half-dose (37.5mg) of the Venlafaxine as this was my original prescription.

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    I was taking 75mg Venlafaxine for depression for a couple of years, like Furry O'Riley I also got the vivid dreams. I also had poor sex drive and had problems reaching orgasm, this caused some frustration with my OH.

    If you do want to drop your dose of meds down it's better to consult your G.P. I didn't, dropped the dose by too much and ended up with a disturbance in my heart rythm fortunately this was just temporary.

    Good luck and hope you have a speedy recovery

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    mamz [sign in to see picture]
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    Thanks to everyone who commented! I did not see most of your replied until today! (Sorry about that)

    Small update. I have been taking the meds for about a month now, and any small side effect that I had have completely dissapeared! and I even never had any issue with my libido or ability to orgasm!! I couldn't be more happy about all of this.

    Furry O'Riley, my advice would be staking to your gp before making any change to your medication. They will be able to help you finding a solution. Maybe it will be taking the lighter dose, but it could also be trying another med! There are a lot of available drugs that have similar effects on anxiety and other mental illnesses and doctors are very used to sexual side effects so you definitely should not hesitate chatting with your doc about all this :)

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    I've been on 2 different SSRI's and they both affected me making it difficult to cum, solo play was completely out of the question even with porn. When with the wife it was maybe 2 out of 5 times and she would have to work very hard to get me off, bless her. I gave given up on SSRIs due to other side effects and things downstairs are starting to work much better again now. Agree as others have said, see your doc, it's a common side effect so they may be able to offer some solutions, good luck.

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    Anorgasmia is listed as a side effect on my antidepressants. It's normal. Ask doctor for a different course of drugs if it's having a huge impact on you.

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    Sorry for reviving an old thread, but thought I'd add my experience of being on 375mg of Venlafaxine and 300mg of pregablin.

    Whilst I can get an erection during sleep, I struggle when it's needed. However, I can manage to perform. The flipside is that I find reaching an orgasm extremely difficult, though not entirely impossible.

    One way of succeeding is by using my wife's Lovehoney mains powered wand, though it can still take over an hour and sometimes leave me high and dry, and extremely frustrated.

    Another option is through electro stimulation. This tends to help get an initial erection and can, at times, bring a quicker orgasm.

    The final method that we tend to employ is male chastity. Whilst this might sound a bit counter intuitive, by keeping my cock locked, we are able to build up my libido over a period of weeks, so when released I'm ready to go. If I then fail to climax it's not such a disaster, as it fits in with the whole tease and denial aspect of our relationship. The longest time that my wife has kept me locked, to date, is three months. By the time that I was allowd out for intercourse, I was leaking like a tap!

    Anti-depressants can be a total nightmare for sex, but it made me realise that intercourse is everything, that just being intimate with each other has its own rewards, and that I get lots of pleasure from making my wife orgasm (if she's feeling generous, she'll often have one for me too).

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    Hey Mr Squirrel

    My bloke's been on all kinds of antidepressants for over 20 years, some affect his sex drive, many have made his ability to get an erection difficult, and most have made ejaculation take much longer. He's on Citalopram at the moment, which seems to be suiting him really well - his moods have leveled out and his sex drive and ability to come is pretty 'normal' (if there is such a thing). Have you ever had any counseling - Mr Spider has had one decent councilor in all the years he's suffered - the rest just haven't worked for him....the good one was sadly discontinued due to funding issues after 6 months...I honestly believe had those sessions continued he would be off the pills now.

    I'm on Pregabalin - 300mg daily, plus 300mg of tramadol - mines for neuropathic pain, plus anti-spasmodic pills and epilepsy meds...my epilepsy meds are being changed all the time as none seem to stop my fits completely without causing other problems. Anyway... I find I have to time taking the Pregabalin and tramadol right, I can enjoy sex and come, just as they are wearing off - like 4 hours after I take them, then for about half hour after taking them... when I'm really 'drugged up' it's really hard to come or even 'feel' pleasure so I need a pretty powerful toy - I have loads to choose from lol. I do find they kind of dull the coming sensation too and make my orgasm so much weaker. My only other option with pain relief is morphine - and no way am I going back on that stuff - I'd never come again!!

    So... just experiment with timing of taking the pregabalin and sex... it can all get to be very clinical though, Mr Spider often comes to bed after me, I've taken my meds and am chilling... he tries to have sex and I'm so doped up at that stage that I know it's not gonna be much fun - so I ask him before bed - 'are you up for it tonight' (or the like) and he says 'dunno yet' - that kind of scenario anyway.... which leaves me in a quandary...do I take my meds, or do I wait...if I wait too long the pain will kick in.... so I just have to be frank with him - ' Look buddy - do I take my meds or not?' lol. He knows what I mean... and sometimes gets fed up of the situation, but has to be understanding as I'm gonna be like this the rest of my life. Crap innit? But hey ho - I'm alive and life is for living... so we put up with it.

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    Hey sweet, anti depressants are odd tablets as I have been on a few different ones with very different symptoms. I had a high dosage one a few years back that killed all of my libido and no matter what I tried I just couldn’t get anywhere which was frustrating and a few months back I was on some which me and my partner still think had been mixed up with viagra as I couldn’t stop!

    But I would defiantly speak to your doctor about things, it could just be one of them times where things aren’t really fulfilling in a sexual sense. Maybe explore new sensations and buy a few new toys to see how they work. If you have a partner who you can be open with, them maybe suggest trying some roeplay or something more exciting and different to your usual routine. More than likely your over thinking reaching the big O and this causes your head to kinda struggle as your constantly thinking “why isn’t this working, what’s wrong”, it’s the same as when you do something and have a bad experience you will always think of the worst such as going on a plane etc. I would suggest if the doctors can’t change your mess etc to maybe look at calming everything down, but some relaxing candles or music and have a bath, I know that’s difficult if you have a baby etc but maybe you just feel a little stressed up without knowing it.

    I hope you get it all sorted soon as I can understand how frustrating it can be x

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    Hello :)

    I was on antidepressants from 18-22, I was on citalopram for a while which had no effect on my sex drive, then I was put on sertraline and propanalol but it didn't work for my mental health, so I was put on fluoxetine, at first it didn't change my sex drive at all but the last few months on it I felt like a zombie, I couldn't muster up any feelings of excitement, so while I was no longer wanting to hurt myself or anything, I also didn't want to do anything else.

    I've been off them for a bit over 6 months now and my sex drive has been fine until the last month or so, where depression has started affecting it.

    My OH started on fluoxetine and was fine for a while, then last year his sex drive took a dive - he's since changed over to citalopram and is having a better time on them but it's only been a few months so we'll see.

    There are loads of medications out there, I'd definitely talk to your doctor about changing over.

    However at the end of the day mental health is more important than sex, and if you don't think you're in a place where a change in meds is a good idea then wait a little longer. For me changing meds is difficult, I get a lot of the side effects like dry mouth, insomnia, restlessness, exhaustion (that's a crap combination), as well as feeling sick and generally a lower mood, before a massive upswing and then balancing out to how it's going to be while I'm on them. This is why I'm reluctant to try meds again, but my OH switched over without a hitch. We're all different and you'll know how your body reacts and when you feel the time is right to change if that's what you want :)

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