1. Men who view porn in a committed relationship or married.

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    pusseypleaser [sign in to see picture]
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    I only gave my opinion not tell others what they should do or believe

    sexynurse09 wrote:

    Wow i've missed alot here!

    Telling someone they can't masturbate or have fantasies....I just can't understand this at all! Nobody has a right to deny someone that if thats what they want to do. Everyone has fantasies, whether their partner likes it or not, whether they tell you about it or not, they will have them - fact. Because we are all human and have needs.

    I'm actually quite worried PP, this is very unhealthy.

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    This is as alien to me as if J told me I couldn't take a dump any more, But thats MY opinion ;)

    Does seem a pretty unhealthy way of thinking though, Emotional Control being over exerted comes to mind...

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    Aimee wrote:

    This is such an interesting topic because there are so many different views on it.

    it actually popped up in my sociology lecture the other day. And one girl in my class said how disgusted she would be if she thought her OH was watching porn and would be mortified if she walked in and he had it on...and I had to stand up for all the guys out there in the world, and in class, they must have been shy, but i was so shocked at this girls reaction ( i realise some people do feel this way, but i cant personally understand it)

    I don't see how she could possibly be offended? how could she be jealous of someone her guy is never going to meet?...her statement was ''he obviously wouldn't love me if he needed that'' and thats where i jumped in! lol! My OH might not like that fact that he popped up in my sociology lecture concerning sexy stuff lol..but, i said that My oh loves me to bits, he watches porn, heck ill send him a video or picture i'll think he would like..and she got really upset when i mentioned that Her guy has seen her naked like ten million times, in every position...do you think his mind doesn't wander! ...and she said it shouldn't because he loves her! talk about giving the poor guy a break!

    Needless to say she didnt agree with me, and couldnt understand how i thought it was perfectly acceptable. I explained that im currently long distance with my guy, and that the poor dap needs a lil porn when im not around for cam, and pictures of me? all the time? bloody hell id get bord taking them! Let his mind wander, I'd only worry if he was watching himself with another girl or if he never thought of or used me ever.

    So bottom line, Porn is healthy, It's good for you, gives your imagination a chance to work.

    I agree with almost all of what you said, except this. Porn is often for the lazy!

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    For me, most porn is bad. It does precisely zero for me, and often makes me feel uncomfortable. The good kind of porn (not too violent, not too fake, not too weird) should be aesthetically pleasing. It should be rewarding to look at regardless of its sexual content. When I see porn I like, I get turned on physically. I find very little happens mentally, and I have a very limited fantasy life, so it's a visual / physical thing only. That's it. Then, often, I will masturbate, but again, it's a physical thing. me and my body, doing whatever feels right. I don't fantasise when doing it, and I don't think about anyone else during sex either. That's just not the way I'm wired.

    Mrs M says she "understands" that I feel the need to look at porn, but that in itself tells me that she doesn't really understand how I see it, despite me trying to explain. She has her own stimulation in the form of erotic books, and she does use them to get off, which I've never had a problem with.

    A lot of people have made good points, but I'd like to offer an alternative view of the "masturbation instead of sex" debate. Sex is sex. Porn is porn. Wanking is wanking. If what you want to do is touch your partner, would you be satisfied having to DIY? Not really. So why, when the guy wants to touch himself, do people feel he has a duty to have sex with his partner instead? They're not the same thing. I agree, if he's always watching porn and not taking care of his partner that is a problem, but there is nothing wrong with him being in the mood for one and not the other. Maybe he's in the mood for both? Neither? It can happen. I'm told.

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