• Men who view porn in a committed relationship or married.

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    sweetcherry24 [sign in to see picture]
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    I dont mind my OH watching porn, But i prob watch more porn than him anyway. we do watch porn together aswell. but its normally me who suggests it.

    Masturbation and fantasies i wouldnt say is cheating, as your not doing anything sexual in reality with another person.

    All couples should share masturbation and fantasies. then there wouldnt be an issue.

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    suze9 [sign in to see picture]
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    There has only ever an issue with porn watching in our house when it replaced our regular sex life. We had got out of the habit after having our twins and OH was watching a lot of porn which upset me as having the twins had changed my body shape quite a bit and I was sure he didnt want me any more. It was all in my hormonal head and now I understand that as he has been watching porn for 22 years now he just views it as normal watching and Im ok about it and join him sometimes as long as the kids are either in bed or out of the house. I do not view porn viewing as cheating neither do I view masturbation as cheating as there is no physical contact with another person involved.

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    GHxx [sign in to see picture]
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    I think porn within any relationsip is fine and healthy as long as it doesn't become an addiction or take the 'loving' from the relationship as we all know porn isn't reality.

    I don't have any problem with my OH watching porn to wank to, I wouldn't mind watching it with him either and I watch it on my own when i'm horny but my imagination is lacking somewhat!!

    xGHx

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    toycar69 [sign in to see picture]
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    I watch a bit of porn, generally as an aid to masturbation. My Wifey doesn't know I do this (or at least she doesn't mention it) although she is aware I masturbate.

    The kind of stuff I generally watch is probably the things I would like to do with her in bed, but she doesn't want to do. I do admit though, when browsing through the categories I prefer, I often pick things to watch based on how attractive I find the "actress".

    The way I see it, is that it makes masturbation more enjoyable. If my Wifey would prefer me not to look at porn during masturbation, then she needs to open her boundaries a little and let me do more with her (and probably more frequently.

    But then, as I am able to at least partly satisfy my urges, I'm not going out looking for casual sex or paying for hookers.

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    pusseypleaser wrote:

    I belieev that a man or woman watching porn means that they are cheating on their partner as their passions and thoughts are on this other person and not their partner.

    See, I don't like this line of reasoning.

    To me it implies ownership over someone's sexuality. I prefer to look at the sexuality of my partner as a gift she shares with me and if she wanted to, could revoke from me.

    The difference between porn and cheating is that one is an object, are fantasies of Cheryl Cole cheating in your head? I feel cheating infringes upon the respect I have for someone if another person is treated in that way as most of us have signed up for exclusivity deals!

    If you see sexuality as a gift then you let who ever do what ever with themselves, after all it is theirs, and only have issues when it disrespects you as a person.

    Of course not everyone has this outlook which is why some people don't see porn as the same.

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    I think every relationship has its own boundaries, this is why if you can't communicate and tak about sex, you shouldn't be having sex with that person.

    Porn is something I enjoy in a relationship, same to with masturbation but I know that coud be different for other people.

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    My fella watches porn, I encourage him to do so, he will watch it with me or alone, doesn't matter. I watch it without him if i'm in the mood, I really don't see an issue.

    Sexuality is complex, if you can find someone that you can honestly say fulfills ALL your sexual needs and desires, then you're very lucky. I love my partner to bits, and we are very compatable sexually, but he can never fullfill ALL my needs, just as I can never fullfill his. That's where we both enjoy our 'extras', porn, swinginng clubs, toys, erotica....as long as nothing is done in secret, there is no problem!

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    The relationship I'm in at the moment is a little tricky and I cant be with my man all the time. We do a lot of MSN chatting and webcamming, and sometimes we both watch the same internet porn at the same time whilst chatting!

    Complicated, but we feel like we;re together!

    I often watch porn alone too, but then so does he!

    We're both highly sexed and like the added excitement that porn brings to our solo play!

    Never watched together though.

    Yet!

    There's always a first time!

    xx

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    sexynurse09 [sign in to see picture]
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    Well when you do watch it together if your anything like us you won't finish it!

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    Itakes weeks to see the end of a dvd xx

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    pusseypleaser [sign in to see picture]
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    Yes I do

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    pusseypleaser [sign in to see picture]
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    CurlyCoupleWife wrote

    Yes I do

    pusseypleaser wrote:

    I belieev that a man or woman watching porn means that they are cheating on their partner as their passions and thoughts are on this other person and not their partner.

    I can see where you're coming from but I disagree. I think if someone has agreed not to use porn then does, they're betraying their partner's trust.

    However the majority of the time I would say that people don't invest their thought or passion into porn - no more than viewing nudes in an art gallery - it's just something pleasant & titillating to look at.

    My husband & I watch porn together & apart from one another & neither of us feel cheated by it.

    Out of interest, do you view masturbation or fantasies as cheating too?

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    WandA [sign in to see picture]
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    Masturbation as cheating? I find that pretty extreme.

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    CurlyCoupleWife [sign in to see picture]
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    WandA wrote:

    Masturbation as cheating? I find that pretty extreme.

    me too but every relationship works differently - whilst I think it would be quite detrimental to my relationship with CC if we banned masturbation, porn & fantasising, if PusseyPleaser & his wife find that it works for them, then fair play to them.

    Some of my friends when I was younger took the same view on porn & masturbation because knowing their oh masturbated made them feel that they weren't providing their lover with "good enough" sex. And they found that porn made them feel insecure about their bodies. I'm very lucky that neither of us feel these insecurities.

    Of course there could be 101 other reasons for PP's viewpoints, these are just the ones I'm familiar with.

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    CurlyCoupleWife wrote:

    WandA wrote:

    Masturbation as cheating? I find that pretty extreme.

    me too but every relationship works differently - whilst I think it would be quite detrimental to my relationship with CC if we banned masturbation, porn & fantasising, if PusseyPleaser & his wife find that it works for them, then fair play to them.

    Some of my friends when I was younger took the same view on porn & masturbation because knowing their oh masturbated made them feel that they weren't providing their lover with "good enough" sex. And they found that porn made them feel insecure about their bodies. I'm very lucky that neither of us feel these insecurities.

    Of course there could be 101 other reasons for PP's viewpoints, these are just the ones I'm familiar with.

    I do agree that if it works then great however I think it's more likely to lead to deceit, resentment, guilt etc...

    I don't think it's healthy to have that control over someone elses sexuality. Just my view on it.

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    CurlyCoupleWife [sign in to see picture]
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    WandA wrote:

    I do agree that if it works then great however I think it's more likely to lead to deceit, resentment, guilt etc...

    I don't think it's healthy to have that control over someone elses sexuality. Just my view on it.

    I think if someone had told me they felt that masturbation was cheating I'd have to have a serious chat with them to try to work out why. I would try to put their mind at ease but if they couldn't see my way of thinking I think I'd have to tell them that "this is never going to work out".

    I could certainly live without porn but I wouldn't want someone to feel that they could prevent me from masturbating. That would be as perverse to me as someone saying "you can't scratch when you itch" or "don't sneeze, it offends me". What would the moral stance be if you woke up from a raunchy dream with your hands already between your legs? Have you cheated then? Or when you've had a brilliant session with your OH the night before & the thought of it makes you so turned on that you have to indulge yourself?

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    Alicia D'amore [sign in to see picture]
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    WandA wrote:

    Masturbation as cheating? I find that pretty extreme.

    Very - I couldn't remain in a relationship if someone believed that - as you said CCW - it's the fact that someone thinks they have the right to stop you doing something like that that is wrong, not necessarily the opinion they express.

    Personally, I like my freedom, as long as I'm keeping my partner happy, what does it matter if I like some alone time too!

    Having said this, I'm not really a porn watcher but that's just personal preference!

    Adx

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    sexytime [sign in to see picture]
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    I'm in a very committed relationship but we don't get to be together everyday, so I watch porn all the time when I'm not with her, and sometimes together! And I know that she watches porn whenever she masturbates too, and it doesn't bother either of us. It's only natural to want to see something sexual when you are being sexual, so surely watching porn in natural?

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    pusseypleaser [sign in to see picture]
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    Well it works for us. As we know everyone has there views

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    man of pleasure [sign in to see picture]
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    porn is great and we both watch it , i feel men get more of kinky thrill if their ladies have a naughty play with there it gives me a hard on thinking about it, just lately me girlfriend has got a new bullet and i naughty text her so she gets all horned up and uses it . it gets me so horny and she is still so wet its bed time the minute i get in.

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