1. Men who view porn in a committed relationship or married.

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    Ilovemyman [sign in to see picture]
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    We both enjoy porn, i have friends that are devestated when they find out there OH has been watching it but i don't have a problem with it at all (unless it's crap lol)

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    I know i agree.

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    marriedjones wrote:

    just have to make your own like me and my mrs do lol

    I don't mind watching through a mirror but i'm not keen on filming it, i would do it for my oh to watch but i wouldn't get off on it myself, i have a couple of clips of my oh that turn me on but it's not a full blown porn film

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    I don't mind either of us [and I know I do] watching porn clips, but I distinguish - and he knows this - between porn clips and cam shows. The latter became a bit of an issue for us at one time, in that he did watch these - and speak to [well type] the girls doing them. I informed him this crossed a line for me, and we came to an agreement that it was to cease. To the best of my knowledge it has.

    I dont have an issue with porn, but I do with cams because if you're talking to the person in question, it just feels waaaay too close to home.

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    I have the reverse problem, I get very snobby about their tastes: 'Oh, darling, professional porn is sooo last decade, it's all about the amateur Europeans now.'

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    If any mainstream porn haters are a little starved for some good stuff, Violet Blue has written an excellent guide to smart, hot, safe porn that women and couples seem to especially enjoy. She's a writer on the LoveHoney blog roll and many of her books are available here. Plus her site is fantastic.

    http://www.tinynibbles.com/smartporn

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    I agree with LF on this one, cam porn is definatley too close for comfort, i know when i was in a previous relationship, i was a bad girlfriend, and used to do webcam stuff with people, mainly watching, but still, my partner saw that as a real betrayal

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    Cam porn always looks a little sad to me, they never seem to be women enjoying themselves or ones who are especially educated in sex. I find it boring too. Obviously there must be exceptions but I like the fact that proper porn is legit. No guarantee the actors are happy but I know they're over age, safe and with the stuff I prefer, having a bloody good time.

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    I'm so with you TIgerlilies. I like it when they're clearly having an amazing time. I like kink.com because their ethos is so healthy and respectable, which is even more important with their extreme bdsm stuff.

    I'm very anti cam, particularly if it's a "real" person on the other end. In my book, that's cheating. Take note, Ashley Cole.

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    SweetSubmission wrote:

    I'm so with you TIgerlilies. I like it when they're clearly having an amazing time. I like kink.com because their ethos is so healthy and respectable, which is even more important with their extreme bdsm stuff.

    I'm very anti cam, particularly if it's a "real" person on the other end. In my book, that's cheating. Take note, Ashley Cole.

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    SweetSubmission, you read my mind, I was just thinking how strange it is that a culture that is percived by the mainstream as 'devian't is actually the most regulated and the most joyous. I'm not so into the material on Kink.com but I agree it is a brilliant and brilliantly site with a great feel to it.

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    And to everyone watching porn as a couple, remember, an orgasm shared is an orgasm doubled ;)

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    sounds like our tastes might be similar TigerLilies - some of the material on kink isn't quite to my liking either (although a fair amount is) but I feel safe with it, knowing that it's all above board. Can you make any recommendations for other sites with similar standards?

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    SweetSubmission wrote:

    sounds like our tastes might be similar TigerLilies - some of the material on kink isn't quite to my liking either (although a fair amount is) but I feel safe with it, knowing that it's all above board. Can you make any recommendations for other sites with similar standards?

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    Hmm aside from everything that's on the link I posted to Violet Blue's porn suggestions I'll have to have a think.

    I once watched an educational clip by Nina Hartley teaching some oral techniques, she was a scream. I love it when the actors look like they have a good sense of humour.

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    Thanks petal! Bobbi Starr's blowjob tutorial is gorgeous and really funny for the same reasons.

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    I have no problem with partners watching porn, it would be hypocrytical. as with others if it was a comitted relationship webcam shows would be off. at times ive struggled to do webcam shows for partners, but i think thats more cause it feels so impersonal to me.

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    http://www.edenfantasys.com/sexis/sex/couples-porn-0219101/

    Another persons take on it...

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    LivingFire wrote:

    I don't mind either of us [and I know I do] watching porn clips, but I distinguish - and he knows this - between porn clips and cam shows. The latter became a bit of an issue for us at one time, in that he did watch these - and speak to [well type] the girls doing them. I informed him this crossed a line for me, and we came to an agreement that it was to cease. To the best of my knowledge it has.

    I dont have an issue with porn, but I do with cams because if you're talking to the person in question, it just feels waaaay too close to home.

    Agreed - the minute there is either LIVE or two-way interaction it becomes a sex act rather than porn in my eyes. We too, have had an isue with this kind of thing. I think - and sincerely hope - we are over that now, but it has left some scars.

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    Same here, BBBJE. -_-

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    The interaction thing is an excellent point. I like that porn is made for the masses, not a two way conversation.

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    Miss Kitty wrote:

    This has been an issue in my relationship too, I worked in the adult industry though never did nude stuff or porn. However I knew girls that did and the horrible mess they often ended up in with drugs, STI's and abuse.... I'm sure not all end up so bad but one friend in the industry had a stalker turn up on her doorstep with a gun - her best friend took the bullet for her, fatally. And so I have seen the realities behind the harmless fun and fantasy.

    However this is irrelevant on the relationship scale. I objected to my partner using it because why should he be jacking off when I do not get the sex I want? I have a far higher libido than him - or any man I met - and for him to be humping a prostitute paid money for sexual acts in his mind while I go without was unreasonable to me. And so he stopped. He tried to sneak and lie - I caught him and punished him, he stopped.

    When sex is freely and constantly on offer (amazing sex, willing to try anything sex, and downright kinky sex with an ex model) why do they sneak off for their jollies then? satisfy themselves and leave their real life woman wanting and knowing they will be pissed if they find out he denied her for a wank over someone else? That I would like to know

    I have the opposite scenario - my OH has a much reduced drive at the moment (for the past couple of years) and so rather than struggle to contain myself I just say knackers and watch whatever porn I want!

    She has told me she doesn't really mind in the past and the situation calls for a method for me to get my jollies without cheating or otherwise creating more problems, I've always enjoyed the odd bit of porn so it seems natural to carry on with it.

    It's a bit of a sad situation but we are soldiering on! I hope I don't end up only able to respond to porn though - I'm sure that can't happen, can it? :-O

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