• OH seems disinterested in some toys and trying kinkier sex

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    We get on okay with condoms...helps desensitise him a bit. We went bareback when I was pregnant which was fun, but I prefer if it lasts longer 😅

    Not gonna go near hormones again!!

    Cazz had some rabbit cock rings. I tried to nab one but didn't get it unfortunately, though we have other rings. Like using them. Definitely makes him harder. A ring and a bullet are my fave toys for sex right now. Spot on every time 😃

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    Happy days. Im not keen on condoms at all. I find I can go as long as I need to in sex. I always make sure the OH orgasms first and then it's my turn!! Used to struggle to control when I cum but now I have mastered it. The soldier only cums on my demand. I love to satisfy a woman first before I even think of cumming and love to make her multiple orgasm. I intentionally stop myself from coming just so I can see her overload with pleasure!

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    Yeah, I think my OH might need some stamina training! I'm perfectly happy to help him though!

    wish he would use his Fleshlight more...they're not exactly cheap, and it's a waste of a good toy sitting in a drawer. I got him the Lady Lager one. Might suggest he uses it, while I get some solo time with a few of my toys and then maybe we can have another round later with just the two of us, after he's had time to reload.

    Your OH is a lucky lady. 😉

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    ;-) so is yours!!

    Have you tried a LH delay lube? It might help him?! Sounds to me like you just need one really long session full of everything sexy and adventurous. Maby tell him what to do. Just take control. I know exactly what I would tell him if I were you. I bet you could be very sexy and domineering! Also maby your just so sexy he can't stop himself. That's not a bad thing.

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    No, we've not tried the delay lube...I tried encouraging him to try the Performax Enhancing capsule, but he was like...er no.

    But I agree we definitely need a proper long hard session! Wouldn't mind being a domme, good idea.

    But what would you tell him if you were me???

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    Soo easy. After getting dressed very sexy which is not hard for you! I would grab him take him to bed lay down and tell him to lick my pussy and as he starts I would push his face into me and grind on him. Then I would tell him to let me taste my pussy on his lips. Next I lay him down push myself down on his face and suck his big hard cock and play with his balls. As I'm sucking his cock and playing with his balls I'd tell him I'm going to play with his ass with my fingers and he IS GOING TO LIKE it, tell him don't ask him. Now it tell him to lick the cum from my mouth and make him taste his own cock on my lips. Then I would get on my knees and tell him to fuck me hard and fast. Then make him taste his cock on my pussy again. Say something sexy like. You love the taste of cock on my pussy don't you! I tell him that if he cums early il make him lick the cum from my pussy and swallow it. Then I'd get on top and push him deep inside me and fuck him hard. Real hard. Whilst he plays with my tits and sucks my nipples. And the pleasure would go on and on and on. I'd teach him what a cock is really for!!

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    There is the start, that would be the first 30 mins of an hour session. I'd make his dick ache from being so hard!

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    That's a start because I know he is mild in the experimental area. But have a lot sexier ideas when we get him further on!

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    Some times if one partner is a little less confident they may need that little bit of guidance just to help get them get into the swing of things! ;-)

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    MrTsex wrote:

    Soo easy. After getting dressed very sexy which is not hard for you! I would grab him take him to bed lay down and tell him to lick my pussy and as he starts I would push his face into me and grind on him. Then I would tell him to let me taste my pussy on his lips. Next I lay him down push myself down on his face and suck his big hard cock and play with his balls. As I'm sucking his cock and playing with his balls I'd tell him I'm going to play with his ass with my fingers and he IS GOING TO LIKE it, tell him don't ask him. Now it tell him to lick the cum from my mouth and make him taste his own cock on my lips. Then I would get on my knees and tell him to fuck me hard and fast. Then make him taste his cock on my pussy again. Say something sexy like. You love the taste of cock on my pussy don't you! I tell him that if he cums early il make him lick the cum from my pussy and swallow it. Then I'd get on top and push him deep inside me and fuck him hard. Real hard. Whilst he plays with my tits and sucks my nipples. And the pleasure would go on and on and on. I'd teach him what a cock is really for!!

    OMG! Makes me wet just seeing what you typed. I wasn't expecting all the details you added. I like dirty talk and I say stuff to him like yeah, go harder and deeper, and give me your cum- I want all of it! Like the idea of getting him to eat my cream pie too, shit-hot!

    The nipple play is a must too. He really needs to give the boobs more attention! As for teaching, maybe I just have to get my headmistress attire on, and give him a detention. 😉

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    MrTsex wrote:

    That's a start because I know he is mild in the experimental area. But have a lot sexier ideas when we get him further on!

    I'm sure you do, you sexy guy!

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    I bet he just needs pulling along, pardon the pun!!

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    MrTsex wrote:

    Some times if one partner is a little less confident they may need that little bit of guidance just to help get them get into the swing of things! ;-)

    I think I also struggle with confidence at times, not just him. I don't know if the idea of domination (whether it be me or him being the submissive one) is a bit 'scary' for him, or like, if he doesn't understand why one partner would like being told what to do...

    He's not always forthcoming with answers these types of questions...

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    I think I was not too confident when I started out but now after a lot of experimenting I know what I want and what the OH wants. We just kind of give and take. I think that what you say in sex and how you say it makes a huge difference! Dunno if anyone else agrees?!

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    Luv bunny wrote:

    MrTsex wrote:

    Some times if one partner is a little less confident they may need that little bit of guidance just to help get them get into the swing of things! ;-)

    I think I also struggle with confidence at times, not just him. I don't know if the idea of domination (whether it be me or him being the submissive one) is a bit 'scary' for him, or like, if he doesn't understand why one partner would like being told what to do...

    He's not always forthcoming with answers these types of questions...

    You know what the best thing you will take from talking about this with him and experimenting with him is? You will get to know him so much more and hopefully he will really open up with you. :-)
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    I hope he does open up to me more...I don't want to scare him too much though, once trust is broken, it's kind of hard to regain it. So think some areas will require some degree of caution. Many thanks for the useful hints though. It's been fun swapping ideas!

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    I take it something happened with one of you then to break that trust! The thing with mistakes is we are weak at the time of the mistake but when we overcome the mistake we are stronger than ever before which provides a good foundation to build on and improve upon!

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    No, nothing has really happened to break any trust, though he's had my depression shit from years ago to deal with. I dont know if he blames himself at all, I certainly don't blame him and tell him that. But when someone close to you sees you literally fall apart at the seams I guess it will have lasting repercussions.

    I think he feels pretty stressed with his work at the moment. I try to get him to talk to me about it. Sometimes he does, and I try to give him empathy and suggest ways forward. My suggestions usually involve him talking to people though, and I think he finds that difficult. I think he doesn't like to 'rock the boat' so to speak, but it's learning to do it in a way that doesn't piss people off I guess.

    And I'm rambling again!

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    No your not. Where you have been on that front I'm just starting to get out of it. Well trying to. Even the strongest have their moments of fatigue. Somethimes you just get lost and loose who you are momentarily. Its not easy to climb back up and get yourself back and even then I think part of you goes forever. You say and do things without realising it. Its like an auto mode and suddenly your existing and not living. Its a tough cycle to break. :-(

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    What is helping you get through your black period?

    Interesting you say that part of you goes forever. I'm not sure if I feel like a part of me went when I recovered after my illness, but I seem to go from sometimes feeling really down, and hating myself and life to other times when I feel unbelievable happy. Yes there are feelings in the middle as well, like general contentment, or a desire to progress to the next goal, sometimes frustration, disappointment, sadness, anger, but I think there is always hope there as well.

    the difference between existing and living is a hard one to distinguish. Sometimes it can feel perfectly fine to just exist...at other times there's a real sense of ennui, like is this the fucking best I can get from this life?! I'm just a melting pot of loads of emotions really. But I'd rather that than the numbness that real depression casts over you. That feeling is awful.

    How does your experience affect your OH? Is she understanding? Does she step back and give you space you need (if you need it)?

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