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  1. Are vaginal and g-spot orgasms different?

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    AmyA wrote:

    I am pretty sure I know what your wife was experiencing and this happens fairly often with me, in fact last night I went rigid as you described for at least 30 seconds, to the point that I really wanted to continue thrusting the dildo I was using but couldn't get me body to co-operative with my brain at all. The reason i wanted to continue was because I find if I can continue to the point of squirting the release makes any pain go but it can be hard to get past the legs shaking, muscles tense point. I think if you can slow down the stimulation just before, longer, deeper, slower strokes that sometimes helps but it's something I am also working on so will follow this thread with interest.

    When using a dildo or vibe analy, I get that same problem of my arm stopping working as I start to orgasm, it gets very frustrating, As I know from the few times I have managed to keep going, and when someone has done it for me, that the orgasm lasts as long as there is stimulation, to the point of fainting.

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    LadySpider, AmyA, Alicia4Ever, thanks for replying. Okay let me summarise my understanding:

    So we need to relax and not worry about what type of orgasm, duly noted. I think that's more of an issue for me as I'm always looking to vary things to make it interesting. My Wife does prefer a clitoral orgasm, but I suspect she doesn't really care as long as she has an orgasm. That said she can also have nipplegasms, but she isn't so keen on them as she says they are weaker; it's one of the few times she will speak and ask me to stop stimulating her breats and nipples and move to her clitorus.

    It's reassuring to know that others have had similar "rigid" experiences during orgasm, but do you also feel it flicking in and out of pain ? I was concerned when my Wife told me this as that's the last thing I want to happen to her.

    I was working my fingers pretty hard against her G-spot as she seemed to be very "positive" to that. Thanks for the advice to slow down and take it easy. I suppose it may have been "excessive" stimulation, but we have no point of reference as my Wife has not really tried to give herself a G-spot orgasm (maybe a few times only) so doesn't really know how her body responds; lso I'm still inexperienced in giving G-spot orgasms.

    Thanks also for the advice on having a clitoral orgasm first before a G-spot orgasm. My only problem is that my Wife has not let me give her any subsequent orgasms, I've asked a number of times, indeed even begged, but it's usually been in the "heat of the moment". This "incident" may give me an opportunity outside the bedroom to discuss this option.

    One thing I forgot to mention is that last week she had her usual clitoral orgasm after around an hour's worth of foreplay and then we had PIV sex. For a change we did "doggy" style. Afterwards she said it had been uncomfortable as she felt like she wanted to pee and was busy holding it in. Do you think she is getting the strong urge to squirt and her "holding on" may have caused the "pain" at orgasm on Monday ? I'll try to broach that with her. I suspect the idea of squirting may not be that appealing to her anyway even if it does "release" the "pain", but it's worth discussing at least.

    The body releases nitric oxide (NO) in the nervous system to cause the orgasmic effect. It's also affects the nervous system and neurotransmission so I guess if the orgasm is very strong it may impact motor control and make the body or limbs "rigid". It's the biochemcial NO pathways that Viagra impacts to improve erections and orgasms. Can you tell I'm a PhD research chemist !

    It's really great having this forum to enable people to ask these type of questions.

    Thanks again for the help and advice, keep having delicious orgasms.

    MS@50

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    PS my Wife has never squirted during love making with me, and she has never mentioned that this has happened to her during masturbation, but then she is not good at opening up on talking about sex. Now I think about it one thing I have noted is that the hand towel in our en-suite seems to get washed very regularly and significantly more times than our shower towels on the rail next to it. I wonder if she has been squirting during masturbation and using the hand towel to avoid mess on the bed ? Not sure how to ask her that !

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    More Sexy at 50 wrote:

    LadySpider, AmyA, Alicia4Ever, thanks for replying. Okay let me summarise my understanding:

    So we need to relax and not worry about what type of orgasm, duly noted. I think that's more of an issue for me as I'm always looking to vary things to make it interesting. My Wife does prefer a clitoral orgasm, but I suspect she doesn't really care as long as she has an orgasm. That said she can also have nipplegasms, but she isn't so keen on them as she says they are weaker; it's one of the few times she will speak and ask me to stop stimulating her breats and nipples and move to her clitorus.

    It's reassuring to know that others have had similar "rigid" experiences during orgasm, but do you also feel it flicking in and out of pain ? I was concerned when my Wife told me this as that's the last thing I want to happen to her.

    I was working my fingers pretty hard against her G-spot as she seemed to be very "positive" to that. Thanks for the advice to slow down and take it easy. I suppose it may have been "excessive" stimulation, but we have no point of reference as my Wife has not really tried to give herself a G-spot orgasm (maybe a few times only) so doesn't really know how her body responds; lso I'm still inexperienced in giving G-spot orgasms.

    Thanks also for the advice on having a clitoral orgasm first before a G-spot orgasm. My only problem is that my Wife has not let me give her any subsequent orgasms, I've asked a number of times, indeed even begged, but it's usually been in the "heat of the moment". This "incident" may give me an opportunity outside the bedroom to discuss this option.

    One thing I forgot to mention is that last week she had her usual clitoral orgasm after around an hour's worth of foreplay and then we had PIV sex. For a change we did "doggy" style. Afterwards she said it had been uncomfortable as she felt like she wanted to pee and was busy holding it in. Do you think she is getting the strong urge to squirt and her "holding on" may have caused the "pain" at orgasm on Monday ? I'll try to broach that with her. I suspect the idea of squirting may not be that appealing to her anyway even if it does "release" the "pain", but it's worth discussing at least.

    The body releases nitric oxide (NO) in the nervous system to cause the orgasmic effect. It's also affects the nervous system and neurotransmission so I guess if the orgasm is very strong it may impact motor control and make the body or limbs "rigid". It's the biochemcial NO pathways that Viagra impacts to improve erections and orgasms. Can you tell I'm a PhD research chemist !

    It's really great having this forum to enable people to ask these type of questions.

    Thanks again for the help and advice, keep having delicious orgasms.

    MS@50

    Yes I would say that I have experienced that wavering between pain and pleasure, to me it feel almost like the toy is too big and blocking something trying to experience, which is why squirting relieves it. I wonder if it is just mastering that balance between relaxing into it and losing the sensation, maybe a slower buildup but it seems more about being able to know the right moment to let go. I may be completely off the mark though. This might sound a little odd but I seem to find it easier to have intense orgasms without pain when I am relaxed after a drink or two, it could be my body and mind not fighting each other so much or just the numbing effects of the alcohol!

    And yes it does sound likely that she could have been about to squirt during the doggy style and it does seem that when this is not happening for whatever reason it can feel sore.

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    Thanks Amy, I really do appreciate your help on this.

    MS@50

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