New to anal play - advice needed.....

metal_mike wrote:

I don't believe I ever said or insinuated that but ok.....

And the black death comment was an exaguration, an attempt at humor which I guess with this 'serious' issue is a no no

Ok, i didnt mean to cause offence i just think that on a thread for people who are new to anal play its important to keep health related things in perspective. There are probably numerous porn films where they go from anal to vaginal or oral and people assume its a safe thing to do and dont realise the risks. Even something non serious like a uti can be extremely painful but of course you never see that side of it in porn!

I can see the attraction though and why it turns some people on so i dont mean to put a complete downer on it and ultimately its up to the people involved to decide which holes they want and in what order!

Agree 100% and you didnt cause offence, it's cool dude :)

In Metal_mike's defense... People enjoy tossing salads and sticking tongues in the anus, so there would not be a ton of differnce in going anal to mouth. Not something we engage in but hey :) I think everyone agrees on the anal to vagina as a big no no though.

Hi. I too was worried about this initially especially if swapping. I found that making sure I was probably clean in my anus before hand helped, with doubling. This will also make you feel more comfortable to receive. And if I have had any issues a drinking a cup of cranberry normally sorts me out.

Also just thought I'd give you some tips for anal coz it took me a while too, first it to try it on your own, so you know your body and how to make it comfortable to receive him (I actually find that a slight pushing helps) also lots and lots of lube and take it slow. You have to be in the right mood and frame of mind too, get him to make you want it. I tend to hold a bullet on myself too so I get lots of different sensations. Good luck

I'm just starting out with some anal play and will certainly have a rule that once he goes in the back he's not to go anywhere else!

Wel that took an unexpected turn - but thanks all!!

Me and my other half always mix between anal to vaginal, vaginal to anal as well as anal to oral... I personally love it, and so does he. Maybe it's not everybody's cup of tea, but saying things like ''ew'' or ''yuck'' is definately disrespectful and you have no right to make others feel disgusted about what they like.

drurysl02 wrote:

Me and my other half always mix between anal to vaginal, vaginal to anal as well as anal to oral... I personally love it, and so does he. Maybe it's not everybody's cup of tea, but saying things like ''ew'' or ''yuck'' is definately disrespectful and you have no right to make others feel disgusted about what they like.

It's not something I enjoy but your right that people shouldn't be disrespectful to others preferences x

Who said ew? I said yuk as it was a automatic reaction to what the man said wasn't aimed anyone, and it isn't nice to me, freedom of speech and all that

Lovindailydiscipline wrote:

So as the title suggests my hubby and I are progressing well with our anal play and experimentation and it hopefully won't be long before I can accommodate him rather than a plug or other toy, so the ultimate prize for him is to start off with vaginal penetration but finish up in my butt.......the idea of this thrills us both but is it ok hygiene wise??? I'd never go the other way round .............

Back to OP and not the petty disagreements...

Vagina to butt is OK (it is AMAZING too!!!) And you are quite right not to go the other way due to hygiene. Great though anal is the risk of UTI's is quite high so I would also suggest that both of you have a wash, maybe a shower together, after especially if you plan to carry on. I have found the easiest position to take all of my man in (and he's not small!) is kneeling face down and bum up, knees together to my chest and back caved slightly in to raise my butt. He enters me slowly using LOADS of lube and each time he pushes forward I exhale and relax to accommodate him. The key really is to take it easy, use loads of lube and above all ENJOY!!!!

Whether you do anal to oral is a matter of personal choice and I won't offer my opinion.

drurysl02 wrote:

Me and my other half always mix between anal to vaginal, vaginal to anal as well as anal to oral... I personally love it, and so does he. Maybe it's not everybody's cup of tea, but saying things like ''ew'' or ''yuck'' is definately disrespectful and you have no right to make others feel disgusted about what they like.

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