1. Can fat people be attractive? (I'm a fat person)

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    sexyretired [sign in to see picture]
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    Sexiness is a frame of mind and nothing to do with size. I think my OH is sexy as hell and she doesn't think the same way. All she sees is a size 16 and a roll of fat around the stomach. When she is enjoying receiving foreplay by toys or tongue she forgets about size and just enjoys the moment.

    If you don't feel confident and sexy, just fake it till you make it, the same as anybody in a new situation. Talk confidently and pretty soon you will be confident. Same goes for feeling sexy, talk sexily (not dirtily), dress sexily and be somebody that interested people will want to be with. Basicily we are ALL shy in some areas of our life.

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    They really are a great set ;) xx

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    By God YESSS

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    Dickiebird [sign in to see picture]
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    Yes they can, speaking personally I prefer a lady with a nice pear of breasts and a shapely bottom. If we believe what the tv and magazines promote, then everyone should be thin and shapeless. Give me something to cuddle every day of the week.

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    It honestly wamrs my heart to read so many guys feel us larger ladies are sexy!! I honestly often feel so unattractive, and find myself trying to keep covered durning sex - keeping my PJ top on, pulling the duvet up to cover my belly ect. So thank you all who have said such possitive stuff!! I loves you all!!

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    Dickiebird [sign in to see picture]
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    It is ok LadySpider, I can tell from your posts you are a special lady. Don’t hide yourself away when having sex, just enjoy.

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    LadySpider wrote:

    I was always slim... a size 10 but with big boobies. Since my brain injury I have gone up to a size 22... put on 6 stone!

    I'll be honest with you, I rarely feel attractive nowadays - I know Mr. Spider finds fat women unattractive as he has told me so in the past, and he nags me to lose weight constantly (he says he worries about my health rather than disliking my fat though)

    My mobility is very poor so I can't exercise, plus the more I use my legs, the more spastic tremors I get.

    When I was slim, during sex he'd run his hands all over my body... but nowadays he rarely touches me other than my genitals and boobs.

    I know I look okay when we go out, I'm 52 and I'm often told I only look about 35 (I'm very punk, different colour hair most weeks and facial piercings and tatts) and I often get chatted up - it's THEN than Mr. Spider shows me proper attention and makes me feel attractive - but mostly only then. I feel, It's almost like he needs other peoples acceptance of my body to be able to see me as sexy anymore.

    Larger people are sexy and beautiful.... but we do need plenty of reassurance!

    Attitude turns me on more than appearance, bad hygiene is a massive turn off. A saucy, fun lady who likes a laugh is a massive turn on and a lady with these merits who uses a wheelchair would not turn me off in fact, positioning and working out fun ways for sexy fun would intrigue me.

    I don’t find ladies that are larger less attractive than ladies that are slimmer although if I’m totally honest I like a woman with a bit of tone and curves, i’m 6”2 so height is not an issue for me, I find some petite women attractive and some tall women attractive with everything in between. Super skinny people scare me a bit as they look breakable and a bit unhealthy.

    I hate the term fat and I think people that call others fat are poisonous, cowardly little shits, women experience the same prejudices for being tall, I was ginger as a child, got into fights nearly every day but women seem to love my hair now. It does leave dents in your confidence though.

    I have met women who are super attractive (all shapes and sizes) until they open their mouths and they become instantly fugly, body size doesn’t determine this.

    It really saddens me that being larger generally means being self conscious and unhappy, you shouldn’t need reassurance LadySpider, no one here should, you’re a beautiful sexy lady who makes me smile AND could own anyone here on Mariocarts and you need to remember that X

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    Thank you Dickiebird and MrPheebs for your kind words - Yes! I could own anyone on Toads Turn Pike and Warrio Stadium,MrPheebs....even ManChild can't beat me on those tracks! lol

    I suppose for most of us it can depend on the day... how sexy and attractive we feel, innit? I have to admit, I am a clown...like most chubbies I tend to hide behind humor, it's a bit of a mask, innit? I'm a mimic too... my favourite being Nessa (Gavin and Stacey) so I can always make people laugh, Mr Spider always says that's one of my sexiest attributes

    Anyway - New Year.... new me....gonna be more confident AND try and do more exercise, been looking at the 'armchair exercise plans' on You Tube so gonna put some BloodHound Gang on and burn some calories!

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    i can totally relate i was bullied at school because of my weight and didn't really know about calories and the affects on the body food has on you at the time so trying to take thing's into my own hands as a kid i starved myself everyday i would skip meals thinking it would help me loose weight how wrong was i plus i had massive boobs which stopped me joining in PE lessons due to the countless times my bra's broke snapped which made me over conscious and depressed and felt as if everyone was looking at me the sad part was i was on free school meals at the time and they changed the system so kids would have like a pre credited card for meals each day i was skipping meals for the the last 3 yrs at school not once were my parents noted that something was wrong with me i still struggle now as i have been through quiet a lot of things as a child i wouldn't wish on anyone i find i have to ignore that voice telling me im ugly unattractive and im lucky enough to have my hubby to reassure me with these thing's but it's still hard looking back i was such a pretty girl but just didn't know or see it only now being 26 i have become to start finding myself and loving myself  you'll get there i know it's easier said than done but don't put yourself down you are beautiful the way you are no matter size shape sex or color sending lot's of hug's to you all <3

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    LadySpider,

    I think it’s awful the way people say such horrible things.
    I love larger ladies, nice and curvy.

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    im a size 20-22 sometimes 24, mostly I find myself very unattractive but see so many beautiful girls of the same size.. I'm just not one of them.. I know how to take a reasonably good picture and can fake sexiness. Lol a lot is psychological, when you're told you're a certain thing for such a long time it's hard to believe anything else, mostly thoughts of not being worthy of love for being over weight and being unattractive, but that's just me,, I see beauty in everyone apart from myself,, I just fake confidence.

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    reany wrote:

    im a size 20-22 sometimes 24, mostly I find myself very unattractive but see so many beautiful girls of the same size.. I'm just not one of them.. I know how to take a reasonably good picture and can fake sexiness. Lol a lot is psychological, when you're told you're a certain thing for such a long time it's hard to believe anything else, mostly thoughts of not being worthy of love for being over weight and being unattractive, but that's just me,, I see beauty in everyone apart from myself,, I just fake confidence.

    I think looking at some of the confidence threads would help you . On one of them I have posted some ideas on how I overcame my confidence issues and there are plenty ideas from others. My Mrs is also going through some confidence issues( mainly body) of her own and I am trying to help her to overcome these.Its early days but she is beginning to look more cheerful when we go out . However there are those very jealous manipulative single women out there who will come up to her and try and say something nasty to undermine her confidence and to try and drive a wedge between us. . This happens usually when I am at the bar or visiting the Gents. I have advised her to just laugh them off as My Mrs has something that they want and its just an act of jealousy. This doesnt happen often but 3 times over a 12 month period is 3 times too many .

    Personally I am not keen on this thread as it does stigmatise people and can cause people to think negatively about themselves .

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    I hate the term fat. Is such a ugly word. Being a size 18 I've been put in this category. Yes I've got more body than some but doesn't make me any less sexy than a size 10. Beauty to me comes in all shapes and sizes. Beauty doesn't have a size.

    We are all different and beautiful in our own ways. And learning to love yourself and know your self worth is the way forwards. Perfect doesn't have label it's what you make it xxx

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    Well said Tazzy84red. I fully agree with your post.

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    Thank you mysteron,

    I agree about this thread as it did trigger me to think negatively,, I mostly fake it and I know online I can come across confident, in real life I'm a social awkward introvert, and body issues don't help, and doesn't help to have questions like this come up either to be honest.

    Will look out for threads on confidence and try to slip these ones, and that's great how you are supporting your wife with her confidence issues.. Sadly there are lots of bitter nasty people out there who try to bring people down,

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    Nothing wrong with a bigger woman, I married one.

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    reany wrote:

    Thank you mysteron,

    I agree about this thread as it did trigger me to think negatively,, I mostly fake it and I know online I can come across confident, in real life I'm a social awkward introvert, and body issues don't help, and doesn't help to have questions like this come up either to be honest.

    Will look out for threads on confidence and try to slip these ones, and that's great how you are supporting your wife with her confidence issues.. Sadly there are lots of bitter nasty people out there who try to bring people down,

    My Mrs gains a lot of inspiration from Ruth Langsford regarding jealous women. Ruths Oh as you may know is Eamonn Holmes .Ruth was quuoted as saying "A lot of women wish she was dead ".This is the same feeling my Mrs gets and this sort of behaviour has undermined her confidence.Ruths situation isn't much different than my Mrs'situation.The only difference that they operate and socialise in higher circles of people than us but the same principal applies to our situation. My Mrs confidence is getting stronger and she does now laugh the jealous jibes off and even rubs their faces in it by dancing dirty with me or giving me a snog and making sure that the jealous mares see it.

    As for yourself from our experience confidence can be slowly tackled by concentrating on your positives first of all and ignore the negative things that you don't like about yourself just for a while. This we think will increase your confidence and then start slowly turning the negatives one by one into positives.

    I was on the large side myself some time ago and never got a second look. So I had to overcome many confidence issues myself.

    But yes I will stand by my comments and think this thread should have been pulled some time ago as it just creates negativity IMO.

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