• Partner afraid of sex on couch - is it safe?

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    Hello everyone,

    My boyfriend has a fear of having sex or masturbation on the couch. He thinks that he might stretch or damage his pelvic floor muscles at the point of orgasm f we have sex sitting down because of my weight on top of him and also because his skin might get stuck to the leather on the couch causing things to stretch. I really wanted to try a position where he sits on the edge of the couch and then I could straddle him and control the motion but he says that could be very dangerous! Is this true?

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    Well Im not a doctor but my partner and I are still alive if that's any comfort.

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    I can understand why he mightn't want to do it on a leather sofa, maybe a sheet or towel might help.

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    It's completely safe.

    My ex and I always had sex on the sofa in loads of postions and he was fine.

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    Is your partner the same partner that asked if masturbating on a leather couch was safe?? Sounds very similar.
    Its perfectly safe, I think maybe its a bit of an overreaction unless of course it the only place you have sex maybe after years and years it may have an effect, I seriously doubt it though.

    x

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    having sex or masturbating on the sofa is no different to doing the same on a bed, the leather will stick to the skin as it would do normally when it gets hot and sticky but that's nothing draping a throw or flat sheet over the sofa wont cure.
    if orgasming while sat up really damaged the pelvic floor mine would be shot by now and i'd have no control over my bladder, as things stand i still have excellent control

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    Maybe he just loves his leather couch and doesn't want to scratch it.

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    He does seem similar, but no that's not my bf. So really he shouldn't have anything to worry about do you think?

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    not at all, especially if its only now and again. I have had sex on/in many a strange place but never worried about a couch xx

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    I've never ever heard of this before. We've had sex a ton of times on a sofa, and we've never had a problem. It's strange it's come up on the forum twice in the same month. I wonder if there's been a news article about it or something?!

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    Yes this could be very dangerous, he may love it so much he may never want to take you to bed again.

    Communication try and find out what he doesn't like about it. Try a reward for a deed style ie I want to try this if you let me I will kneel between your legs after and give you the BJ of your life.

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    We've got a leather sofa and have never had any problems. Agree with the advice about sitting on a towel though to save you from sticking .

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    Maybe he just really likes his sofa and doesn't want to stain or scratch it? You can attach a throw to the sofa and secure it if he's worried about the throw sliding around ;)

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    I dunno - couch related sex-deaths are on the rise....

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    Worst that's ever happened to me is a friction burn... So I reckon you're probably pretty safe from serious injury!

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    Leave his underpants on lol , and if he is sitting on the edge of the couch beware of cramp especially if his feet/legs are on the coffee table , this happened to me once ! Right up the back of my thigh owwwwww

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    I shouldn't see why that would be a problem.

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    I've posted a similar issue
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    I think he just worries that the muscles used during orgasm will get squashed or stuck or overstretched when he comes. It seems unlikely don't you think?

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