The safest way to protect yourself from STI’s when having sex is a condom. I prefer sex without a condom, it’s just better for me.
When ‘you’ get a new partner how do you make the transition from condomed sex to not condomed sex? When I started with my last last long term partner, over 12 years ago I told him I wanted the both of us to go for an STI test before I would agree to condom free sex.
Was I being overly cautious? Is that what other people do? I know you can’t see if somebody has many STI’s I just wondered what everybody else is up to in this area.