1. 4 Ways to Turn Yourself on Without Using Porn

    In the 21st century, pornography and erotica are never more than a Google search away.

    For as long as the internet has existed people have used it to find porn, and the availability and range of content means that online porn and erotica seem to be most people's preferred way of getting in the mood.

    But looking at porn isn't the only way to turn yourself on. There are lots of ways to get yourself excited without any need for your favourite adult website.

    Tumblr's ban on pornographic content at the end of 2018 got me thinking about some of these alternative ways to turn yourself on.

    Here are some of my suggestions for when you're on your own and ready to get a little raunchy...

    Sensory Deprivation: What Is It and How Can It Improve Sex?

    Normally when you’re having mind-blowing sex, you don’t want to miss a thing.

    The way your lover looks, the feel of their skin against yours, the naughty words they’re whispering into your ear.

    So why would you want to try sensory deprivation?

    While the term suggests you’re missing out on something, sensory deprivation during sex is actually more like taking part in a trade.

    By momentarily sacrificing one of your senses, you could end up having the raunchiest sex of your life.

    When I read the words 'sensory deprivation', I immediately think about those tanks of salt water you can pay to float in at spas and shopping centres (I can't help myself).

    But this isn't the kind of sensory deprivation we're talking about.

    Which is the Best Anal Toy for People with Vaginas?

    Lovehoney needed someone with a vagina to try a variety of anal toys, so being the selfless individual that I am, I volunteered. I know, I know, it’s a bit of bummer but don’t worry, it’s all behind me now.

    Jokes aside, I loved trying out these four new toys. Ok, they’re not ‘new’ per se, but all were new to me.

    I haven’t had much experience with anal play or anal sex. This isn’t because I don’t want to take part in this fantastic form of fornication, quite the contrary.

    I’m singing from the same hymn sheet as Community’s Troy Barnes.

    I’m just content to move at my own pace, and that’s ok. I’m not ashamed of my beginner’s bum. In a way, being an anal novice gave me the edge in this task.

    I approached everything from a fresh perspective, and I’ve now determined which of the following is the best anal toy for people with vaginas.

    How to Combine Sex and Mindfulness

    We’ve all had mindless sex at some point. I’m talking about the drift into mind-wandering that can happen during some of our greatest pleasures, consciously or subconsciously.

    From picturing your favourite porn scene or delectable fantasy, to dealing with anxiety ridden evaluations of our bodies or performance, to fearing contraception failure, or your neighbours overhearing through your paper thin walls.

    There are hundreds of opportunities for your mind to wander away from what’s happening in front of you, or to you.

    I’m pretty much a stranger to mindfulness.

    In fact, when trying to learn about what it was, I watched a video on x2 playback to take in the information more quickly. Ironic, huh?

    From what I’ve learnt, I think that mindfulness could be the answer to those mid-sex distractions.

    The thoughts will still appear, but rather than allowing them to absorb us completely, we can use mindfulness to bring us back into the zone to connect with ourselves, our sexual partner(s) and ultimately, experience more pleasure.

    How to Boost Your Sex Drive

    Do you enjoy having sex but find that you’re not often in the mood to initiate?

    Do you wish you could get aroused more easily or desire your partner more often?

    Put your seatbelts on because we’re going on a quick tour around the sex drive.

    Sex drive or libido is basically how much or often someone desires sexual activity. It varies from person to person and there’s no such thing as a “normal” sex drive because everyone is different!

    There’s nothing wrong with a lower sex drive as long as you’re happy, but if you decide you’d like to increase your sex drive there are a number of simple methods you can try.

    Here’s my list of the best lifestyle changes you can make to put that sex drive into overdrive.

    5 Things They Never Tell You About Anal Play

    Anal play is classified as any sexual activity involving the anus and is sometimes used to referred to sexual activities that incorporate the bum in general.

    Homosexuality was decriminalised throughout the UK by 1982, and anal sex between men and women was legalised in the UK in 1994.

    Ignorant and homophobic attitudes still exist, but many organisations and individuals are dedicated to fighting against them.

    So, there's no reason to shy away from the topic of anal sex, and there's no reason not to bust some major myths about booty action.

    Here are 5 things they never tell you about anal play.

    8 Things That Happen During Sex (That No One Tells You About)

    Sex is great.

    It can also be weird, gross, cringey – or all of those things combined.

    Don’t let a minor embarrassing moment ruin your sexytime, it happens to everyone at some point in their lives, and it’s not the end of the world.

    Laughing about it with your partner and moving on is the best way forward, and if you know what to expect, it can make laughing it off a little easier.

    Here are 8 things that can and will happen during sex which no one ever tells you about.

    5 Ways Lingerie Can Make You More Confident

    One of the biggest misconceptions that people have about lingerie is that you need a certain type of body for it.

    In the past, I was definitely guilty of thinking I needed to look like a Victoria’s Secret Angel to even think about rocking a corset or suspenders.

    But – newsflash – this is total B.S.

    It’s 2018, and time to stop believing that you can only wear sexy lingerie if you’re a certain size with no cellulite or stretch marks.

    Lingerie is for everyone, whatever your appearance or gender identity.

    In fact, wearing lingerie can make you more confident.

    ‘How?’ you ask.

    Well, here’s my roundup of the 5 ways that wearing lingerie can give you the confidence boost that you deserve both in the bedroom and outside of it.

    5 Reasons to Give Your Partner an Erotic Massage

    If you and your lover are stuck in a foreplay rut, an erotic massage is the perfect way to rocket yourselves out of it!

    Erotic massage, unlike a massage you'd get from your physiotherapist or beautician, is designed to achieve or enhance sexual arousal.

    One of the best things about erotic massages is that they can be whatever you choose to make them.

    Full-body or focused on one particular fun-zone, romantic or purely sensual, part of sexy role play – or just you two doing your thing.

    Don't think that you have to be a professional masseur to knock their socks off either.

    Here are 5 reasons to give your partner an erotic massage.

    7 Great Gifts for Your Kinky Friend

    I’ll happily buy a friend a coffee.

    I love treating my mates when we go to the cinema.

    I get way too excited about my besties’ birthdays.

    And if you’re my BFF4EVA, my ride or die, then I’ll have no qualms about giving you a sex toy.

    Nothing says ‘I know you really well and I only want the best for you’ than a gift that titillates.

    Here are 7 great gifts that my kinky friends can expect to receive in the future.

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