"What Do I Call My New Relationship In 2018?"
on 14 Nov 2018
Sometimes when you’re dating, there’s nothing worse than that, “What are we?” stage.
You find yourself thinking, “Are we dating? Are we seeing each other? Are we official?” and it can be a tough case to crack. Labelling your new relationship is something we all want (or need) to do but it comes as no surprise that a lot of the time, we don’t really know what we should be calling it.
Not only do we have that ever-so-helpful voice inside our heads telling us to get a wriggle on with it, we’re in the Facebook age now where the seriousness of our relationships is determined by the status we set on our social media profile.
However, if you’re not really sure what label you should be giving your new relationship in 2018, have a think about the stage you’re at first and take it from there. At first, it might seem clear as mud but once you’ve given it some thought, you’ll have it sussed.
Here are some helpful hints…
You're Friends With Benefits If...
You're totally casual and enjoy a healthy sex life. There's no real talk of it 'going anywhere'. In fact, you just enjoy each other's company, a few laughs and a bit of electricity between the sheets. Your personalities may not have brought you together, but your mutual love of no-strings, bloody good sex has.
You're Dating If...
You're going out on dates. This doesn't necessarily mean you're only dating the one person, you could be dating more than one person at any one time.
Dating essentially applies to the very early stages of any relationship, whether that lasts for 2 hours or 2 years. There are no real expectations, no plans to meet the parents, generally just fun plans and good conversation.
You're Seeing Each Other If...
You're dating one person. You're seeing each other if you're involved with someone, you've already gone through the whole dating stage by this point and things are getting a little more serious.
Don't get me wrong, you may not necessarily be exclusive with this person, but you're certainly interested in the possibility of it becoming 'something'.
You're Official If...
You've had 'the chat' or perhaps made a gesture of commitment to your potentially significant other. Yes, this could definitely take the form of changing your relationship status on Facebook or it could be deleting the dating apps, or even just saying out loud "do you want to be my boyfriend/girlfriend?".
It's official if you're both on the same page and ready and willing to give it a go – emotionally and physically.
Sometimes we just need to know where we are, to know where we want to go
What really matters is what's going on between you and your partner. I'm sure your best friend or your Mum is dying to know whether you're finally boyfriend and girlfriend, but does it really make a difference?
The important thing to do is to be absolutely clear about your level of commitment, which all comes through good communication.
For example, if you've had 'the chat' – formally or not – where you've agreed not to see other people, this in itself gives you the confidence that what perhaps began as casual sex on a Sunday followed by a takeaway pizza has now become something more.
Let's face it, it's not the label you're really looking for. It's the proof of commitment.
Relationships are about two people (or more if you're polyamorous, of course). Your friends, your family and everyone in between will have an opinion, and they'll want all the gory details.
However, sometimes you've got to remember whose opinion is the MOST important. In this case, it's yours... and of course the other person involved, whoever they may be.
So, in short, call your relationship whatever you want. The important thing is to make sure you're both on the same page... and happy.
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