Upgrade Your Sex Life [Part 2]

Upgrade Your Sex Life [Part 2]

by Lovehoney

on 3 Aug 2017

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Sex - we love it (obviously).

Whether you’re a novice between the sheets or a bona fide sexpert, there’s always room for improvement in the bedroom department.

Practice makes perfect, so we’ve put together this four part series that’ll help you go from zero to hanky panky hero.

2: Focus On Foreplay

You’ve probably heard plenty before about the importance of foreplay, but it really is integral to achieving a better sex life for everyone involved.

Master foreplay, and you’re well on your way to becoming a sex specialist.

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Find The Fun

The first step to first-class foreplay is treating it as much a part of sex as the ‘main event’. Find the fun in fooling around, and do what comes naturally.

Not only does foreplay help relax you, it will also aid natural lubrication to help sex go smoothly. You can also expect longer lovemaking sessions, enhanced stamina, stronger orgasms, and a better understanding of your partner both in and outside the bedroom. It’s a win-win situation.

Shopping List


It can be difficult to let yourself get swept away in the moment, we get it. But it’s time to stop making mental shopping lists when you’re getting it on.

Have you tried focusing on your partner’s breathing during sex? This will bring you back into the moment, and also help you be more attentive to what your partner likes and dislikes as their breathing pattern changes. Alternatively, blindfolds can help increase sensitivity and allow you to let go of your inhibitions.

However, if something’s not working for you, take the lead and switch it up - it’s a two (or more) player game.


Switch It Up

Although the '10 Ways to Drive Her Absolutely Bonkers in Bed'-style tips are great for some people, they aren't the be-all and end-all.

We believe you can never know enough about sex, so we offer you this tasty tidbit: what works for one person won't work for everyone. For some women, clitoral stimulation is not up their street - go for gold and find their G-Spot instead.

Some men might go wild for bum fun, but others would rather you stayed away from their backdoor, thank you very much.

Preferences change day-to-day, week-to-week, so it's up to you to find out what they're craving. Chat about it and then put it into action. You'll be keeping sex new and exciting every time.

Long story short: if you're skipping foreplay, you're missing more than half the fun. Good luck!

Keep your eyes peeled for next week's top tips to upgrade your sex life.

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Originally published on 3 Aug 2017. Updated on 5 Aug 2020