Top Tips for Sexual Satisfaction (if You're on the Small Side)
on 8 May 2019
From houses to bank accounts, and shoe collections to Mortal Kombat characters, we live in a society where we’re constantly bombarded with the message ‘bigger is better’.
And, while that may be true for a slice of cake, it’s just not always the case in other situations.
Take penis size, for example. We’re often told that a bigger penis means greater sexual satisfaction for all partners - but that’s just not true.
There’s no real correlation between sexual enjoyment and the size of your schlong, according to a 2015 study published in the British Journal of Urology.
But if you are someone who’s concerned about how you measure up, here’s our pick of the best positions, toys, and tools that can help to maximise your pleasure potential.
Have Your Pick of Positions
Doggie style is ideal for anyone with a smaller penis.
This is a simple-but-super-effective position that delivers deep penetration, which maximises sensation for both of you.
You can further modify doggie style by asking your partner to spread their knees wide apart. When your partner's knees are together, their butt cheeks are closer, which means they'll feel tighter, but you're not able to penetrate as deeply.
It's all a matter of what feels best for you and your partner!
As lots of people will attest, a smaller penis is ideal for anal play. It means a less extreme stretch and more comfort for the penetrated partner, but a snugger sensation for the penetrator.
Before launching into anal, make sure you ease into the position with lots of foreplay and lubricant. Use your fingers or small butt toys like butt plugs or anal beads as a 'warm up'.
Then, place a pillow underneath your partner to elevate them and work together to find the best angle for anal insertion.
Elevated Reverse Cowgirl
A simple twist on a classic position! The penetrating partner (A) lies on their back with a pillow under their hips. This elevation will heighten the penetration for the penetrated partner (B), who should straddle partner A while facing away from them.
You get a great view of your lover's booty, they enjoy riding you, and they can move around easily to find the most enjoyable angle – everyone's a winner!
Modified Missionary Position
Start with normal missionary position, with the penetrative partner (A) on top and in between the legs of the partner being penetrated (B). After a few thrusts, the penetrated partner should lower their legs down onto the bed or surface and the penetrative partner can position their knees either side of partner B's body.
This creates a tighter squeeze around the penis, and if partner B has a clitoris, there'll be pleasurable pressure there. This position makes sex feel better for everyone!
Similar to The Dancer position (left), the penetrated partner (B) lies down but with one leg straight out along the floor. The penetrative partner (A) kneels between partner B's legs, and partner B extends their other leg straight up so it rests on partner A's shoulder.
The penetrative partner can keep hold of that leg as they thrust in and out.
For added range of motion, have the receiving partner bend their leg and rest their foot on the other partner's chest.
Tips and Toys
Don't get so caught up in your penis that you forget to use your hands and tongue as well! Your fingers have a greater range of movement than your Johnson ever will, and oral sex is in a whole other pleasure league of its own (you can brush up on your oral sex skills here) - and this goes for people with any size of penis!
For those that want experience what it's like to wield a bigger sword, there are plenty of sex toys out there that are designed to do just that. While a cock ring won't supersize your penis as such, they could help you maintain a stronger erection for longer.
The BASICS Comfort Stretchy Cock Ring should be your first port of call if you're a novice interested in putting a ring on it.
Penis pumps work by drawing extra blood into your erection, increasing your length, girth and sensitivity. Check out the BASICS Textured Penis Pump if this sounds more like what you're after.
If a cock ring is too tame, and a penis pump sounds like a bit much, why not go for a penis extender or hollow-strap on? The Lovehoney Perfect Partner Unisex Hollow Strap-On and the 1 Extra Inch Penis Extender are the happy middle ground for anyone looking to add to their assets.
- 216 reviews
- "It fits well, delays ejaculation, is stretchy and really comfortable, so comfy in fact that you end up forgetting it's on there."
- 335 reviews
- " Boy oh boy, amazing to say the least. Although I was never concerned about my length I really got this to add some girth when erect. I got both from this penis pump."
- 8 reviews
- "The orgasms we both had from using this were unreal! Would definitely recommend to anyone wanting to try it!"
- 25 reviews
- "Definitely worth trying with your partner if you want to experiment with larger sizes - it's a good starting point. "
Remember these are all just suggestions - in reality, as long as sex isn't causing you or your partner pain or harm, you should feel confident enough to do anything you want to, whatever your size.
It sounds really cheesy, but confidence is the sexiest thing you can bring to the bedroom. So, be kind to your penis, no matter what size it is.
Audrey Andrews is a student blogger for Lovehoney. In her spare time she loves to do craft, but would not advise knitting your own condoms.
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