Things Everyone Should Know Before Buying A Sex Toy

by Lovehoney

on 1 Jan 2016

Whether it’s your first-time toy or your fifteenth, sometimes the sheer world of choice out there can make picking the perfect sex toy a little intimidating.

 Regardless of gender, many people can be overwhelmed with the volume of choice out there, and knowing how to narrow your search down can be tricky.

However, before you slip your selection into your basket (as it were), there are a few things that you should consider so that you know you’re picking the perfect plaything.

Above: Watch this video guide with Jess Wilde to find out the 7 things you must know before you shop.

1. Who's Using It?

Will this toy be for you, or a surprise for your lover? Are you planning to use it just on your own, or with a partner as well?

Considering who will be using the toy will have a big impact on your ultimate selection.

If you're picking a present for someone else, make sure that you're making a decision based on what you know they already enjoy, rather than something you want to see them using.

For example, if you know that your partner isn't a fan of anal play, but enjoys vibration sensations, steer clear of the butt plugs and go for the vibrating cock rings instead.

For toys that you can use with a partner, the easiest option is to choose something smaller that won't get in the way too much during sex, or even something that has a remote control that one of you can control the toy with while the other uses it.

  1. Lovehoney BASICS Mini Vibrator

    Lovehoney BASICS Mini Vibrator

    Perfect for first-time ladies.

  2. Lovehoney Reversible Double Stroker Intense Ticklers

    Lovehoney Reversible Double Stroker

    Ideal for first-time gents.

2. What Are You Looking to Get Out Of It?

Sure, you might know that you're after anal stimulation, but there's a world of difference between an njoy Pure Stainless Steel Butt Plug and the Smooth Latex Anal Power Jiggle Balls.

Similarly, if you know that you prefer clitoral stimulation, a 10-inch dildo is unlikely to hit the spots you need it to.

Think about what you're looking for, the kind of stimulation that you know works best for you, and don't be afraid to have a look through our expert guides and recommendations for a little extra information if you want to try something new.

  1. Lovehoney Erotic Rocket 10 Function Clitoral Vibrator

    Lovehoney Erotic Rocket Vibrator

    Great for clitoral stimulation.

  2. Lovehoney BASICS Beaded Anal Prober with Finger Loop

    Lovehoney BASICS Beaded Anal Prober

    A fantastic anal starter.

3. What Size It Is?

Obvious as it may seem, you'd be surprised at the number of people who don't really take size into consideration when it comes to picking their toy, especially when it comes to things like girth.

If it's your first time dabbling in sex toys, check the product dimensions, grab a tape measure, and see if you can find something in your house that measures roughly the same size so you easily picture the size.

If you're a vibration veteran, try comparing the toy you're considering with one of your existing toys to make sure that it measures up.

Always remember, too, that if you are sizing up, you should take everything slowly, and use loads of lube to keep play comfortable throughout.

  1. Lovehoney G-Slim G-Spot Vibrator

    Lovehoney G-Slim G-Spot Vibrator

    Slim yet satisfying.

  2. Lovehoney BASICS 7 Inch Realistic Dildo

    Lovehoney BASICS 7 Inch Dildo

    A chunky challenge.

4. What Is It Made Of?

Sometimes, it's easy to forget to check the material on the toy you're looking at beyond a cursory glance, but it can make the world of difference: not only to how you use it and the sensations it provides, but also to which lubricants you can use with it, and even how you can store it safely without damaging it.

For instance, though silicone is a softer and more luxurious material than ABS plastic, it can't be used with lubes that also contain silicone, so make sure your favourite lubricant is water-based.

Remember, too, that glass, steel, and ceramic toys are harder and have no give, which can make for easier insertion, but be a little full-on for first-timers. Check out our Guide to Sex Toy Materials for more information.

How Should It Be Stored?

Although all sex toy materials are rigorously tested to make sure that they're body-safe, different materials can react adversely to each other when left side-by-side.

Make sure that if you're picking a toy made of silicone, rubber, jelly plastic, or other reactive materials, you have a way of storing them so that they don't touch, whether it's a satin bag, a storage case, or even a handy sock.

For more information on safe toy storage, click here to see our guide.

  1. Lovehoney Lockable Sex Toy Case Large

    Lovehoney Lockable Sex Toy Case

    Lined with antibacterial material.

  2. Lovehoney Satin Drawstring Toy Bag Black

    Lovehoney Satin Drawstring Toy Bag Black

    Stop your toys touching (in style).

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Originally published on 1 Jan 2016. Updated on 5 Aug 2020